How long can I expect my friends to be there for me?
My very best, closest friend of five years, the one I called first when I lost him, the one that knows me like only he did, has replaced me with her new boyfriend. And I am devastated.
6 months ago she met a guy, a terrific guy and he makes her happy, which has made me happy. However, for the past four months, she has completely pulled herself out of our friendship. We used to text every day, now perhaps she will answer me once per week and our conversations have gotten superficial. She never checks in on me anymore. There has been a couple of incidents that truely broke my heart, and where I have felt like an afterthought or even felt that she doesn't think about me at all.
I sent her a long message explaining my feelings, that I miss her and don't want to loose her. She answered that she loves me, but that her circumstances and thus priorities have changed.
I feel so lonely and abandoned. I feel like I am losing the two most important people in my life at once, and I really can't handle it. I can't force her to be there for me, and I obviously don't want her to be my friend if she actually wishes she didn't have to bother with me.
The thing is, for a good while I haven't even brought up how I actually feel and the sadness, because we talk too rarely or too little time for me to be comfortable bringing it up. I could perhaps understand her better if I were not in the absolute depths of my life right now.
Is it too much to expect, that she would make an effort to be there for me now, even though she is madly in love and her life is going great? Even though my tragedy occured 8 months ago?
I still have an amazing sister and parents that are there for me. But I am so afraid that I will lose them too someday.