Upcoming date W potential 1st provider (again)
Okay here we go again. In 5 days i(23F) will have a date with a mid 30s guy.
Long story short, we met at work. Him as a client and me as a host/customer service provider, I've been there for 2 years and i believe 6 months in was when he saw me and decided to pursue me. I was still on probation so i would not take him seriously especially since in my line of work, because i meet so many clients every day, he wasn't the one complimenting me and asking for my number or socials. Dating clients is badly viewed at my job especially when i was not a permanent employee so i wasn't taking any risks.
Eventually he gave up but i would see him looking at me from afar. Fast forward recently say since the new year, he would come closer to interact with me but less intense then before. I could see in his eyes that he was still very interested in me. Now last week, i was free enough to have a deep talk with him and he told me more about himself and his family i guess. With him being friendly with my supervisor and other colleagues and them saying he was a good man(allegedly lol), I decided i could give him the chance he's been dying for. Since then we've been texting, he initially wanted to go on a date this weekend, but i was working and told him my only free day was next Wednesday.
This man has money, he could come and spend 10-15k at my job no problem. The only thing really is that he's not physically my type, he could be very handsome if he lost the weight but oh well let's not be picky now as long that the wallet is fat too.
Anyway, to prepare myself i watch some videos from lives of shera seven about dates, i took notes and everything. The only problem is that i feel like my situation don't really apply. Like when she said at the end of each dates i have to leave in a rush with my car, but i don't have a car. She said to act very mesmerized with him if he's someone i already know, but i feel like it's too late for me to switch up like that so suddenly. Going from being emotionally detach to acting like I'm in love💀
Honestly this guy i think I've got him jn my pockets, but still as it's my first time getting a provider, heck a potential boyfriend, I'm a bit nervous on how to ask him money. Especially after he mentioned(when he was poiring his heart out) that he came from the poorest neighborhood of his country to now being ceo of his own company after working so hard, yet since then friends or family he's known ask to borrow money and always assume that he has to pay their life expenses from groceries to whatever. But he said that giving money was not the problem, but it was that the people he's doing it for right now are not grateful and sometimes belittle his hardwork, which I'm thinking as long that I'm doing the contrary just like shera has instructed, i should be good.
Also idk if i did good but he asked me steak or seafood and i told him that i wasn't picky and he should impress me. I think he's gonna bring me to a very expensive place that he mentioned before talking about 400$ full course or som'. Idk, like how should i dress.. i could wear a cute dress but then have my dirty sneakers so he could be like "girl you need new shoes" but at the same time i don't wanna embarass myself. Oh! He also had told me few days ago that he would buy me earrings after he saw me borrowing my friends’, we'll see if he'll remember and follow up on that(idk if i should bring it up again to ask if i csn chose the model cuz I've been eyeing some jewelries). So i think either way, the "borrowed dress from friend" tactic will work perfectly on him.
Aaah idk, please give me your thoughts and advices. My goal is to eventually have a roaster🤭