r/SheraSeven

I’ve been thinking about this lately because Grimes doesn’t fit into the stereotype of what a rich man dates. And I kind of love it. Especially in these times when we all are told to fit a mold and be matcha soft life Pilates etc to get a rich man. Grimes kind of disproves that. I know they are long broken up but what do you guys think of the fact that Grimes dated the richest man on earth and never tried to fit herself into a sugar baby bimbo aesthetic? In interviews she can be seen with dirty fingernails. She also reportedly smells like a roll of nickels(says Azealia Banks). What do you think of the other bms like Ashley St Clair or Shivon? Any thoughts on this situation? It doesn’t necessarily have to be about looks but just the overall situation. I hope this topic is relevant since he is the richest man on earth (a trillionaire) and the girlfriends fascinate me.

I don't know if I remember this correctly, but I think there was an Egyptian girl on tiktok who made a huge list of the richest single men and wealthy families in her country because she wanted to marry rich. After she succeeded, she made the list public to help others!

Just a tip if you want to marry rich: you have to put in the work! With today's social media and the internet, it's probably not even that difficult to find the right people.👀💸

i'm 22 and i work at a clothing store. i have a coworkers that's maybe 40 who works there part time just for the discount. he makes ~$120k at his full time job. he claims that he's in a happy relationship with his girlfriend even starting to go to church together and visiting each others family grave sites and i've seen her before when they came in shopping.

my whole time working there i never got a flirty vibe from him. he acknowledged that im attractive but not like he was attracted to me. he started to take a liking to me i thought in a friendly way acting like im his best work friend. all of a sudden a week or two ago he asked me when was the last time i went on a date, i said it had been a minute, he was like "whattt that's hard to believe because you're such a nice girl. do men not approach you?". i kind of blew it off.

he then randomly told me this long story about how when he was about 30 he was sleeping with an older married rich woman who furnished his apartment,etc. he was even getting a bit in detail about the sexual parts. he eventually cut her off because she started to get controlling and want to go on trips with him and he didn't want them to get caught. i was just like "dang i would've just taken advantage of the situation. that's fun that you got that experience back in the day with her". i think he may have taken that as an invitation and that i might be okay supporting his "affair" with me if he's tricking on me which is not necessarily true because i'm not sleeping with nobody lmao.

i discovered we both like jewelry because he had on a bracelet that i want a version of (a jeweler made cartier juste un clou). he let me try it on then a couple days later he was like "you know i was almost thinking about getting you one" which i blew off because that's a big jump and also where is it then lol. recently i've been on the hunt for particular diamond earrings so ive been shopping around w jewelers and i mentioned it to him. he started talking to his cousin who's a jeweler to see if he can make them for me. i was obviously planning on buying them myself and was expecting him to send me his cousins number so i can speak with him. but he's been leading the whole thing only relaying the status to me so it's like are you gonna buy them for me?? 🤔

this whole time i couldn't be 100% sure if he was actually trying to flirt or if it was giving " i like you in a way because i have kids your age " but what confirmed it was yesterday. he came up to me and said "sometimes i look at you and in my mind i have to tell myself no" im like "😀 what you mean ". he said "well because i think you're a good looking lady". i was just like "haha you play too much". 🤨

i'm not really that interested in doing anything strange with him because i wouldn't want him to tell my manager and cost me my job. it's just retail but still. and i think my manager recruited me because he's attracted to me so i could def see him letting me go if he saw me doing something with another guy. also i don't know if this guy has enough money to go around for his girlfriend, kids (including a baby that's like 9 months old), AND me. he's not my ideal target. but if he's tryna get me some earrings i'll take it, save me a couple thousand.

I’m a 30-year-old Filipina. I met an amazing, kind man around March 2024. He’s 59 and had just gone through a divorce when we met, while I was also recovering from a heartbreaking breakup.

We instantly clicked and built a really strong friendship. Over time, I realized I was falling in love with him, and it seemed like he felt the same. We eventually made our relationship official in March 2025.

Because of our age gap, his recent divorce, and my own fear of fully committing, we’ve been taking things slowly. We don’t really have a grand plan for the future we’re just enjoying our relationship and seeing where it goes.

Before we officially became a couple, I knew he had been talking to several women on a dating app. He was very open about it, and honestly, it didn’t bother me because he was single at the time. Some of those conversations even turned into genuine friendships with people from different countries, including the Philippines.

However, there is one particular Filipina who has always stood out. Let’s call her “Sona.”
I noticed her name constantly appearing in his phone notifications, so I eventually asked him about her. He told me they had been online friends for about three years. She’s now 20 years old, they’ve never met in person (at least at that point), and he’d been helping her financially so she could continue her studies because she comes from a poor family in the province.

Since March 2025, we’ve basically been living together. I stay at his condo most of the time, although I regularly go back to my own house because I have pets that I can’t leave alone. I have my own key and key card to his condo, so I come and go whenever needed.
Then, in January 2026, something happened that really upset me.

I wanted to watch YouTube on the TV, but I noticed my account had been logged out. The account that was logged in was Sona’s YouTube account.
I immediately confronted him and asked why her account was on our TV. That’s when he admitted that she had come to Manila to visit relatives, wanted to meet him, and he met up with her and her relatives. They even went back to his condo and watched YouTube together with some of Sona’s relatives.

What hurt me wasn’t necessarily that he met her—it was that he never told me. He said everything happened very suddenly and that he simply forgot to mention it. I was angry, but eventually I let it go.
A few months later, around April, I was using his iPad, which was synced to his iPhone through iMessage. A notification popped up from Sona asking for her school allowance.

I saw that he sent her ₱12,000.

That already felt like a lot, so I checked his online transfer history. After adding everything up, I discovered he had transferred around ₱300,000 over just four months.

I was honestly speechless.

I confronted him and told him that ₱300,000 in four months is an enormous amount of money for someone’s school allowance, especially considering the cost of tuition in the Philippines.
What made it even harder for me emotionally was that I’ve never asked him for money.

I buy groceries for his condo because I want to contribute. Sometimes I even pay when we go out on dates. I’ve always wanted him to know that I’m with him because I genuinely love and care about him—not because of his money. There are already enough stereotypes here that Filipinas only date older British or foreign men (“afam”) for financial reasons, and I’ve always tried to prove that’s not who I am.
(And yes… before anyone asks, our relationship is great in every other aspect—even our intimate life surprised me in a good way!)

What frustrates me is feeling like this young woman is taking advantage of his kindness.

I explained to him that, unfortunately, there are people in the Philippines who build relationships with foreigners mainly for financial support, and I was worried she might be doing exactly that.
He insisted that Sona is genuine, but after I showed him information about tuition fees and estimated education costs, he admitted that the numbers didn’t add up. Apparently, she had been receiving ₱12,000 every week—almost ₱50,000 a month, which is actually more than my own monthly salary. I honestly found that shocking.

To his credit, he did speak with her about it.
After that conversation, I noticed the transfers became smaller around May. However, I recently checked again and saw that he still sent her ₱50,000 in June.
So now I’m conflicted.

Part of me appreciates that he listened to my concerns and reduced the amount. But another part of me feels uncomfortable that he’s still sending her significant amounts of money.

For additional context, he’s financially very comfortable. He owns a successful trucking business along with several other businesses, so the money itself isn’t hurting him financially.
I’m curious to hear especially from European men, particularly those who have dated Filipinas or have experience with cross-cultural relationships.

Would you consider this normal generosity toward a long-time online friend? Or would this be considered crossing a boundary once you’re already in a committed relationship?

Am I overreacting? Hayyy i feel sad about this.

Hi,

I'm very curious about something. How do German couples share expenses? And is it bad seen if a woman wants to invite their man to eat in a restaurant or buy them something?

I have a friend (non German) he's married to a German woman, he's told me that his wife and he have arranged that he pays the rent of the house and she buys all the food and all needed for the house (for example cleaning products).

He told me when they go on the weekend to buy food, and she pays he feels like everyone is watching. I personally think he's overreacting because nowadays it's very normal that women want to contribute and feel useful too

Went on one date with a 55 year old man who was delusional enough to think I was going to keep going out with him for free. I’m 28, he’s my dad’s age.

He had no problem paying for everything which is fine. Honestly, the whole thing transpired smoothly because fast forward one week later, my HVAC system breaks down in the middle of a heat wave.

I asked him for $800 to help fix it. Mind you, I’m in the east coast so we’re in the middle of a heat wave. He then sends me photos of his mother in the hospital telling me that he cannot help me because of it.

Photos could have been real, but honestly I have a feeling it was an old photo from a long time ago. Still, at 55 years old you should have an extra $800 to throw at an emergency or to help your girlfriend out!

He came up with even more excuses after sending the photo, told me he didn’t have cashapp and then asked me if I can wait until next week. I said well the heat wave is happening now so no. I can not wait until next week. In fact I’ll just ask someone else for the money.

He said okay no problem and then he never texted me ever again. Before I asked for the money, he would text me every morning telling me how beautiful I am and how he can’t wait to see me again. LOL. Thank you Shera, for teaching us how to get rid of the trash faster so we don’t waste our time and youth on these male princesses 😂

I'm an Eastern European woman in my late 20s with EU citizenship, and I'm planning to move to Western Europe for a better quality of life.

Growing up, I was used to fairly traditional dating. Thanks to my parents, I've always been financially comfortable, and I've never really had to pay for dates or split everything equally.

After searching this subreddit for dating experiences in different European countries, I was honestly surprised. I knew dating culture in Western Europe was generally more egalitarian, but I didn't realize how uncommon it seems to be to find men who enjoy taking on a more traditional provider role.

From what I've read, it feels like Eastern European men are often more traditional but usually have lower incomes, while Western European men tend to earn more but prefer a 50/50 approach to dating and relationships. 😫

The countries I'm considering are France, Spain, Belgium/Luxembourg, and Ireland.

I'm not interested in Germany or the Scandinavian countries.

Ireland is probably my first choice since I already speak English.

And the UK isn't an option for me because of Brexit. 😔

Has anyone had experiences dating in these countries? Is there hope?

Okay here we go again. In 5 days i(23F) will have a date with a mid 30s guy.

Long story short, we met at work. Him as a client and me as a host/customer service provider, I've been there for 2 years and i believe 6 months in was when he saw me and decided to pursue me. I was still on probation so i would not take him seriously especially since in my line of work, because i meet so many clients every day, he wasn't the one complimenting me and asking for my number or socials. Dating clients is badly viewed at my job especially when i was not a permanent employee so i wasn't taking any risks.

Eventually he gave up but i would see him looking at me from afar. Fast forward recently say since the new year, he would come closer to interact with me but less intense then before. I could see in his eyes that he was still very interested in me. Now last week, i was free enough to have a deep talk with him and he told me more about himself and his family i guess. With him being friendly with my supervisor and other colleagues and them saying he was a good man(allegedly lol), I decided i could give him the chance he's been dying for. Since then we've been texting, he initially wanted to go on a date this weekend, but i was working and told him my only free day was next Wednesday.

This man has money, he could come and spend 10-15k at my job no problem. The only thing really is that he's not physically my type, he could be very handsome if he lost the weight but oh well let's not be picky now as long that the wallet is fat too.

Anyway, to prepare myself i watch some videos from lives of shera seven about dates, i took notes and everything. The only problem is that i feel like my situation don't really apply. Like when she said at the end of each dates i have to leave in a rush with my car, but i don't have a car. She said to act very mesmerized with him if he's someone i already know, but i feel like it's too late for me to switch up like that so suddenly. Going from being emotionally detach to acting like I'm in love💀

Honestly this guy i think I've got him jn my pockets, but still as it's my first time getting a provider, heck a potential boyfriend, I'm a bit nervous on how to ask him money. Especially after he mentioned(when he was poiring his heart out) that he came from the poorest neighborhood of his country to now being ceo of his own company after working so hard, yet since then friends or family he's known ask to borrow money and always assume that he has to pay their life expenses from groceries to whatever. But he said that giving money was not the problem, but it was that the people he's doing it for right now are not grateful and sometimes belittle his hardwork, which I'm thinking as long that I'm doing the contrary just like shera has instructed, i should be good.

Also idk if i did good but he asked me steak or seafood and i told him that i wasn't picky and he should impress me. I think he's gonna bring me to a very expensive place that he mentioned before talking about 400$ full course or som'. Idk, like how should i dress.. i could wear a cute dress but then have my dirty sneakers so he could be like "girl you need new shoes" but at the same time i don't wanna embarass myself. Oh! He also had told me few days ago that he would buy me earrings after he saw me borrowing my friends’, we'll see if he'll remember and follow up on that(idk if i should bring it up again to ask if i csn chose the model cuz I've been eyeing some jewelries). So i think either way, the "borrowed dress from friend" tactic will work perfectly on him.

Aaah idk, please give me your thoughts and advices. My goal is to eventually have a roaster🤭

Hi girls,

I would like to share my experience with y'all.

I got money from a guy i am dating when I told him I get turned on when he spends on and sends me money. He started doing that to get me turned on.

We have never had sex, and I don't plan on doing it with him cause i don't think he's providing enough.

My point is, men would do anything to sleep with you, but I don't think I really would sleep with someone like that.

If I'm sleeping with someone, I'd make sure he's taking care of me for me, not to sleep with me.

Also, would you consider dating a guy who's submissive in bed and worships you and enjoys being humiliated? Cause he's that type of submissive, and sends me money cause he enjoys feeling controlled.

I think I better run...

What do you think?

My provider seems like he is going to be broke.

1. I told him to find different ways to make money, but he said the economy is very bad and he can’t. (This is a third-world country and is literally on the edge of collapsing.)
2. He can’t afford the things I want, and he keeps future-faking.
3. He has a big business idea which is really nice and could earn him a lot of money, but because it is a broke, third-world country, customers likely won't buy it because every day everything is getting worse.
4. Today he confessed to point number 3 and told me he feels hopeless. I asked him, 'Now what should we do? Cry?' He told me, 'he doesn't know' 'If people protest, the system would change' I told him 'Nothing will change , everything will get even worse.'
5. Honestly, I feel like if he becomes homeless, he won't care at this point.

Now let's look at my situation:

1. My country is even worse than his. There are no workplaces and no providers. It is an extremely poor country; most people cannot even afford basic meals. Many women are sex workers, and foreign men come to my country to use women’s bodies. It is very miserable. I came to his country for some hope, and now my hope is dying.
2. I have no family, nobody, no money, no friends, and no home. I would probably have to be a sex worker which I really don't want to do, or I would have to work 12–14 hours with very little money that barely meets my basic needs.

Should I go back to my country, or should I stay, let him pay,(He pays for everything, I don't work ) wait? Honestly, I don't want to go back .I feel so hopeless.

Curious if any ladies actually keep this guy around? It'd never be worth it to me to get dolled up for a nice dinner with a man you see no long term/significant investment from, even at top restaurants, I don't care. A better version of this (esp in this economy) is Groceries Garry. I love this bc I'm set for a while vs. 1-2 nights.

It also could just be me since I've been to enough restaurants, & prefer to cook my own food so I know what's in it for my specific diet.

I have a great provider man who takes amazing care of me, is obsessed with me, loves to spend money on me and I love my life with him BUT he was a binge drinking problem. Drinks too much and makes a complete fool out of him and I when he does just by acting sloppy, will drive drunk if he’s alone, and the way he acts gives me major second hand embarrassment. What kind of flaws are okay to overlook? Is this worth addressing? Do we think he’s allowed to drink how he wants since he’s providing? Idk what to think I hate it

The topic just came up with a guy I was talking to and I found myself snapping at him "I don't believe in marriage or combining assets. and it's pointless combining assets, either he gifts it to you at the time or it's not yours"

Did I say the wrong thing? The idea of plotting to win a divorce settlement or even just the prospect of a marriage and divorce is so stressful to me! If he wants to provide he can do it now and not after he is dead!

Do you think working at a casino reception is a good opportunity to meet wealthy people, or is that just a myth? If you've worked at a casino or have experience with it, what was it like?

What are the best sob stories to use on these men?

So far I'm just saying that I've been replaced by AI and that I need to retrain.

Been seeing my provider for two months. He has been great so far. His card is on my apple wallet. He is paying off my debt. In his early 30s, 6’3 lol.
He is talking about going on our first vacation soon… I would like to be intimate with him in the next few months. But only when I am ready. The conversation has come up twice.

Where are some fun ideas for where we can go. I want to flirt with him, go shopping, maybe the spa and get lost in museums.
Paris is tooo hot in the summer. I thought about Edinburgh but I feel like our first trip should be Domestic.