u/Any_Percentage_6629

25yo dating a man thats 15 years older. I love to travel and he pays for my trips but he disrespected me last weekend. Called me self centred and close minded because I didn’t like his unseasoned food (harsh but simply put). He attempted to gaslight and manipulate me by telling me that I didn’t like the food because my friend said the food was bad and practically was being a dismissive asshole.
I told him that he either fixes his behaviour or Im going to end things with him, effective immediately because I’m not going to be around someone that dismisses me the way he did. I am am 100% willing to be single again💀 (I love being single) but I like his wallet. Tips and tricks?

I’m a Graphic Designer and Web Developer of 7 years. I have 2+ years of experience in a similar role as an assistant role at a B2B company, performing daily tasks such as managing client websites, creating social media ads, editing photos and videos, responding to and managing clients.
I’m also fluent in English (native) and based in Brasil. I have Payoneer, Wise, Revolute and banking systems in place to receive wire transfers.
I have my own system and fast internet: 16gb RAM, 500gb storage.
I’m open to short term or long term roles, $9+ per hour, part time or full time and my schedule is incredibly flexible.

A few weeks I asked for recommendations for my bf.

Long story-short, he’s a history and music lover that watched Les Miserables in theatre many years before we met and HATED IT!
So when he said that he’s open to trying musicals again, I asked you all what I should let him watch and many people recommended Chicago as a starter. On Friday we watched Chicago and on Saturday he asked for us to watch another musical so I put on Hairspray. He said that he really likes musicals now and wants to watch more. He liked how well hairspray introduced and addressed really sensitive topics.
We watched the movie musicals rather than stage theatre because I don’t think he’s ready for the stage productions just yet.

I’d really love to show him Hamilton but his native language isn’t English so I worry that the fast rapping and immaculate wordplay would be too difficult for him to understand. Now Im asking for more musical recommendations to keep him hooked. He’s Brasilian if that helps.

I’m not a small woman, my partner is simply a big guy. I’m 175cm/5’9 and my partner is 201cm/6’7 and during sex he likes to sometimes squeeze me under his body. He’d put his hands around the top of my head and press my face into his chest and I’d be completely under him. Admittedly, my least favorite thing about him is his size, I prefer men that are closer to my height, maybe 1-2 inches taller or shorter but he can’t change that about himself so it is what it is. I do find him covering my body to be a bit different and I’ve been looking for discussions or videos so I can relate to someone. He doesn’t do this all the time but he’s done it enough to the point that I’ve recognised that it’s something that he likes to do. Can anyone relate to this?

Im a self taught, freelance web developer and graphic designer and want to make more money while staying within my field. I work remotely and get to travel so I’d like to keep it that way. I especially love the humanities and social sciences (sociology, history, archeology) and being able to help people so I think that a BA in tech would allow me to maintain my flexibility across industries, work remotely and make enough money while contributing to communities. I know that this field is affected by AI and I know that the programming aspect is a bit difficult but this seems like the best option for myself. I am a pro at math (calculus) and I understand computers and basic coding (HTML and CSS language).

As a fellow black woman, what’s your experience and advice in this field?

P.s. I’m not American, I’m an immigrant of another country that has political ties with China, Russia, etc…and IT is not available for me to study as an immigrant. Computer Science is my best bet.

I don’t have the type of girlfriends that I can talk about this with so pretend to be my girlfriend. I’d love to hear your speculations.

I’ve been dating this guy for about a month. He posted a photo of me that he took, on his Instagram, tagged me and within an hour two of his exes and a spam account requested to follow me (my account is private). He posted me at 8pm and these accounts started trying to follow me by 9pm!! I checked his following and these accounts do not follow him. I asked him about it and he told me they were his two exes. He shared the story about his exes before: one he dated when he lived in a different city but they broke up when he moved for work and the other he broke up with because she was doing illegal stuff and he didn’t want to be involved. He did share some very crazy behaviors that one of the women were exhibiting like coming to the new city and showing up at his work and house uninvited. Now I’m trying to figure out how/why these women are so obsessed. Respectfully, he is the most basic ass white man. Normal job, normal car, normal life. He’s not rich but not broke. Not ugly but not the hottest and he’s pretty decent in bed. One of the women is a black woman and the other is indigenous Latina if that matters.

I’m dating him because he’s extremely generous and kind but respectfully, I cannot see a reason to want to stalk him and act this way. He’s the boring white boy archetype, quiet, rule follower, discount wine every Saturday, he reads history books and likes stamps.

When we met he had a big hatred for musicals because he was taken to see Les Miserables in the movie theatre and didn’t enjoy the experience. He said that he’d like to give musicals a try so I’m hunting for a good one.

He’s a into drumming, loves rock music and instrumentals, historian by profession (indigenous culture studies), a non/native English speaker and hates when musicals sing certain parts instead of just talking.

I’m thinking Chicago (short, simple plot and brilliantly composed) I’d honestly go straight to Hamilton but I don’t want to set the bar too high.

I’m a self taught graphic designer and web developer with a specialty in branding. I am still getting work amidst the AI epidemic but I would like to finally go to university and get my degree. I’m a creative at heart and work well across all mediums (from garment making, to visual art, to digital art and designs to product packaging).

I don’t want to study for a career that will continue to be affected by AI but I prefer to stay in the creative/technology industry. I also live in Brasil; a country that really values human art and expression. My considerations are: Marketing degree: but there’s many of that Computer science: but there’s AI Software development: but there’s AI Fashion school: but that’s too specific Communication desihn: this is exactly what I do but I don’t want to box myself more.

Additionally, I am a freelancer, I work remotely and I really really do not want that to change.

25F that did as much research before getting a credit card. I’m not from the US, I’m from a country with archaic laws, no consumer rights and high corruption so many large corporations would try to take advantage of that. I solo migrated last year and decided to get a credit card to help me to leave. The credit limit was 1000usd. I spent and paid it off with ease by the end of the month. Everything was going well until January when I made a payment on the card, tried to spend and my card got declined. I checked my bank account and my available limit was still 0$. I should have some available balance because I paid some of the amount. I called the bank and they told me that I owed them more than 1000usd because in December they had a promotion where they increased my limit to 300usd for a temporary time. I didn’t get any emails or calls or messages about this. The bank doesn’t even have an app so I got zero notifications. I now owed the bank 300usd extra. I got pushed into overdraft and had to pay an overdraft and late fee. I know where I messed up by not paying attention but this all felt so predatory. They knew that I wouldn’t be paying attention and they were taking advantage of the poor communication routes to do this. I felt so blind sided. Does this happen in developed countries? Is this normal?

Context: 25F that has dated older men. I have no issue with it because I’m the younger person but I am curious about how men feel about it. Do you seek out these younger relationships or did it just happen? Do you think about your age difference a lot? Are you insecure about your age? Do you feel more of a need to use money to keep their attention?

I bought some patterns during my early days of sewing but I’d have to alter them and figure them out to the point that I’ve given up and decided to learn how to draft my own. Most of the alterations were height and proportion because I am a bit taller and my proportions never fully match the size chart.

How often do purchased patterns fit well without issues or much alterations?

Sharing this story because I know other women would understand. There’s a historian that I have been going steady with for a little under a year. He’s a professor and researcher with an overwhelming amount of information about him and his work online. Most of which are around race studies and working with indigenous people. We go on small trips around the city while he does his professional work but last week he invited me to come with him to the rural indigenous communities, a 5 hour drive outside the city. It was a last minute invite.

My position is that I live alone in a foreign country, away from my family but I traveled a lot and have a lot of experience solo traveling. I agreed and joined him. We spent the day driving around and visiting sites and he’s telling me about the history of them. Then it became dark and we needed to find a place to stay. We’re in Latin America and my Spanish is intermediate. When he asked a native where the nearest stay was, the native said 33km away and stated the name of the next settlement. We started driving, I’m looking at the road signs and the clock; there’s no light, no network service and we were driving at 100km per hour for about 30 minutes. By my calculations, we should’ve arrived. We passed a few settlements and I stopped seeing signs that would lead to the area that the native told us about.

Then the conversation about the illegal stuff that we did came up. We both do humanitarian work and sometimes we bend the rules and break laws and policies to make things happen. He has an accent so I heard him say, “I help to traffic girls” and my heart dropped. What did you just say?!? My heart dropped to my ass and I start thinking strategy. But I stayed calm on the outside, kept my demeanor and responded, “omg tell me more” then he said he accepted money to carry drugs across state lines. The ‘drugs’ was marijiana — it’s illegal in this country.

Anyways, I’m writing this from my bedroom. We didn’t find the settlement that the native told us about but we did find a town a few km further and we stayed at the hotel. He also did visit the communities and carried his research as he said he would. But that one misunderstanding scared the living shit out of me, I can’t stop thinking about it. I was also holding his phone and legal documents when I heard what I heard.

Earlier this week I had an experience with my landlord that left a sour taste in my mouth. 25F Last year I moved to Brasil. I moved from a poor third world country with the goal of having a better life: affordable food and stability. I found a one bedroom apartment that was renting for 950rs. A bit expensive but it was a great location and very safe and pretty good space. The only quirk of the apartment was the leaking roof. It leaked badly in several places and I’d have to move my bed in the middle of the night if it rained. I spoke to the landlord about it and she sent someone to fix the roof for a total of 3-4 times. They fixed the roof but only one annoying leak above my bed remains.

My lease ended in May and though I was annoyed with the leaking roof, I wasn’t in a mental or financial position to move so I asked to renew the lease. The agreement was that I’ll accept the leak since it still wasn’t fixed after the repairs. We agreed to go to the office to renew and were conversing about the renewal at least a month in advance. Then when we got to the office, sitting at the desk, she tells me that the renewal cost is 150rs added to the current rent but she’ll give me a discount and will only increase by 60rs. My rent is now 1010rs. I immediately got on the phone with my lawyer. My lawyer said that it’s a contract and it’s legal and I have a right to say no. But my back was against the wall at that point. That was my last day on the lease. If I had said no, I’d have to find a new place, pack and move immediately. The new contract also added on a late payment penalty of 250rs per day after the agreed payment day. That made me feel disappointed because I have never been late during the entire year. The rent was due on the 1st and I’d pay on the 25-29th of the previous month.

I know that all of this is legal and well within right but the way it was done leaves a sour taste in my mouth. I don’t feel comfortable staying in this apartment for another duration. All of this could have been communicated to me before we went to the office, instead she chose to tell me all of this information at the last possible minute.

Gringa here with a work from home job. I’m in a smaller city in the north and because of my job, I don’t get to go out and socialize much so my Portuguese is terrible. I tried volunteering at the animal shelter but I showed up twice and nobody answered the phone. I also tried the hostels but they had nothing available for me. I’m thinking about getting a small side job so I can be around local speakers for a few hours a week but don’t have to heavily rely on the language skill to do the job. Something like washing dishes or packing supplies…

I’m from a small country of less than 1 million people. And there’s been a lot of limitations with credit card and receiving payments because of my country being blacklisted due to corruption. I turned to freelancing because it’s the only way I could easily move to a new country while having income. I tried fiver, behance, contra over the years and have never landed a client. All of my clients are from my tiny country but the economy is changing. My clients from my home country are feeling the squeeze from the economy and I’m getting less work. Yesterday a client told me that this will be my last month working with them, leaving me with one major paying client. If I lose this client, I’m cooked. I’ve been sending hundreds of applications and cold emails to prevent the worst case but have gotten nothing but rejections and no responses. I’ve tried Glassdoor, Indeed and LinkedIn. I don’t know what else to do. I’m being vulnerable right now. I have 7+ years of experience and a full portfolio website for graphic design and web development jobs. I need advice for what else to do.