r/TwoXSex

I’ve discovered that apparently the easiest way to completely destroy my girlfriend’s ability to think is to make her believe she knows what’s coming next. We’re both women and we’ve played around with edging before but recently I started making it more unpredictable instead of just stopping and starting at obvious moments. The basic idea was that whenever I could tell she was getting really close, I’d make her tell me whether she thought I was going to let her finish this time. Obviously she caught on quickly and started assuming the answer was always going to be no. Which gave me an idea. I kept teasing her until she was convinced I was about to stop again. I’d slow down for a second, she’d immediately complain, then I’d continue like nothing happened. After doing that a few times, she had absolutely no idea what to expect anymore. At one point I was casually changing the setting on the little WhisperBullet we were using and she immediately went, “don’t you dare,” before I’d even done anything... that was when I realized I’d successfully gotten into her head. Eventually I told her that this time she could finish and she straight up didn’t believe me. She kept asking if I was messing with her and trying to hold herself back because she was convinced I was going to change my mind at the last second.

Watching your girlfriend desperately want permission and then become suspicious when you finally give it to her might be my new favorite thing. She eventually realized I was serious and completely lost it. Afterwards she told me the uncertainty was somehow even worse than just being told no because she couldn’t mentally prepare for when I was going to stop. Any other women who do this with their girlfriends find that the psychological part of edging ends up being way more fun than the actual edging?

Hi, 28 MtF agender "woman" here. Knew I was bisexual all my life, but never had any type of interaction with guys until after I started transitioning. 3 hookups, 1 situationship, and 1 fwb later, I'm wondering am I tasty or something? Every experience I've had, the guy is just really open mouthed, eating one or both of my lips, sometimes sucking on them too 🤢. It really takes me out of the whole experience. Hookups is whatever, but I've mentioned it to the guys I fucked more than once and how I prefer to be kissed and they say sure and then nothing changes. Am I too used to women??? What's going on here. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes. What's a girl gotta do to have a decent make out sesh 😭

Also state your age, if you don't mind.

Just trying to see where I fit in, because I think I'm going to have to break up with my boyfriend due to my general lack of interest in being touched.

EDIT: Just noticed the typo in my title; sorry, I can't change it.

This is embarrassing, but I can't figure out how to ride dick! I don't think I'm unfit. It's not that I'm tiring out, which seems to be the most common struggle, but rather that whatever I'm doing feels like absolutely nothing for both me and my partner. This is not about it only feeling good for me or him, it straight up feels like nothing for both of us.

If I put myself into a squat position (knees up, feet by his hips) I feel like I can't really move up-down or back-forth without leaning far back and resting my hands on his legs or something, which makes me feel ugly and anyway doesn't help make anything feel good. If my knees are down, I can bounce up-down but for some reason it just doesn't feel like anything for either of us? I've been told that scooting back-forth is supposed to feel good for me, but it also feels like nothing and feels harder to do if my hands are anywhere on him (I haven't tried using the headboard for support recently). Sometimes I've felt like whatever I'm doing is making the entire bed bounce while keeping us stuck together, which doesn't give the necessary friction to make things feel good? This is not a problem I've seen anyone else describe 😭

I've had these issues with multiple partners (different sizes, different levels of bed/couch firmness, etc) that I've had otherwise stellar sex with, so I know it's something I'm doing wrong. The most success I've had was on a firm couch, with my knees down and hands anchored to the back of the couch. I at least got to a point where my stamina became the blocker, but even then, I think it felt just okay for him and he was humoring me because I've had so much trouble with it. I've done it a few times successfully(ish) over the years but I just feel like this is rocket science for me and I'm really in my head when doing it, so even on the off-chance I get the mechanics down, I'm too focused to enjoy it.

I also get anxious because even when my partner (in the past with others too) is offering me to play around for a while and figure out what feels good, I feel stupid and useless after a minute and just ask him to fuck me upwards (still in cowgirl but he thrusts up). So I'd love advice on both what I could be physically wrong, as well as how I can let myself trust that he's okay with me sitting on it and doing some bullshit while I learn :') It's become a self-perpetuating problem because I don't feel sexy while trying to make it work (he's probably awkwardly waiting to feel something lol) so I don't feel motivated to learn.

Im 27, Ive had sex and used toys before and ive gotten to points where i thought i came. I had the over stimulation after and felt really good. But recently I’ve started dating someone new and we had sex, and when I came i literally had to lie down and take a few minutes to recover because I got sent into another world. Is it possible that that was my first real orgasm, or maybe it was just better and I’ve been a bit out of practise? I feel like I’m too old to have this confusion

I need recs. I’m trying to find a toy that feels right for me, not one with 20 settings I’ll never touch lol.

Personally, I’d rather have comfy positioning, easy cleanup, and buttons I can find without looking. Bonus points if I can adjust things to my mood instead of going from barely anything to absolutely not 😭 I’m trying to get off, not trouble shooting some devices lol

So, what toy actually checked those boxes for you, and what little detail made the difference? Help a girl narrow it down before I buy another thing with cute packaging😂

I'm in my mid 20s and completely inexperienced. I had a lot of trauma in the past that I spent all these years getting over and I wanna try dating now. But I feel like the weight of never having any of my firsts (not even a kiss) is hanging over me and I just want to get over it. I definitely want to fall in love and find someone and ideally I'd have them with someone I actually like. But I don't think that's happening any time soon. I don't assign any special weigh to sex and I don't mind hooking up with a stranger. I'm thinking of inviting over a guy (or girl) just to have all my firsts with them and get it out of the way. Is this the worst idea ever or should I go for it?

I like the idea of sex and want to explore more as I’m still young, but I just get very squeamish at the thought and bored during intercourse.

It's like I don't have much feeling down there and I just feel a weird uncomfortable sensation when anyone touches my clit or penetrates me. I can feel pleasure if I use a vibrator on myself, but not if someone else uses one on me. I have better sensations in my nipples than down below, which I think is weird. Been sexually active for a few years now. I still have sex to make my partner happy, but I feel like I don't get much out of it myself. Performing oral on a partner is my favorite part of sex and the only part I really enjoy. Does anyone else have this experience? Were you able to find a fix and start to feel pleasure?

Hello! 27F here. I just impulsively got a small bullet vibrator and of course I got a water based lub. It’s just I’m still haven’t had sex in my life and I want to give using toys a try. Do you have any tips I can know?
Thanks in advance 🫶🏼