r/TwoXSex

Either going out around home or travel with work like c ok conferences?

Do you find guys still approach you?

I know that life is not porn, but I am endlessly peeved by the fact that I’ve only been able to deep-throat my man in certain positions, mainly ones in which I have the complete control of the angle.

I really enjoy being face-fucked and the idea of laying on my back and him going at it is really appealing, but he just can’t get it past my throat then. I tried tilting my head in various ways, opening my jaw and sort of mimicking yawning to open up my throat at much as I can, but still nothing works. He’s about 2 inches in diameter, I am well aware that it’s a lot and I’m not a boa constrictor, but some porn actresses make it look so easy and I just want to know if there are some tricks I can learn to accommodate this whole lot of man. We even played with smaller dildos with me laying on my back and they go in without an issue, so I really feel like it’s the girth and stiffness (the silicone dildos are a bit softer).

Any tips?

Bought a clit vibrator like a month ago, and I always used it by myself.. I just had this belief that i shouldnt use a vibrator if im with my partner, only for solo play idk.

Last week my partner and i were doing the yummy yummy, and she grabbed my toy from the nightstand and started using the suction part on my clit. She knew I had it and wanted to see what it makes me feel and the feeling was so f intense i came in like 5 seconds after she positioned the toy properly on my clit.

Another time, she switched to the tapping end and it felt different. The suction was more direct and made me orgasm faster. But the tapping was slower but kinda deep(?). Every time I got close, she would stop, then continue when I begged her to... I felt full, inside and outside.. and when i noticed she was so wet from the session i came so haaaard.

We’ve used this toy kinda every day, and now I kind of don’t want to go back to just PIV (its actually fingering, idk how to call it properly). I thought toys might make it less intimate originally but its definitely not that, it kinda makes us feel closer to each other, like we are exploring our bodies.

She enjoys it a lot and that makes me feel happy. I was worried hurting her ego, like "why use toys if you have me" or "im not good enough you need toys" but she said she has been wanting it for a while

Do other couples do this? I wanted to know if its common with heterosexual couples... My gf is pretty chill about it, but i think its more common in lesbian relationships

My bf (49m) is 15 years older than I am (36f) and we've been together for 2 years. He's the first man I've dated who doesn't ask for bj's. He doesn't dry beg for them. He doesn't pressure me into giving them. When I go down on him he doesn't put his hand on my head or push it down or try to shove himself into my throat.

When I go down on him after a while he gets twitchy and then tells me I'm making him feel like he's going to pee. Like my mouth gives him the peeing sensation so he never comes. Anybody know whats going on or experienced the same?

I treated myself to a tiny little massager and some water based… jelly and brought it with me on my little solo staycation. I’m usually very vanilla when it comes to this, and used my fingers only up until this point. I was bored and took this out to explore.

Holy moly guys, it was the best journey and (out)come of my life 😂 And I’m 30 years old. Idk why i waited so long to try this out.

Ever since getting out of my last relationship of six years (my ex mans was very good at his job 🥲) I haven’t really found a way to feel sexy myself and do stuff for me.

Anyway. So. I’m here just to vent and tell you out how good it was, and if you have any other recommendations on how I can be feeling myself more at this ripe old age? Any specific shapes, wand styles, props, ambience suggestions if you will, that would help me try and explore this new awakening? Jokes aside, thanks in advance for anyone who bothers reading to the end and wants to help a girl out.

title sort of says it all.

(f20) i’ve recently been so horny, (ovulation…..) that it’s uncomfortable. and it does not stop from masturbation. it’s like i need to have sex, otherwise i feel so uncomfortable i can’t sleep or eat anything. the past few nights i’ve been laying down crying because i can’t do anything about it.

i don’t know if this is normal. i assume so probably. what am i even supposed to do? i’m married, but my husband hasn’t been able to keep up with me at all, and i don’t want to bother him or make him uncomfortable by asking so much, because he’s already expressed that it irritates him and makes him extremely uncomfortable if i do ask too much. (because apparently twice within four hours is too much, i guess.)

i’ve tried supplements that definitely didn’t do anything that my doctor suggested, i can’t take (hormonal) birth control due to allergies and money, and i can’t go back to my doctor also due to money. also no, i’m not pregnant.

i literally do not know what to do. it’s so uncomfortable it’s debilitating me. like i said, i’ve tried masturbating in many, many different ways. nothing helps.

i hope this is the right subreddit for this. if anyone else has any advice i’ll take it. thank you in advance!

hey i'm (18F), i thought i'm a soundgazm person, i tried to listen to instructive spicy asmr, i didn't feel anything i didn't get wet when i played with my nipples it didn't do anything to make me actually horny or wet, but they were hard also my clit

idk what to do, sometimes i read spicy novel i get horny only after finishing reading the spicy scene and i start to think about it/ fantasies it, i might get ali worked up while reading tho but not enough to be horny

is this normal? is this kind of sexual coldness?

did that happen bc i used to consume alot of spicy content and get so horny but i suppress it instead?

or am i doing something wrong? should i try and consume the old content again? watch porn before i touch myself? trying to fantasies more while doing this?

not to mention when i try to fantasies, instead of feeling the arousal in my vigina i feel more like of i want to pee

My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about 6 months and our sex life is pretty good (we are both each other’s firsts). We’ve always used condoms, and I’ve been on the pill for years as well. However, we’ve been thinking about trying to not use condoms and he pulls out early (obviously I’m still on the pill). How safe is this method? I’m pretty scared of getting pregnant and I have no problems with using condoms, I’m just worried it would make me too anxious about getting pregnant to enjoy it.

Have you ever just lay in bed and touch the area and not get anywhere

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There is something that has been on my mind for quite some time now, and it feels like it is time to get it off my chest. I have never shared this with anyone in my real life because of how people might react, but here it goes.

I am 18 year old virgin female, and I finally got the opportunity to explore myself sexually. It kinda scares me a lot but this has been occupying my mind a lot lately. To take some steam off, i sometimes flash myself to strangers. Get into situations where a complete stranger(s) gets to take a look at me. I get excited getting those stares or gettting them excited and then later think about it in the shower or bed alone and get off to it. It feels both terrifying and relieving to finally put these words down. Has anyone else ever felt this way, or am I alone in this?

Threesome : if your partner asked for it. Are you going to give it to them? Are you picking the 3rd or they are?

Hello! My boyfriend really wants me to finish while we are havugn sex but the way I normally orgasm is from rubbing like a blanket or something against my clit and nothing else works, I just can't figure out how to make it work​​

Hii, I'm turning 19 soon, and I've been wanting to start having sex with my boyfriend of 2 years, but I can't get anything inside my vagina without pain. :(

I don't know if its normal because im a virgin, but it's been like this since forever. I've never been able to insert a tampon, or a finger, or, like, anything without pain. Some days are better and I can get a finger in without any noticeable pain, but other days it hurts horribly like im being impaled, or nothing can physically even get inside because it feels too tight/tense.

I've been trying to practice inserting stuff, but no matter how aroused or lubricated I am, it hurts. The pain will linger too, and it kind of feels like my stomach is cramping.

I don't think I'm nervous or anything, most of the time I forget I can't insert anything so its not like I'm making myself anxious. And overall I dont have any other issues regarding my sexuality—I can orgasm and everything just fine.

I've been starting to feel really guilty and embarrassed about it recently though. I feel like my body isn't doing what it's supposed to as a woman (horrible sexist statement, I know—but I feel "broken")

I just really want to eventually have PIV, but I don't know if this is normal or not. Even if it is normal, I dont want to push through it because it would feel agonizing (trust, I've tried, and screamed in pain).

so yeah.. normal or not? what to do if not normal?

I hope this is okay to ask here, and please be kind. I’m 20F, not very sexually experienced, and my boyfriend is my first partner. I don’t really have any friends or anyone I can talk to or ask about this in real life.

I have a really hard time having orgasms, it's honestly pretty disappointing. It's never intense or strong… it just leaves me with a “that’s it?” feeling. Because it’s so underwhelming compared to how movies, books, and everyone else talks about it, I end up experiencing a massive drop in my emotions and feel incredibly sad afterward. And I can feel some pleasure, but it’s never strong or "earth-shattering." Side note: I suffer from severe depression, so I’m sure my mental health plays a huge part in this.

And because of my struggles, my boyfriend recently suggested anal stimulation (like using a finger during vaginal sex). He isn't pressuring me at all, but he keeps hyping it up. He says that women feel way more pleasure from it, that vaginal + anal combined is the "ultimate experience," and that there is basically nothing better.

The problem is, anal is a hard limit for me. It is completely off the table. I genuinely do not want to try it, and I’m not even interested in it (no judgment at all toward anyone who enjoys it). I don’t even like the idea of external touching there, however I’m not completely closed-off to external touching. But because I already struggle so much with sex, I’ve gotten completely stuck in my own head. I see people online raving about it too, and now I’m terrified that if I don’t try it, I’ll never experience truly amazing sex or strong orgasms. I don't want to force myself into trying something just because I'm afraid of missing out, but hearing people talk about it like it's the "key" to the most intense pleasure has honestly made me so anxious. I even went on Reddit before and looked up advice for good sex and read threads answering questions like “what is your most intense orgasm?” and a massive number of the top answers mentioned some form of ass play, which skyrocketed my anxiety.

I don’t really know what I’m trying to ask here. I guess for women who have experience with both: can you still have incredible sex and orgasms without any anal stimulation? And is it really the “end-all, be-all” that some people make it out to be?

*I know sex is subjective and different for everyone, but the online discourse makes me worry that I’m missing the “best” kind of pleasure, even though I have zero desire to do it. I just want some reassurance that I can find amazing, intense, peak pleasure one day without needing something up my ass. Thank you so much. :)

PS: Please don't tell me to 'just give it a try' or suggest starting with toys. To be completely honest, when my boyfriend showed me pictures of butt plugs, I actually started crying. The entire concept is just so scary, unappealing, and deeply off-putting to me. I need advice that respects this boundary.

Honestly i love doing blowjobs but I want to get better bc i thing along my relationship it was getting “common” and i want more tips to do it better

Hello, I’ve seen several posts on reddit (men and women) speaking about this but i’d like some advice.

I’m 21F, when i was younger once in a blue moon i’d get a headache while masturbating, though it would only seem to happen if i pushed myself too hard (like trying to orgasm back to back) and would only really happen about once a year if even. Recently, i was doing the same thing, orgasmed just fine but wanted more which ended up leading to the worst headache of my life. It felt like pounding all over my head for about 30 minutes, then subsided.

the next day i could feel the headache creeping up as i got closer so i stopped, the pain was way duller but still there nevertheless. skipped a day and tried the next, another lesser headache. yesterday i used my hands instead and went slow no headache. i figured since yesterday i was fine i tried with a vibrator again- bad idea. same thing happened right as i got close the headache began pulsating in the back of my head.

I don’t have any other symptoms beyond that, no dizziness or nausea, just a headache at the back of my head right above my neck that lasts around 30 minutes or less.

Is this something I should reach out to my PCP about? I feel extremely embarrassed about it but also 1000x more anxious as google is saying things like aneurysms and brain tumors :(

i’d appreciate any advice to calm down about it even just a little bit… when i was younger id also wait about a week before masturbating again out of fear (and it wouldn’t happen again) so maybe i should just wait… it’s just scary

I have always only orgasmed through clitoral stimulation and never really thought about my g-spot. Recently I have been exploring it more and have tried multiple times to orgasm from it but it’s been unsuccessful. I have tried using my fingers and also a curved dildo and I’ll get the sensation of needing to pee and I’ll keep going but I can never seem to achieve it. I spent almost 2 hours today trying and feeling like it would come but still nothing. I’m super frustrated and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong and really just want to be able to feel a different type of orgasm. Does anyone have any tips?

I have never had an orgasm ever. I have been married to my husband for almost 3 years now, and he is the only man I’ve ever been with, and ever will be with. There isn’t a single thing about him I’d change. I love him to pieces and he absolutely adores me - I couldn’t be more grateful for our thriving marriage.

There is just one thing that I can’t help but think is wrong. I’ve been lying to him since the start of our marriage. I’ve been faking every single orgasm - which I’ve heard is pretty common amongst women anyway, and I’m happy to fake it because he can’t orgasm unless I do.

I wonder if there’s something wrong with me? I love making out with him and all the teasing before intercourse, and he does literally everything in his power to help me too. He holds back until I “orgasm”, and some days where I am too tired to fake it, he’s not able to come. I tell him that I’m 10000% fine if I don’t come and that I love intimacy with him regardless, but he doesn’t like it unless I enjoy myself too, which he sees as me "orgasming".

I’m not too sure what a real orgasm feels like, but I do put on a great show, and I even get lightheaded sometimes because of all the huffing and puffing, which helps it look more realistic lol. Sometimes when he’s in the mood and wants to do it and I don’t have it in me to fake it, I just say I’m not in the mood because he just won’t come if I just lay there, which I would be fine with, but he wouldn’t be.

Is there something wrong with me? My husband is very handsome and perfect in every way, trust me, so it’s not him. Intercourse doesn’t hurt, it just feels like in and out. Sometimes it will feel slightly good, but like a massage would feel good, you know? Is that what it’s supposed to feel like as a woman?

And it’s not that I don’t get turned on. When we have really good makeout sessions, I do get really turned on and I can even get wet sometimes and feel my heartbeat down there, but nothing during intercourse itself.

I really don’t want to tell my husband because he’ll be devastated that I’ve been faking it all this time and won’t trust any future reactions. I’m worried he won’t be able to come ever again and I don’t want to ruin our sex lives, so I’m happy to do this forever. But I just wonder: am I wrong for this? And would there be something to fix me? Because I do wish I could really enjoy sex like he does.

Edit 16/08/26: I told him last night, and it was a very difficult conversation, and he needed to take a long walk to process everything. He told me how heart broken and deceived he felt, and how he's still struggling to process that my reactions were fake, but he also was appreciative at the same time that I was still intimate with him despite not enjoying it like he does. He eventually understood that I didn't have any ill intentions for faking, it was for his own pleasure because he unintentionally reinforced that faking it would get him to finish and for me his pleasure is my priority, just as my pleasure is his priority. I know I was wrong regardless of all his kind excuses, and i'm so thankful that he's so understanding and it also broke my heart to see him playback false memories - but he said he's still glad I managed to tell him the truth, because now we can work on intimacy being a two way street. It's going to be a long journey, but i'm so grateful for having such an understanding partner, I do feel the need to make it up to him somehow (only in an honest way!), and i'm also so grateful for all the advice below. Thank you all so much!

Hey! I’m 25, and I’ve never had sex before, a big part is because I had to get a hymenectomy and before the procedure I was scared of sex. I couldn’t imagine anything going into my v without immense pain. The procedure went great and I am able to use the dilators they gave me.

I also finally overcame my worries/fear of birth control so I’ve been on the combo pill for a month now, still kinda worried I’ll get pregnant while on the pill though.

I’ve been with my current bf for about 7 months and I think I’m ready for sex, I’m not scared of sex anymore like before procedure/birth control but I still wanna make sure I’m not overlooking or rushing anything. My bf has never pressured me and wants to move at my pace but idk how to set it to progress more, he’s been more cautious to not move too fast for my sake i think. (Sometimes I worry he’ll leave bc I’m taking long but he has never given me a reason to think that, just from past relationships)

I think any of my main current worries is about UTIs, of course STIs too, so I’ll have to ask him about when the last time he has been tested was even though I’m shy to ask. Is using a condom for the first few times, or majority of the time smart? Even if I’m on the combo pill and I take it the same time, and even after he shows me he’s been tested for STI? Someone on social media said this, should I take a pregnancy test every month just to make sure I’m not?

I’m mainly worried about UTIs because what if the capsules are tricky to swallow and I’m not able to take it? Antibiotics side effects are scary too but I know it’s better than an infection. My emetophobia has made antibiotics seem scary. From my googling it seems like it can come in different forms too.

I’ve also gotten into my head that I need to be perfect and not awkward, which leads me to overthink a lot during our intimate times, am I touching him right? Am I moving/acting weird?? idk how to not get in my head :,) once I reached for his private area without looking down bc I’ve given hjs to a past bf before (and he made it seem like I was good at giving them so I was confident lol) but ended up rubbing his pelvic bone 😭 I was SO embarrassed but he just made a light hearted joke about it and didn’t make me feel bad about it, I wish I was just more confidently sexy.

I just need a big sister talk/advice lol, it kinda sucks I don’t really have one I can just talk to about things like this, I do have a therapist I’ll talk to about this sometimes and it has helped.

I’m 23 and I’ve always had what feels like a pretty high sex drive. In college it didn’t stand out as much because everyone was hooking up and talking about it, but now that I’m out and most of my friends are in longer relationships or just not that into it anymore, I feel kind of weird about it. My last boyfriend got kind of overwhelmed when I wanted to have sex more often than he did, and a couple of my close friends have straight up said they could go weeks without thinking about it. I get that everyone’s different and I’m not judging, it just makes me feel like I’m the odd one out sometimes. Sex is honestly one of the main ways I feel close to someone and I miss being able to talk about wanting it without it feeling like too much. Does anyone else in their early-mid 20s feel this way or am I just overthinking it?