wlws acting out gender roles/stereotypes
i noticed so often when i was actively dating that a lot of wlw felt like they were performing a role instead of just being themselves. it felt like there were these boxes of what kind of lesbian you’re “supposed” to be, masc, butch, femme, etc, and people would start acting out these exaggerated personality traits attached to them. honestly it started to feel corny to me because i could tell when someone was performing an identity.
i also kept running into this unspoken expectation that one girl has to be “the guy” and one has to be “the girl” in the relationship. like there was pressure for the more masculine woman to act like a stereotypical man, the gentleman act, the emotional role, the dynamic, all of it. and what frustrated me is that i don’t want a man recreated through a woman. i want to be with a girl. i don’t need someone performing what we see as masculinity for me or trying to fill a “male role.”