u/Affectionate_Cat8147

I have complex illnesses that have left me with a central line and feeding tubes. Several years ago I was sent to eating disorder treatment because they couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me and they just assumed I was doing it on purpose. After quite a while of suffering and many interventions, they realized I actually wasn’t lying and that something was wrong, which is what led to my diagnoses.

A girl I met in treatment has been in and out of treatment for years. She got absolutely cancelled a couple years ago because she was caught being a pathological liar and using her lies to do horrible things, as well as faking medical conditions. That is actually separate from what I’m talking about. I could tell SO many stories of people plain as day faking illness.

After this girl was cancelled I decided to give her a second chance. Everything was fine for years. Just a couple months ago she started posting lies about me and blocked me on everything. Well now people have been sending me screenshots of her posts where she is claiming to have the exact same set of diagnoses and that she doesn’t have an eating disorder. She 100% does have an Ed so it baffles me she’s trying to state otherwise. She also tells people stories of things that have happened to me and says it happened to her. She has posted tiktoks with the ‘diagnoses’ list feature you’d find in mychart but what I found interesting is it says the date everything is diagnosed and everything is from the same day. Many of these conditions take months of testing, genetic testing, etc. The date it had also happened to be a day she was in treatment, where those things would not be diagnosed.

She puts a facade on and posts on social media constantly and everything about her is a lie. And people have no idea. Part of the reason she was ‘cancelled’ was for faking illness in the past to the point it could have gotten her in legal trouble. She continues to go around and talk about me to anyone who will listen and obviously none of what she says it true. Someone who is currently with her in treatment contacted my friend and said they heard her on the phone talking to someone else who is also very controversial and they were calling my friend fat among other things. Her treatment team has NO idea. She posted a couple months ago “my therapist said I need to start being a bitch or I’ll develop an autoimmune disorder.” Which insinuates they think she’s completely innocent and it baffles me how someone could simply not see through her. Every single person from her past had the same experience and can tell the exact same story of how they were treated by her and yet so many people are just oblivious. This doesn’t even scratch the surface

I had no idea how much people didn’t like today’s drop. The bloom mockneck is sold out in S/M and that’s it. The other ones are still available in every size. The clips sold out first and things are starting to sell out but I really thought this drop would go so quickly. I got the bloom mockneck and had my order confirmation before the clock hit 10:01. This is honestly one of my favorite drops besides birthday. I will say I prefer the fleece material and can’t wait for it to come back in the fall

I am so sick of what is happening with my brother. I am 19. I graduated at 17 and I live at home with my parents. I’m on disability due to several life limiting diagnoses. I will likely never be able to work or live a normal life. I have a 12 year old sister and a 22 year old brother. I am going to mention a couple medical things but they are NOT relevant to the advice I am asking for and I am NOT asking for medical advice.

I am almost completely unable to eat by mouth. I get daily TPN (iv nutrition), iv fluids, and meds. I can eat things that will drain out of a G tube. So things like liquids, ice cream, yogurt, carbs, and if I want something else really bad I can have one bite and break it down with a ton of sprite afterwards so it’ll drain. On the 4th of July we got stuff to make smores and I don’t do well with artificial sugar or dyes so I bought different chocolate for myself and it was pretty expensive. I ate one small square of it with a smore that night.

Two days later I went into the freezer to get the chocolate back out and it was gone. The full thing of Hershey’s was still there. By the process of elimination we discovered my brother had eaten it. The entire thing. It was a pretty large amount of chocolate, not anything even an average person would eat in one day. He knew it was mine because he saw me with it on the 4th and he knows my dietary restrictions. He didn’t eat any of the hersheys chocolate that was for everyone else. My parents told him he needed to replace it and he laughed and said ok. He has refused to replace it. It may sound stupid but not to me. I make a minuscule amount of money from disability. He is 22, lives with us for free, my parents paid for his phone, car insurance, etc the entire time he was in college. He has a really good remote job and makes more than my parents. My parents are married and have two incomes and he makes more than both of them. Yet he cannot pay for anything. He won’t replace the chocolate I bought with my miniscule disability money. Every time I buy food like clockwork he eats it. I put my name on everything with sharpie. If it’s shelf stable I keep it in my room. He will come in here and take it and I can’t stop him because he’s bigger and stronger than me. He also doesn’t buy his own shower products he uses everyone else’s. Thankfully I have my own bathroom so he doesn’t use my stuff but I feel that he is taking advantage of our family by using our money when he makes more than all of us. My grandma will say “well you didn’t hide it good enough.” I’m not hiding it in my own room. I’m disabled and I don’t have it in me to hide things and then go look for them when I want something. Im pretty much bedbound so there’s just no way. I know I could lock the stuff up but a box big enough to fit all of my snacks would be SO expensive and that’s another thing I’d have to spend my own money on because of him. I would also have a hard time turning a key or the little numbers due to my disability. I’m more so asking advice on what I could say that would make him feel bad enough to stop. I don’t care if I have to guilt him. He SHOULD feel bad for doing this. I can’t lock my door because it’s a safety issue if I were to have a medical emergency, which has happened before and the door being unlocked was life saving.

Update: this is more of a recent thing. The excuse is always that I wasn’t eating it anyways aka I didn’t eat my own food in the timeframe they would’ve eaten it. A few months ago I was in the hospital for a month and came home and all 4 things of my ice cream were gone. Everyone had eaten it. The excuse was they had gotten hungry. I said “you have lived in the same bodies your whole lives so you know that you will get hungry. So why are you going to the store and purposely not buying enough food to account for that hunger? And then act shocked when you’re hungry at night so you then go and eat my ice cream.” The ice cream was replaced. However both of my siblings have always used my hygiene stuff which made me mad because I would pay for it myself and before I was on disability I would only have money if I sold something or for a birthday or holiday. And I would buy products that I knew my mom wouldn’t buy me. And they would use all of it and leave me with none. Or every Christmas as a kid I would get a special bathandbodyworks set and I would use the body wash once and leave it in the bathroom and I would come back to it the next day being empty because my brother used the entire thing as bubble bath. And the excuse was “you should’ve brought it to your room” or “he wouldn’t have used a women’s scent.” Stealing is my #1 pet peeve like if you see something, and you know you didn’t buy it yourself, don’t touch it. When I first got a feeding tube the only thing I could eat at the time were the white lifesaver mints. People we knew sent me like 4-5 big bags of them. The 5 mega bags lasted not even a month because my family ate them. That was the ONLY thing I could eat and I had zero income. So once they were gone my family continued eating like normal because they have no dietary restrictions and I had nothing because they had eaten the one thing I could have. It makes me so mad. But I’m also not going to call adult protective services or get him kicked out. He IS guilt trippable so I just need help doing that. My mom is also charging him for anything he takes and won’t help him with anything until he pays his charges. She is replacing the chocolate so I’m not waiting for a long time but he will be charged for it. She does his taxes so at some point he’ll have to. He pays his own phone bill but we Venmo the money to our mom each month so another thing she could do is simply not give the money to the phone company that month. His job is remote and he’s on meetings all day on a computer so to do that he just needs wifi. It won’t hurt him to take away his phone data, it’ll just be inconvenient because he won’t be able to call or text anyone unless he’s at home on wifi.

I made my Spotify account in like 2018 and was in middle school at the time. At that point email confirmations and double authentication weren’t a thing. I didn’t have an email so I put a random one to make the account.

Thankfully my account has transferred right over when getting new phones over the years. Well I want to log in on my IPad but it sends an email confirmation (the email connected to it is random so I don’t have access to it) or asks for password which I also don’t know. I’ve tried every password I could think of. I went on the settings on my phone and tried to switch the email on it but it says it couldn’t do it and gives me an error message. It’s not connected to any Apple ID or other social media account. I don’t want to make a new account because this one has all my stats on it. How do I go about fixing this?

I was friends with this girl and we were pretty close. From the beginning her story was really sad and I felt bad for her. She acted a little abnormally and had me brainwashed to act similarly like calling people fat, she would make fun of people etc and I never tried to stop her. She lives 1500 miles from me and we met in person at a residential treatment center.

One day she contacted my friends and told them a ton of lies. Told them I called some of them fat, that I was spreading her medical info, etc. I will say I did call people fat when they were mean or rude, not to describe their body, but I understand I still shouldn’t have said that. But know that I never said it about any of my friends. And the second thing, she forced me to send them sick pics of her (ed) and then would beg to see their reactions.

I had tons of evidence she was lying but then I started thinking about some of her tragic stories and uncovered a lot.
Basically her whole life was a lie and she was pathologically lying about very serious topics.

Months later I confronted her bc she didn’t know I knew she was a fraud, and she ended up admitting to some of it and by the end we had eachother unblocked, not to become friends, but to be civil. That was 2 yrs ago and all was ok until now.

The other day she randomly posted a tiktok about me (what happened 2 yrs ago) and called me a c*nt. I posted about it on my priv story on snap of like 6 close friends. Someone in the story I didn’t know they were friends and she told her so now she’s attacking me, saying I’m a bad person, etc. And so many people are sending me message requests likely to attack me at her request. This doesn’t even scratch the surface of everything so pls ask any and all questions.

Two of my friends she lied to ended up apologizing but I never spoke to them again bc why would they believe what she was telling them??

I’m 19. I have had health issues since childhood. I was (mis)diagnosed with celiac disease when I was 7 and also diagnosed with hashimotos disease. Every time I had a problem they just assumed I ate gluten. When I was 14 they diagnosed me with anorexia. In reality I was having severe abdominal pain both upper and lower, severe constipation, nausea, vomiting, dizziness, etc. At 14 I was forced into residential treatment. I would always finish my food but couldn’t keep it down. They told me it was normal to have pain in “recovery” but I knew I was in much more pain than everyone else. Of course in treatment centers they pump full of formula via NG tube and that made things even worse. I gained zero weight so my parents pulled me out of treatment. A few months later I went to another treatment center and they would say “your stomach shrunk from not eating that’s why you’re sick” and would tell my mom I was purging even though I so clearly wasn’t. I went home and then went back to treatment a third time. The third time I was SO sick. Kept nothing down, fainting, etc. No one believed me. I went home and kept begging to see drs to figure it out and no one believed me. We went to a dr and I asked about a rare condition called SMAS and she said no it’s just your eating disorder. Months later I went to a specialist and I was diagnosed with SMAS. I was also diagnosed with eds and it showed that my stomach was so stretched out and dipping into my pelvis, even though treatment had told me that my stomach shrunk. I was also diagnosed with gastroparesis, mcas, and more. I ended up with an NJ feeding tube for two months and then had a central line placed to start TPN (iv nutrition.) I had surgery in May 2025 and when they went in it was SO bad. Everything was clumped together with adhesions. They fixed the SMAS, placed a GJ tube, and created an ileostomy, because the constipation was not from lack of eating, it was from my intestines being diseased. That SMAS surgery failed so I had another one in October with a more invasive procedure, hernia repair, reversal of ostomy, separate J tube placement, and removal of my colon. I also had an obgyn surgery because I have two uteruses and one was obstructed. I also have nutcracker syndrome which is dangerous because I only have one kidney. That surgery was successful but for some reason I still can’t eat so I’m still on TPN and using iv meds and pain meds. I often wonder what my life would look like if we had discovered this sooner. I also had a lap surgery to remove an ovarian cyst. The other ones were all open. If you are a parent and your child is demanding they are physically sick, please believe them and get them help. I am pretty much bedbound and when I do leave the house I use a wheelchair or walker. I am on SSI and can’t work. I require home nursing to change my dressings and draw blood weekly. My parents do everything for me. This could have been avoided had we intervened sooner. I have met an alarming amount of people with the same conditions as me who were also accused of having an eating disorder and forced into treatment. I spent ages 14-16.5 in treatment when I should have been receiving life saving medical care. I am now 19 and suffering the consequences

I’m 19. I have had health issues since childhood. I was (mis)diagnosed with celiac disease when I was 7 and also diagnosed with hashimotos disease. Every time I had a problem they just assumed I ate gluten. When I was 14 they diagnosed me with anorexia. In reality I was having severe abdominal pain both upper and lower, severe constipation, nausea, vomiting, dizziness, etc. At 14 I was forced into residential treatment. I would always finish my food but couldn’t keep it down. They told me it was normal to have pain in “recovery” but I knew I was in much more pain than everyone else. Of course in treatment centers they pump full of formula via NG tube and that made things even worse. I gained zero weight so my parents pulled me out of treatment. A few months later I went to another treatment center and they would say “your stomach shrunk from not eating that’s why you’re sick” and would tell my mom I was purging even though I so clearly wasn’t. I went home and then went back to treatment a third time. The third time I was SO sick. Kept nothing down, fainting, etc. No one believed me. I went home and kept begging to see drs to figure it out and no one believed me. We went to a dr and I asked about a rare condition called SMAS and she said no it’s just your eating disorder. Months later I went to a specialist and I was diagnosed with SMAS. I was also diagnosed with eds and it showed that my stomach was so stretched out and dipping into my pelvis, even though treatment had told me that my stomach shrunk. I was also diagnosed with gastroparesis, mcas, and more. I ended up with an NJ feeding tube for two months and then had a central line placed to start TPN (iv nutrition.) I had surgery in May 2025 and when they went in it was SO bad. Everything was clumped together with adhesions. They fixed the SMAS, placed a GJ tube, and created an ileostomy, because the constipation was not from lack of eating, it was from my intestines being diseased. That SMAS surgery failed so I had another one in October with a more invasive procedure, hernia repair, reversal of ostomy, separate J tube placement, and removal of my colon. I also had an obgyn surgery because I have two uteruses and one was obstructed. I also have nutcracker syndrome which is dangerous because I only have one kidney. That surgery was successful but for some reason I still can’t eat so I’m still on TPN and using iv meds and pain meds. I often wonder what my life would look like if we had discovered this sooner. I also had a lap surgery to remove an ovarian cyst. The other ones were all open. If you are a parent and your child is demanding they are physically sick, please believe them and get them help. I am pretty much bedbound and when I do leave the house I use a wheelchair or walker. I am on SSI and can’t work. I require home nursing to change my dressings and draw blood weekly. My parents do everything for me. This could have been avoided had we intervened sooner. I have met an alarming amount of people with the same conditions as me who were also accused of having an eating disorder and forced into treatment. I spent ages 14-16.5 in treatment when I should have been receiving life saving medical care. I am now 19 and suffering the consequences