Me 41f and my husband 41m disagreeing about our sex life, how do I make him see my side?
So we have been together since 2017 and we got married in 2022, no kids and never planning on them. My husband before he met me was an experimental person and had threesomes (mfm) with past girlfriends, but he never truly settled down until he met me. Fast forward to now 2026. He is kind of said things here and there while we’ve been in bed like “I wish that you would do this to another guy,” etc and I know that his fetish is seeing me or hearing about me with another man. Here is the thing though, I have absolutely no desire to sleep with another man. I am committed to my husband, and if I wanted to sleep around, I wouldn’t have gotten married…. He is bringing it up more and more, and this is actually causing a big rift in our relationship. I keep saying that it’s not happening and he is saying he wants me to do things or at least role-play or make an account on Tinder to talk to someone else. Is our marriage doomed?
I also want to edit this by saying that when we first started dating in 2017, we were more hot and heavy, but after Covid, I ended up gaining some weight which I’m not comfortable with, I also had a couple of deaths in the family, so I am not super sexual right now like jumping his bones or anything ( we still obviously have sex a few times a week, but it is less than it used to be…) I know I’m not satisfying him, I am definitely in my head with life stress of being in my 40s I guess as well as I’m not super comfortable in my body right now.