I’m the only one responsible for our child
I’m resenting my husband because he wont take any responsibility for our child. Our daughter is 7 months old and I exclusively breast feed, I put her down for naps and sleep and I’m fine with doing that. I’ve asked him to take over solids or brushing her teeth (once per day, and I do the other times) or to change her diapers when he is home.
He won’t do anything unless I tell him to do it. How do I know? well, since I asked he hasn’t fed her food, brushed her teeth or changed a diaper.
When I read the book )Empowered Wife), it makes me feel better and I let go of things. But then things like this happen:
He made me beautiful Mother’s Day. but then the whole week he slept until 12-1pm, then got up, got himself ready and left at 2pm to work. then he comes back after his shift (the baby is already asleep), played video games and then he goes to sleep.
He will do things if I ask him to do but i have to tell him every single time. like, brush her teeth - he will brush them today, but if I want them to be brushed tomorrow- I have to ask tomorrow again.
it hurts more when I remember how he told me how many responsibilities he used to carry in his previous relationship and it makes me wonder why on earth won’t he care for his own child.
I struggle to not get on fence and it impacts my ability to respect him.
I don’t know what to do. Are there any moms here? How do you manage?
I don’t have any help and I dont have any friends and Im very lonely. I’m trying to make mom friends but I’m struggling.
How do I stop resenting him?