Mother-in-law problem
Mother-in-law
So I am a female(32), in general my in-laws are good. But my mother-in-law is very controlling. She is a sweet person, loves me a lot but she tries to control our food, our income and everything. I have tried to set boundaries but till when.
So last time, we all went shopping - my husband, I and my mother -in-law and she tried to control what we were purchasing. She did not let us buy two metal pots worth 500 then she has to control all kitchen things too. We are thinking of making our diet cleaner but she won't let us buy anything.
She wants us to spend as little as possible and I am from a metropolitan city- I want my living standards to be good. my husband and I run a business together and now she is controlling that too. I think we are adults enough to manage things ourselves. I come from a family which is not at all controlling. But I am so fed up with her controlling everything. She has my husband's location although she asked for my location too and I made excuses. She is always looking at the camera we have at our business place. And lately I have clearly told my husband that I need my own house. I am happy with my in-laws in general but these things sometimes irritate me.
Also I feel she is not letting my husband and my brother-in-law grow financially. A few days back, my brother-in-law told her that if he changes his job, he will get a hike, a good hike actually. And she was like what you will do with this much money because she doesn't want him to leave the small town. She gets a pension and enjoys that but doesn't want any improvement in our lifestyle. I am so irritated with her behaviour.
I sometimes feel bad for thinking bad about her and telling my husband I want to live far from her but what to do I feel bad.