This guy is amazing, but I’m not as into him as I wish I was. What should I do?
I (31F) been going out with a guy (35M) for the last ~6 weeks. He’s amazing - we have similar interests and political values, he makes me laugh, and he’s been exceedingly sweet to me. I’ve never dated anyone who’s put this much effort into me (not in a love-bombing way). For example, he brings me little treats from the store, he cleaned my backyard one day while I was working cause I was feeling stressed about it, and he made me a playlist and a list of movies/shows he thought I would enjoy. All unprompted and incredible things!
The issue is that, while I feel some chemistry with him, I’m not necessarily as into him as I would like to be. In fact, I think his overwhelming kindness has brought out some of my irritability and impatience. I don’t think that’s manifested in my being rude to him, but I have felt it a bit internally. I’ve spoken to him about some of those internal feelings and he’s been wonderful and receptive and wants to go at whatever pace makes me feel comfortable. I guess I’m just not sure what’s wrong with me. He seems like an incredible partner, but I just can’t seem to feel that big spark with him.
I guess what I’m asking for is other perspectives. Should I wait it out a bit and see if things grow? Is my expectation of a spark unrealistic?