My friend told me “Being asexual is trying to be special”
This is written in a rant format so please don’t mind my grammar+language yall.
I discovered recently that I’m an asexual after being confused on why I dislike having sex compared to my friends. Part of me thought it was due to religious reasons but I also see alot of Christian friends also wanting to have sex, while I don’t.
I surround myself with mostly straight, hyper sexual friends that believe sex is normal (I mean it’s human nature so it is) but I’m sex adverse and I really don’t want to be involved in it and I know I won’t enjoy it. I came out to my friends and a-lot of the comments I received from them weren’t all positive.
They said that they saw me making out with guys in clubs so I can’t be asexual. I tried telling them that I only do that because of the ‘club effect’ that makes me want to kiss them, and I also am romantically attracted, not that I am SEXUALLY attract to them. I wouldn’t go ANY further than making out.
Others say that I because I’m still a virgin so I don’t know if I would enjoy it or not. Like no! The thought of myself being in a submissive position or being intimate with someone grosses me out and I literally don’t want to. I kept telling my friends that but they just don’t understand and try to argue about MY sexuality and identity.
And lastly, they also said that I wanted to be special by being apart of the LGBT community, that’s why I called myself an asexual. They ask me why do I keep putting labels on myself, it’s not that deep. Firstly, I’m literally a BI ASEXUAL(but I’m still closeted on the bisexual part) and asexuality is different than straight because unlike them we don’t have SEXUAL attraction, so asexuality is still part of LGBT. Secondly, it is that deep! I want to feel related to. I thought that no one thinks the same as me and it gets lonely because I had no one to talk to about how I feel and I will never feel fully accepted. It’s not like I wanted to be special, I finally know where I belong, and there are actually people out there that are like me. That’s when I started putting labels to myself: to answer my inquiries.
Does anyone relate to this?