Best friend is an abusive relationship and I don’t know what to do
Hello, please redirect me to the correct sub if this one is not appropriate.
My best friend (28F) of almost 15 years is in an abusive relationship but thinks I don’t know. She started seeing this guy last year but kept it from me for months & I found out through some friends that showed me screenshots of him posting her on IG in order to get her attention because they were fighting. Although she didn’t say it, I realized she kept it from me because of the situations she was in with him 2-3 months into seeing each other (his ex chased them as they just had a new born, cops were called, etc).
Fast forward to now, she’s moved in with him and he’s completely isolated her from all our friends. He’s gotten upset when she slept over at my house although her and I only see each other every 2-3 months. Obviously I won’t give every single detail as this will get long but as of a couple days ago she sent me a photo asking if she should get stitches because she “walked into a door”. I just know it wasn’t a door, the cut is in such a weird position and pretty deep. I’ve suspected there being physical abuse because she’s had random bruises before & her sister had mentioned it too but this almost confirms it to me.
These last few days that she left him due to whatever happened, she made suggestions to hanging out even as far as joining me to the beach hours away. So of course, I was texting her back & forth because I found hope she’d get out of it but then she started ignoring all my texts. Finally, today she texts me normal & I see on her location that she is back with him at his house.
I feel a lot of emotions and don’t know how to go about it. I’m so worried she’s losing herself and will just completely cut everyone out and im worried for her well being. But, I’m also so upset and don’t feel valued as a friend. I guess I just want advice on how to navigate this. I know abusive relationships are difficult and isolate you from your friends but also I feel like I don’t mean anything. I’m currently at a point where I want to ignore her the way she’s ignored me all these months but I really don’t know.