u/AfroFreak

I'm not doing extremely well careerwise right now, and this morning a person I'm close with texted to tell me they want to has a sitdown so we can talk about how I can do better for my career, or even change it. I haven't replied to the text yet, but my first reaction was anger. Cause I felt like I'm being pitied, and I know they want to help, but I just felt this rage followed by embarrassment the rest of the day.

I wouldn't mind their help, but idk? Is this pride? Am I just to proud to admit I need help? How do I deal with this?

I started seriously working out this year. And I've managed to keep it going consistently. So I'm proud of that, but somewhere it shifted from I want to be healthy to I want to look good, but not for me.

I also started piano a month ago, and even that has shifted from, I'm glad I'm better today than yesterday, to I want to be able to show off how well I can play.

When I'm coding, the high I'm chasing isn't, I solved the bug, its, look how smart my solution to solving the bug is.

It feels prideful and I hate it. How do I change this from pride chasing validation (bad) to proud of myself for doing the hard thing(good)