How to deal with this situation?
I’m 27/F, married to 26/M. Both doctors. I’m currently in residency while he’s preparing to get into one, so life has been revolving around exams, stress, finances, responsibilitiesfor a long time now.
We don’t really get to live the married life I imagined. We barely get time together, and every goodbye feels heavy for me. He recently came to stay with me for a night and dropped me back the next day. I felt deeply hurt that he didn’t ask me to stay longer or make emotional efforts that showed he was also longing for more time together. To him, the situation is practical , he has responsibilities, work, financial stress, and thinks I’m being selfish for craving his presence when he’s already struggling.
I know he’s under pressure and trying in his own way, but emotionally I feel deprived. I keep yearning for a life where we can simply live together normally, without counting days and visits. Sometimes I feel like I’m loving emotionally while he’s responding logically.
I don’t know if I’m expecting too much, if residency/exam struggles are making everything harder, or if this emotional disconnect is something bigger. Has anyone else in demanding careers felt this way in marriage?