r/KeralaRelationships

I & Cousin are 28M actively searching for brides in matrimonial sites. I'm currently working in a good MNC with a salary of 1.8 lakh per month and my cousin is working as a Bank manager with 1.2 lakh per month. We both look kinda same on looks wise and we both have same financial family background. But even though he earn less, he's getting lots of proposals in matrimonial sites.

Am i missing something? Just curious to know your opinion.

If you broke up with someone on good terms,how likely are you to reach out again later?

The only reason I'm asking is because I'm thinking about dating someone who's still not completely over her ex.

I just want to know if I'm about to start a relationship...or become the supporting character until the original lead decides he wants another season.

Be honest.Does the guy usually come back or do most goodterm breakups stay in the past?

I was wondering the other day literally everyone is the victim here. Nobody ever did anything wrong, yet somehow everyone was wronged. The ex or the date is always the villain, and the poster is always the innocent party.

​I always wonder how that is logistically possible all the time. If everyone here is a flawless partner who just got treated terribly, who is actually doing the wronging?

Ik, we're all heros in our story. But just wanted to point out.

Ps. Not saying what you went through isn’t real. Just oru fun observation nnu edtha mathy. Sometimes we mess up, sometimes others and sometimes both. There is no black and white, we're all grey shaded.

A friend recently opened up to me about her marriage, and I honestly didn’t know what to say.
She told me they’ve been attending marriage counselling, but she feels it isn’t helping. According to her, her husband has become emotionally distant, often comes home much later than he used to, and she believes he’s only staying because of their child.
What confused me is what she does on social media.
She admitted that she logs into her husband’s account and reshares her own posts from his profile so it looks like he’s proudly showing off their relationship. She said she especially wants their former classmates and mutual acquaintances to think they have a perfect marriage. She also admitted that some of her posts are meant to get a reaction from her husband’s parents and siblings.
From knowing her over the years, she often seems to need constant validation and is very focused on maintaining an image, even when it comes at the expense of the people around her. I sometimes wonder if that need for admiration is making it harder for her to face the reality of what’s happening in her marriage.
I honestly don’t understand the logic. If the marriage is struggling and counselling isn’t helping, why put so much effort into convincing everyone else that everything is perfect?
Has anyone known someone like this? Is this simply image management, a coping mechanism, or something else? What would you say to a friend in this situation?

Lemme share my experience

There is this guy, who is 2 years younger than me..

He was my college junior..

He actually confessed his feelings to me back then..

I rejected it, bc avante over confidence kandappo I thought it’s some prank 😬

But later during the college days he tried so hard to impress me

But no progress happened

Appo anghana college okke kazhinj…
He tried contacting me … but just after the college I got job.. anghana busy ayii.. I completely ignored him

Kore kazhinj

Lately we reconnected at our mutual frnds marriage

I never expected he still wanted to be my bf..

That guy is even ready to marry me ASAP

So ithrem genuinity kandappo

I decided to try dating him

We went for a casual cafe date

Actually njnum avanum oru lengthy conversation ithuvare indayittilla

During our first date… I realised he is just an immature guy
Like chelorkk enthelum sadhanam venonn bhayankara Agraharam ahnu
But avar kk athu kitti kazhinja ah oru craze povum…

Anghana oru character

He is very emotionally immature

Avante oro kaaryam parayumbo..
I think he is too dependent with ppl around him

Since I didn’t see a future with him, I thought it was better to end it early than waste either of our time.

I clearly said I can’t continue this

Then we parted

Appo ond kazhinja day

From our mutual frnd I heard… that junior guy said
Njnum Avan dated for about 2 months

And he broke up with me bc I’m too controlling and frnds ney patti bad things gossip cheyyum nn okke

I was really shocked
I even doubted my frnd

Appo odane phone eduth I tried calling him

He blocked me

Actually… at that time o felt so lucky
Like njn Ivaney date cheythirunnel?? Enthokke twist and turns indayeney …😾

The age gap was never the issue. Two years is nothing. For me, it was simply about emotional maturity and compatibility. I’ve met people older than me who were emotionally immature too, so I don’t think age alone means much.

So…for those who’ve dated someone younger, did the age matter, or was it really just about maturity?

I saw a reel just now which says 80% of men prefer chubby girls over slim girls. Also chubby does not mean overweight or obese. Is that true?

So, basically, I'm a 29 year old guy from Kerala. I was in a longterm relationship for about three years, and we broke up a year ago. The relationship itself was so messed up and toxic that I actually felt relieved after the breakup.

Since then, I've moved to Dubai and restarted my career. Life has been pretty good. But recently, I started talking to someone from a different country, and we connected really fast. We're both attracted to each other, but we know it's not going to work out because of certain reasons.

Ever since I started talking to her, the need to feel loved and cared for has resurfaced😬😬😬 I don't want to get into a relationship right now because I have different goals and priorities in life.

So here's my question: How do you guys get over this feeling? When your heart and your brain are telling you to pursue different things, how do you deal with it? I want and know I need to listen to my brain, but I'm not sure how to quiet these feelings.

Need some outside perspective because I genuinely can't tell if I'm being patient or just being stupid.

So I had a crush on this girl back in school. We were good friends but I never confessed because she never gave me any signs and she was the textbook "studies first everything else later" type.

We lost touch after school except for the occasional conversation.

A few months ago, I replied to one of her Instagram stories and we started talking again. That's when I found out she'd recently broken up with her boyfriend. It was mutual but she was still deeply attached to him.

I did what any good friend would do.I listened to her vent for weeks, comforted her, tried to help her move on and honestly it seemed to work. We stopped talking about the breakup and started talking about literally everything else. We texted every day, sometimes for hours.

My old crush came back so I confessed.

She was unsure at first, but eventually she seemed comfortable with the idea. She became more affectionate and I thought, "maybe this is actually happening."

Narrator: It was, in fact, not happening

Now every conversation somehow ends up revolving around her ex. It doesn't matter if we're talking about food, movies or the weather. Somehow, this man gets summoned into the conversation like he's the final boss.

So what do I do?

Do I stay because healing takes time and she might genuinely move on? Or do i accept that I'm just the premium version of emotional support with unlimited customer service?

I'm 28 and work a remote white collar job that I'd describe as pretty mediocre. I don't feel like I have any standout talents or natural gifts. I'm not good at music, dancing, sports, painting, or anything that makes me interesting at first glance. I also don't consider myself exceptionally intelligent or naturally gifted in any area.

For the past few years, I've mostly stayed at home because of my remote job. The only times I usually go out are to watch movies, eat at restaurants, or attend family functions. My social life is quite limited at the moment.

I've never been in a relationship. One thing that has affected my confidence is that I don't even remember any girl looking at me, whether in college or when I'm out in public. I'm 182 cm tall with average fair skin. I think my face card is pretty average, but I'm doubtful of even that since no one seems to look at me.

I'm genuinely curious: are there people here who also felt they had no special talents or qualities that stood out, but still found a girlfriend or a happy relationship? If so, what changed for you?

I was using arike dating app for sometime and was actually getting some matches.

So, with that in mind, I decided to buy their premium plan hoping for a better outcome as I can send unlimited notes to people.

But the thing is, even after sending more notes to more people, i am getting no matches at all. I got more matches before buying premium plan.

I think, the app scams users as they can send notes but it wont reach the other person. there are also no option to find whether the notes are delivered or not.

Also, i gets notification daily that "notes refreshed, you can send more notes now".. If i bought premium, why the hell would i get that notification?

anyone facing similar issues?

Last option aarnn.. athum ooommm...

Guys...have you ever had a girl introduce you to her ex or boyfriend and your brain immediately goes

"Huh...how did this dude bag her?"

Not even trying to be mean. It's just that your expectations are so high from the way she looks or carries herself...and then you meet him and your brain starts buffering.

Then you spend the next five minutes wondering if the guy has

Elite-level rizz

A personality that bends spacetime

Unlimited confidence

Or if he just happened to be at the right place at the right time

Guys i have been chatting with an old class mate for some time now things are going great i think its time to propose so need suggestions on how to as i have no previous experience in the matter

Hi all,
I’m 23 yo working in IT field . So my gf( from same clg and class) she is in Bangalore.

So prshanam enthanen vecha her family is modern. Like avarku enne ariyam and avar nalle supportive aanu. But my family korach orthodox aanu. Ente ammayk ee relation ariyam amma completely satisfied alla enklum ok aan. enk achnod ipo ith parayanm enn illa but she is forcing me. Naml usually orupad vazhak idarond but end of the day namk ariyam how to manage it enn athond ath ok aanu. Appo inn oru issue inday ente sister (12th) avalk tuitionu kond aakanm. So avale kond vidar aan pathiv and my gf used to ask “ nthina kond vidunne aval poykolule” ennoke. Njn ith veetil choichitt ind bus keri poya pore enoke but avark pedi aanu. Ente gf ith paranj vazhak idarond innude itte ollu.
Inn nammal samsarichond irikuayrn so appo amma vilichit sis ine kond aakan paranju. Appo gf told “ nee ponda avalod valla auto vilich pokan para “ enn njn paranj already late aay so patula inn kond vidanam enn. Appo athum itbum paranj vazhak aay njn cut aaki. But finally sis auto il poy. Okay ent korach kayinj gf enne vilichu ent parayuan” nee inn thanne achnod parayanm namlde karym” enn njn paranju patula enk budhimutt ond enoke. But she is insisting me to do that.
What should I do Pls help

Incidents like this happens sometimes and I feel bad sometimes. Avalde prshanm aanelm ath thirich ulta aaki enne confuse aakarindu
Ella girls um ingne aano? Or ente issue aano ith…..