I Think I Accidentally Became the Third Person in My Homie’s Love Story 🫠
So, coming to the story...
My homie joined a new college about a month ago. He had actually joined another course before this, but he got bored and frustrated with it and finally switched to this one, which is in his hometown itself.
Now, this guy is an extreme introvert. Like, he doesn't randomly talk to people. If he feels comfortable with someone, then only he'll actually talk. Otherwise, he'll just exist silently 😭.
And then he joined this new course where almost everyone is around 17–18, so naturally he felt a little awkward and out of place. I spent quite a bit of time convincing him and helping him get comfortable with people, and eventually things started getting better.
Then he met a girl from his class.
And yeah... bro got a crush...
The funny thing is, he has to spend the next four years there, and knowing his personality, I already knew he wasn't going to make any effort on his own. He's literally peak-level introvert. So somehow he started messaging her. They're in the same class and there aren't that many people, so it was easier for them to interact.
At first, it was just the usual:
"Send me the notes."
But while talking, he slowly realised something...
She's basically another version of him.
Actually, she's even MORE introverted than him. 😭
So somehow this introvert + introvert combination started forming, and surprisingly, they seemed to have really good chemistry.
But then came the real problem.
My guy knows absolutely NOTHING about texting girls. 💀
Like, genuinely nothing.
He would send one message, get a reply, and just... react to it. Conversation finished. Sometimes he'd ask something, but he had absolutely no idea how to keep a conversation going.
One day he literally came to me asking for help.
And he's been my homie since childhood, so obviously I said I'd help.
And that's where my downfall began. 🫠
Whenever she messaged him, he'd forward the message to me and ask:
"Bro, what should I reply?"
I'd type something.
He'd copy-paste it and send it.
Sometimes he'd even ask me which emoji to use. 😭
And the funniest part is, if I forgot an emoji, he'd come back like:
"Bro, where's the emoji?"
And if I told him to send a particular message in a particular way, he'd literally copy it word for word. 💀
I'm not even saying this to insult him. He's genuinely that innocent when it comes to this stuff.
I also don't know much about Gen Z texting, but somehow Reddit has trained me enough to survive these situations. 😂
So for a while, I basically became the invisible third person in their conversations.
But eventually, things started getting smoother.
And honestly, because both of them are introverts, they started connecting really well. Their conversations became natural, they started understanding each other, and there was clearly some chemistry there.
Then recently, I started noticing something else.
She was giving him attention in college.
Looking at him.
Smiling at him.
And now they're apparently at the stage where they're just looking at each other and smiling like nobody else exists around them. 😭
She even does that little head nod thing when she sees him.
At this point, I feel like my job is almost done. 😂
So today I finally told him:
"Bro, stop relying on chats so much. Start talking to her properly in person. Whatever you can talk about over text, try talking about it face-to-face too. How long are you going to keep asking me what to reply?"
He listened and left.
I honestly don't know what happens next.
But here's where I'm feeling guilty.
I never directly told him, "Bro, don't send me every message. This isn't going to end well." I felt guilty saying that because he's my best friend and he genuinely needed help.
But now I'm thinking...
What if they actually get together?
I'm genuinely happy for them. They're both good people, and seeing two introverts actually find someone they connect with is honestly wholesome.
But what if she eventually finds out that half of those early conversations were basically being coached by me? 😭
Because if she finds out, I have a feeling it could become a HUGE problem.
And honestly, I'm not sure my homie would even know how to handle that situation.
That's the part that scares me.
I feel like I'm slowly becoming a third person in their relationship without even wanting to.
I helped because my friend asked for help. I never had any intention of interfering, manipulating anything, or pretending to be him. But still... I was literally helping him decide what to say to a girl he likes.
Now I'm sitting here thinking:
Did I actually help my friend, or did I accidentally make things worse?
If they end up together, I'll genuinely be happy for both of them.
But if she finds out about all this later, will she think I'm a terrible friend or that I crossed a line?
And more importantly...
What should I do now?
Should I completely step back and let them figure everything out themselves?
Should I tell my homie directly that I'm done being his personal texting assistant? 😂
Or should I tell him that if this actually becomes a relationship, he needs to be honest with her about how things started?
I genuinely don't know how to handle this without either hurting my homie or accidentally becoming the villain in their story. 🫠
So guys, what would you guys do in my place?