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I (F) moved into a PG recently in Kochi because daily bus travel was getting unbearable. That’s literally the only change I made in my life.
My boyfriend (together ~1 month) and I used to be fine—very affectionate, very intense, always together. We still meet twice a day (morning and evening), so nothing about our actual time together changed.
But the moment I moved out… something switched in him.
Now it feels like I’m being watched, questioned, and doubted over everything.
I’m suddenly “different”
I’m accused of “pulling away” even though we meet daily
Every normal interaction becomes a fight
He keeps bringing up the same narrative: that I’m going to abandon him
And now he’s suspicious about me and his best friend of 14 years (someone I genuinely see like a brother)
What’s messing with my head is this: there is NO actual incident. Nothing happened. No betrayal. No distance. No change in how often we meet.

Just… I moved into a PG. That’s it.

But somehow that alone has turned into me being treated like I’m hiding something, like I’m slowly becoming someone he can’t trust anymore.

It’s starting to feel like I’m constantly defending my existence and proving I’m not doing something wrong… when I don’t even know what I’m supposed to have done.

I keep replaying everything in my head wondering if I missed something, or if this is just insecurity that got triggered overnight.

So… AITA for moving out and unintentionally “triggering” all of this? Or is something else going on here that I’m not seeing?

Here's my situation.

• I work remote (guess my profession)
• I am about to graduate (so no meeting people in college anymore)
• My hobbies are chess and code (no meeting spots for those; chess is literally so boring for people)

Are there others like this?

How does someone like me meet people? I only interact with my parents at home. That's it.

I’m 20F, my ex is 22M, and his current gf is also 22F.

So basically my ex had a girl bestie during our relationship and he ended up cheating on me with her around 2 years ago. I left the relationship and moved on peacefully without creating drama.

Now suddenly 2-3 days ago he called me and started saying HE left me because I cheated on him and that’s why he got with his current gf (the same girl bestie). I didn’t even argue, I just blocked him because I genuinely don’t want old relationship drama back in my life.

Later he called again from another number along with his current gf and both of them kept repeating the same thing, so I blocked them there too. Then they started texting my current boyfriend saying I cheated in my past relationship. My bf blocked them too.

After that they started calling my friends. My friends ended up telling his current gf that my ex still texts me and tells me he loves me even now. Then suddenly his friends started threatening my friends saying they’ll come to my house and tell my parents that I’ve “slept with many boys” if I don’t admit that I cheated on my ex. That’s completely false.

I contacted one of his friends and told them I’d file a case if they keep harassing me. Then they switched the story again and started saying THEY already have some case going on, were in remand for 7 days, and they’ll “add me into the case” unless I agree that I cheated. Which again is not true.

The thing is, I never cheated on him. I genuinely loved him a lot and moved on quietly after what he did to me. His current gf asked me for proof that he still texts me, so I showed screenshots/exported WhatsApp chats, but she keeps saying they’re edited. Part of me wants to prove to her that I’m not lying and that her bf still contacts me, because she’s acting like I made everything up.

At the same time, I’m tired of the harassment and drama.

What should I even do in this situation?

Enthanu kootukare,

Chodikan aytt chodyangal onnum illaa. Ellrkum sugm allee. Btw drishyam 3 kndu. Kollam. Vere enthar parayan. Sheri ennaa. Nmk kana

I am new to reddit , innale ahn kettyath actually ee app inte gunam enth and i am a genz but actually not

Genz aahnelum genz varthanam ilaaaa ,, but nokyapo full genz typoo sanangall enth cheyyum and also enthaan reddit inte predhana use??

Ennte friendinnu oru crush indarunnu in our class and some of friends in our class also know,but ah kutty angne arodum mindarillarunnu appo sometime inge nokkar indarunnu angne our eyes have started connecting lately ippo njn nokkate irrikan sremikkuvenkillum eyecontact kittum and make there connection btw us and ennik ariyillah enth chyanam enn,njn arodum paranjitillah ennik ento oru feeling and sometimes she tried to talk to me class and collage events it make me some trouble and confused ippo njn stock chyan tudangi ento ennik regret ent chyanum ariyillah ennik angne relation indayittum illah appo ento feel chyanuu.....

Like for I also used to get emotional or tear up or maybe worst cry while arguing with my parents , friends or be it anyone especially when iam on the right side or maybe like when they confrontate me

Like vaku tharkam or anything

That I'm so scared of even countering anyone that not to disappointment them or argue with them

I literally start shaking , breathing oke fast avum , I feel like breaking down or being attacked even if a tone change happens with people

But now, after all these year even an 22 , I feel like anytime I might cry and my facial muscles kinda shakes if iam in a long quarrel with someone. And the problem is, it feels so uncool and ruins my confidence more then everything goes downhill - I can't think rationally - talks bullshit - even more embarrassed and i start crying

What do I do ? I don't want to cry it's embarassing I get scared of confrontation or even if people slightly raised their voice or don't speak softly or if their tone is harsh or criticising or attacking or aggressive, i start panicking

Is this what people call "overwhelmed"?

I already read. I write sometimes. draw but not much of a pro, trying to improve.

Me and my boyfriend went to Poyali Mala Hills in Ernakulam this week during the evening. We reached the top of the hill and found a quiet place near some trees and bushes to sit and relax for a while. There weren’t many people around at that time.

While we were sitting there, my boyfriend told me to sit a little more downhill because there was more shade there. When I looked through the plants and trees nearby, I suddenly noticed an old man standing there staring directly at us from behind the bushes. The area looked almost like a small forest side, so it honestly startled me because I didn’t expect anyone to be standing there watching us silently.

I told my boyfriend immediately, and when he looked in that direction, the man slowly moved away. We thought maybe he was just passing by or lived nearby, so we ignored it and stayed there for some more time.

After a while the sunlight became too strong where we were sitting, so we decided to move a little downhill. I went first, and when I looked toward the same area again, I saw the same old man standing there. He was wearing only a lungi, and at first I didn’t properly understand what I was seeing. Then I realized he was intentionally exposing himself while staring at me.

For a few seconds I genuinely froze because my brain couldn’t process what was happening. I felt extremely uncomfortable and scared and quickly went back uphill to my boyfriend. I told him the man was still there staring at us, and my boyfriend went and asked him what he was doing there. The man casually replied that his house was somewhere downhill nearby.

After he walked away, I explained properly to my boyfriend what I saw, and that’s when both of us realized the man had most likely done it intentionally. We left soon after because the whole situation felt really unsafe and disturbing.

Posting this mainly as a warning for anyone visiting there, especially couples or girls. Please be careful around isolated areas there.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Kerala/s/9GecNN1vSw

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