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Guys ,turned 20 recently . Kurach naal mumb 19 vayas aayirna tymil i took arike just to know what is it okay. Then all of sudden enik notes varan thudangi within few hrs i got alot pakshe i felt creepy okay i am 19 and guys are above 25 mostly 27,28,29 like i consider thats us huge gap. Even 25 is huge for me . What ivar oke age nokathe aano ath enth kanditta enn idk aa day thanne njan delete aki .

Chettammaare chechimaare ningalk opinion enthwa ee karythil?

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My best friend and I have been friends for 14–15 years. She moved to another city for college about a year ago and things haven’t been the same since.
In the beginning, I was always the one calling and texting but she used to be busy so she would text me that she’ll call later but that never happened . After trying several times, I stopped reaching out. She would text me about once a month and even when I replied, she would often take over a day to respond.
We met two months ago but I didn’t really enjoy our conversations,they mostly revolved around her college friends. I feel like I’ve outgrown the friendship.
Today, she texted me(after 2 months)and even called once. Part of me wants to reply but I know it will just become the same cycle of talking briefly and then not hearing from her for months.
Should I reply or should I let the friendship fade?

Today,I was sitting besides a tree near Kanakakkunnu palace alone & watching Sheep detectives...

All of a sudden a random girl approached & asked me if I was alone....& My mind voice was like "Haa kollalloo socialize cheyyan alkkaru ingott verayoo".....

But suddenly she blew up my hopes asking " Ith she and her bf ntey usual spot ahn🥲 and suggested me to go somewhere"...Ippo eth roadil nokkyalm couples🙈🙊🙉...

Nammal singles inum reservation vendeey 😭😭

Petrichor: a distinctive, earthy, usually pleasant odor that is associated with rainfall especially when following a warm, dry period and that arises from a combination of volatile plant oils and geosmin released from the soil into the air and by ozone carried by downdrafts.

(definition from Merriam Webster)

"Petrichor" is one of my favorite words from English, I love the smell just after rain, and discovering a word which expresses one of my favorite experiences about rain made me more happier.

Last week, I was curious to know whether there was a word for one of my other favorite experience of rain, ie the slowly increasing sound of rain coming from a distance, I posted that on another subreddit and I got a few answers, there wasn't any particular word for it tho.

White Noise, Susurrus etc were some of the responses, even though they couldn't express the phenomenon in a word they expressed it in a sentence and it was beautiful.

"I listened to the soft susurrus of rain in the distance. It built to a crescendo until I heard the loud pitter patter on my roof "

Okay I'm deviating from the topic, one of the responses in the thread was about "petrichor", and someone did mention the science behind it:

"The earthy smell of rain is called petrichor. It is created when rainwater hits dry soil, causing soil-dwelling bacteria called actinobacteria to release a compound called geosmin. This mixes with fragrant oils released by plants during dry spells, which become aerosolized by the raindrops and carried into the air"

what a beautiful word.

Another few of my favorite words are:
SERENDIPITY : the ability to find valuable or agreeable things not sought for

SONDER :  the realization and understanding that all other people have lives as complex as one's own.

This is one of the most beautiful feelings.

I also like the way how Susurrus sounds, meaning: soft rustling or whispering.

I turned 24 a couple of months back, and since then, I've been constantly getting these proposals from everywhere. Every acquaintance my Amma meets and even relatives are bringing one after another to my Amma. I'm scared whenever she goes out alone after she went to a hospital once and came back with a proposal from an acquaintance she met there.

My dad doesn't want me to get married until I'm atleast 26, and I don't even want to think about marriage now. But people keep asking her multiple times even after saying no and guilt tripping my Amma or even making her feel like she's doing the biggest mistake of her life by not convincing me and my dad to accept the proposal. She's generally an anxious person, so people pressuring her is making it worse for me.

Even yesterday, my aunt and her husband brought a new proposal from a family friend of theirs. My Amma obviously said that I'm not interested in getting married now, to which this uncle says, " aval parayunna onnum kekanda avashyam illa, nammal kalyanam kazhipichu angu vidanam". I find this quite dehumanising, that my opinion doesn't matter in my marriage. So many neighbour aunties also share the same opinion, that if the family is rich enough then my parents shouldn't care about what I have to say. It's a nightmare.

My cousin, his daughter, got married when she was 26 because these people emotionally blackmailed her into getting married back then. Her husband, fortunately, is a good man, but she still told me that she regrets getting married so fast. Now that her parents have gotten her married and she has given birth, they have taken up getting me married as their side quest.

For now, I wfh and I'm planning to move out, but I don't think even that'd help with this because more than my parents it's the relatives and neighbours. I haven't even figured out if I ever want to marry someone or not. The only thing I'm sure now is that I do not want to marry a stranger off of the arranged marriage market. How do y'all navigate this pressure to get married? I feel like I'm too you g to deal with this, but everyone keeps justifying it by saying women also get married at 18 and 24 is too old. And if I don't start now, then I won't be able to find anyone at 26.

I feel extremely anxious and sleepless whenever I get a new proposal because I'm scared that these aunties and uncles will convince my Amma somehow. What should I do? Will I get used to this way in a couple of years? Does it go away once you are 28 or 30?

Should I talk to my ex-best friend before college ends, or just let it go?

My ex-best friend was also my roommate. We were extremely close before our college union elections.

She became the vice chairperson and I got a much smaller position. From the moment she got that post, she completely changed. She started acting distant, secretive, and would discuss everything with the union chairman (who was her closest friend) while leaving the rest of us out. I often felt like I was just there to help and follow orders.

We had several clashes because of this and eventually stopped talking properly.

The strange part is that every exam season she would suddenly come back, act friendly again, ask for notes, and behave as if nothing had happened. I kept forgiving her because I missed our old friendship.

For her birthday, I even bought gifts and celebrated with her, hoping things would go back to normal. But on her birthday itself, she switched personalities again and started avoiding me completely. She barely reacted to the gift, and honestly that hurt more than I expected.

During university youth festival trips and other events, she would spend all her time with the chairman and other people, especially boys, while completely ignoring the friends she used to be inseparable with.

There were also rumors about financial issues in the union and fund misuse involving her and the chairman, although I don’t know the full truth.

Later I found out she and the chairman might have become involved romantically despite him previously being in a relationship with a junior.

College is almost over now, and I still haven’t felt like talking to her again. I genuinely considered her my best friend, but looking back, I feel used, replaced, and discarded whenever I was no longer useful.

Part of me wants closure before college ends, but another part feels she showed me who she really was.

I cant answer whenever someone ask me what your fvrt stuff like fvrt genre, movie, song, color and other stuff.
I do watch movies , songs and but i dont have any answers for anything. Its like idk i do like everything allenkil answer be like onmmila then again they will ask annalum eetha still idk what to do. I just turned 20 recently so started using ith sub newly( this is my new acc) .

And i cant answer to people whenever ith ask ith kollamo and ithil eetha better what shud i do in this situation ottum kollila or bhayakara nalle aanel enn i will say that otherwise njan enthwa parayende? There are some ppl depending on my answrs idk what to do. Enik palapozhum onnm parayan thonnarila and i dont even feel anything after seeing .

I am 18M a neet aspirant integrated I was dating a girl who was a repeater for neet she is 18F it was a long distance relationship bit was fine for 3 to 4 months then she started leaving me on seen saying it was because of neet I also accepted the fact but then she started uploading stories with a 20M who is a med student when I asked she said he is a friend and guide we limited our convo to very little time like only after 10 pm but even after neet she was busy whenever I ask she always say she is sleeping then came the big disaster \*\*RENEET\*\* she started ignoring again I started losing interest but she post photos with that guy every week when I questioned she said I am toxic then the reneet was over I was happy to spend time with her and booked ticket to visit her then sent a message it's been 4 days she hasnt seen the message yet the ticket is booked for Wednesday what should I do I was thinkin to break up

I'm 20 and will be turning 21 in 4 months. All my life my brother was like a father figure to me as we had a 10 year age gap and my father was never there like not emotionally or financially. After school I didn't want to go to college so I thought of upskilling myself in software development (I used to do coding and since I was a child), because I know my father won't help financially so my brother would have to provide it. So I took a course and upskilled there since it will only take a year and not cost that much. And it paid back, I started working as a software engineer when I was 18 with a good package to be expected in kerala, and now I'm a senior. I'm also pursuing a degree online with my own money. So back to today, my brother talked about the financial situation in the household as we're responsible for it. He's 30 and he was talking about he didn't achieve anything great in his life and all and suddenly he said I'm his greatest accomplishment. That made my day😭😭😭😭. I feel so bad for him, how can I ever repay him for this. He did all that even though he didn't have to. We have a toxic dad and not that he's not grateful, he always says very bad things about us. I don't care what he says but my brother always thinks about it and feels bad about it.

I don't know why I said this here, but I felt like saying this to someone. Thank you

I want to gift something to my close friend.

He has helped me a lot and my family.

He took all my expenses when i was in college (like bus tickets, eating out, fuel costs etc etc.).

He gave 2 3 phones when I didn't have any to use. He funded my first mobile.

He picks me up regardless of time.

He supported me when i had break-ups.

He helped my family as well when I was away and my father was sick. He has done many things which are really valuable and priceless for me.

I really want to give him something as a gift.

He doesn't have a watch.

Another thing I don't even know whether he will accept it.

Hii ppl,

Just wanted to know what you all are doing in life. Like hobbies. What you ppl do on weekends. What's one major materialistic goal/dream you are working towards

About myself. Just resigned from job as an AI Engineer. Left Bangalore after 3 years of working there. Travelled a lot on bike to the point of having backpain. Bought a second hand car (12kmpl) and travelled with it in the past two months. I don't feel like there's any point in working unless the yearly salary = total wedding expense (according to my current situation). So I have decided to stay unemployed for a while doing freelance under the name of entrepreneurship.

What is something interesting you do and can suggest! Also what about saving some money and going to some Matheran trip via carpooling (fuel amount split). Give me some ideas.

Working professionals who prepared (or are preparing) for CAT with a full-time job, I really need your advice.

My work timings are 1 PM–10 PM, it's work from office role , and i have no leaves in this probation period 😭 and no WFH allowed And I've recently started going to the gym , also .

I'm a non-engineer female with weak basics in QA, DILR, and VARC, so I'm starting almost from scratch. I have recorded lectures and a test series, but I'm genuinely overwhelmed because I don't know the right way to prepare.

It's already July, and I feel like I'm wasting time by constantly second-guessing my strategy rather than actually studying.

I'd really appreciate detailed advice on how to prepare, especially from people who managed CAT alongside a job.

Overall strategy

How did you divide weekdays and weekends?

How much time did you spend on lectures, practice, revision, sectionals, and mocks?

When did you start sectionals and mocks?

How did you analyse them?

How did you track progress (Excel, notebook, error log, etc.)?

What was your revision strategy?

With limited time, what gave the highest ROI, and what would you avoid doing?

QA

I'm confused about the learning process itself.

Should I watch concept videos first and just understand them, or pause and solve alongside the faculty?

Should I make detailed notes or only short revision notes?

After a lecture, should I immediately solve practice questions, rewatch concepts, or revise first?

How many rounds of revision did you do for each topic?

I have poor memory and forget concepts/formulas quickly—even if I solved them well the previous day. How did you retain QA?

DILR

Should I first watch concept videos completely and then solve sets?

Or should I attempt the set first, struggle, and then watch the solution?

While watching solution videos, should I simply understand them or pause and solve along?

Should I reattempt solved sets after a few days or just move on?

How many sets did you solve daily/weekly while working?

VARC

Did you start with videos or directly practise RCs and VA?

After attempting RCs, is reading the solution enough, or should I solve the passage again?

How did you analyse wrong answers?

What helped improve accuracy and comprehension the most?

Mocks & analysis

If a mock contains questions from topics I haven't studied yet, should I analyse and learn them immediately, or revisit them after covering that chapter?

Do you reattempt mock questions later (both correct and incorrect ones)?

What does proper mock analysis actually look like?

If you've scored 95+ percentile while working, I'd love to know your routine, strategy, mistakes, and what actually worked. Even if you're currently preparing with a job, I'd really appreciate hearing your approach.

I'm aiming for 95–99 percentile, and honestly, I'm feeling anxious because time is limited and I don't want to waste the next few months following the wrong strategy.

Any detailed advice, routines, resources, or even DMs would mean a lot. Thank you!

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