Any tips on how to deal with nmom while temporarily staying with her?
Ok.. so this is gonna be a long read, sorry 🙄 I left my babys father recently due to it turning into an abusive situation, also wouldn’t work, we ended up homeless. I separated and called my mother to ask if I can stay there until next month when I get paid to get my own apartment with government housing assistance which they said is a quick process. I have to stay with her no more than 7 days due to her apartments being for people over 55. So I’ll be going between her place and my sisters for a few days at a time. I start my new job as a waitress tomorrow until I can get into my cdl classes. Ok so now I’ve explained my situation, I have a problem. She is impossible to deal with or reason with. She’s always angry or yelling at me starting arguments over stupid things like how many clothes to put in the dryer so they dry quicker. Or starting a big argument and being straight up rude over me not rinsing and bleaching out the mop before making new mop water or if I did, I wasn’t doing it correctly. I do loads of laundry and fold and put them away or sit them in her room for her and she will come out and say “these clothes smell like shit, did you even wash them?!!” And then she will put her clothes back in the washer herself and wash them a second time doing it the same way I did. Then leaving them in the dryer for me to fold up AGIAN. Any time she sees me texting someone back (which I try to do quickly) she gets mad and starts huffing and mumbling about me and that damn phone. Which Im barely on because my baby keeps me very very busy. And so does my mom. My daughter is about to turn 1, and she just got over her first ear infection. And my mom is just obsessed with her going to a ENT specialist to see if she may need tubes in her ears. She always thinks there’s something medically wrong with my daughter. But I had a Dr.appointment and the outcome was that I need to get ultrasound of kidneys and bladder because of stones and utis and a x ray of my back because of pain. He also referred me to a breast surgeon to build a case for a medically necessary breast reduction. Also a referral to physical therapy and after my surgery starting ozempic to help with the belly to take more weight off my back. I have a disc degeneration in my lower back a previous dr found. I’m only 31. I shouldn’t have degenerative discs. But she’s pissed because I’m having all these different doctor appointments and I won’t take my baby to a ENT to get tubes after just 1 ear infection. 3 doctors said her ears are fine. She screams and says “F all those appointments you don’t need that you just need to exercise.” Says In a smart ass way “You and all your illnesses, your just so ill all the time, boohoo” and that I need to get her into a ent dr. And I’m not taking care of her because I don’t rush her to a dr every time she sneezes. I’m not trying to look like some Münchausen syndrome case. She will scream and throw a fit until I call and make her an appointment. We went doordashing together the other night. We only did one order for 18$ she screamed and was so effing rude the whole time screaming cause I asked her a question while she was looking at the gps or because she can’t see it’s dark and she’s scared and omg she screamed the whole entire dash. My baby was in the backseat screaming at the top of her lungs as well. I really considered jumping out of a moving vehicle that night. I have severe anxiety and panic disorder to begin with. She makes me feel like I inconvenience everyone and that she thinks I talk shit about her to all her neighbors cause they look at her the wrong way or something, and that I might make her look bad for stupid reasons over dumb little things. She’s so worried about her self image. She obsesses over Ai photos she creates of herself all fancy schmancy and shows them all off to everyone. She talks about me to my sisters. Talks about my sisters to me. She’s constantly cleaning. She mops every 10 minutes. Her black stovetop cannot have any streaks on it when using window cleaner to clean it because it looks like shit. She accuses me of things I didn’t or don’t do. If I’m straightening my hair or putting a little makeup on for the day she’ll ask where I’m going and who’s coming over and stare at me all weird. I feel like I’m not allowed to do anything I can’t even text someone on my phone she gets an attitude. Accuses me of other people of hacking her phone or accounts. Thinks that her phone isn’t really hers. Shes got schizophrenia as well. I’m trying so hard to just keep her happy and clean the house for her and everything but nothing is good enough. I have to deal with this until the 3rd of June when I get paid. Any tips on how I can keep her at bay and keep things neutral? I don’t want all the yelling around my baby and I have NO other choice until then. I’m just grateful I go to stay at my sisters for 4 days after spending 5 or 6 with her. I’ll have some peace for a little bit. But she makes me so uptight when I’m at her house.