18 months of barely any intimacy
My wife is going through peri - is on HRT and Test and states she doesn't have anymore peri-symptoms - except the glaringly obvious zero interest in me in the bedroom. It's like she has lost any/all attraction she ever had for me and I'm some guy who is just around to lift heavy things, open jars and take the kids to sport. I am a very involved father and I do my share of the housework to the point I get told I'm doing too much (can't win hey).
I may get a quick hug or kiss goodbye but thats it. Sadly this is making me withdrawn, distant and quiet (due to constant rejection)and just more interested in keeping my mind busy - and I'm sure its a viscous circle but I have no idea how to reset it. I do not pester her for intimacy (and the rare times it has happened she has enjoyed it) - I will occasionally suggest some fun in the bedroom, even setup some candles and nice music etc only to be met with a laugh or a 'huff' 95% of the time. I am trying but slowly dying inside and losing hope. I have tried to talk but she just gets so defensive and I feel like a dick for making a deal about it. SHe does not believe me when I say it affects me this much and it must be 'something ele'. She said she misses it but seemingly does not do anything to try to improve the situation. My weekends are now just spent just waiting for them to be over (apart from kids sports etc) so I can just get back to work and keep my mind busy.
I want to know - to any of the wives going through this - do you actually miss that part of your relationship or are you relieved that its over - how are your husbands dealing? Did you get past this?