He dumped me because of my past
Hey all, I've been reading through everyone's stories here and trying to understand the result of my own. I (25F) dated this wonderful guy (28M) for 4 months. We dated 5 months prior for just one week before I ended things to get through some trauma in therapy. I didn't intend on getting back together. During that time, I made some dumb choices and was unfortunately SA'd. Fast forward 5 months, I reconnected with him. I told him early on during our talking stage that I was SA'd a month after we broke up and hooked up with one guy a month after that (I was coping). He was understanding but obviously uncomfortable.
I refrained from telling him the full story with the guy that SA'd me for obvious reasons, but once I felt comfortable enough with him, I told him that I actually had been consensual with him once and regretted it. I feel this shouldn't change the story, but in his mind it did.
I want to add, he's been with many, many women. I have only been with a few men and had 1 previous relationship.
He felt I betrayed him by telling him this part of the story, and dumped me. I know I made some dumb decisions, but it all happened when we weren't together, and there was no mention of us getting back together.
I am posting here to hopefully understand RJ a bit better. Im endlessly blaming myself for things ending.