Relationship advice
Im almost 20M and the girl (lets call her Zee) is my age mate as well. Ww met each other in kindergarten and have known each other since 14 years. We Used to be friends when we were kids and then the boys and girls buildings got separated.
Long story short we got into the same college coincidentally and i had come out of a relationship in which the girl and i used to be friends prior to being in a relationship for 4 years and the breakup did take a toll on me mentally.
Zee and I became friends in A1 and like now we are in A2. We used to talk a lot and like she really helped me move on from that girl and like she also used to like me when we were kids. Long story short she developed feelings and so did I.
The feelings were too strong tbh and I had been in love before but this time it was different, it was too pure. I am in love with that girl so deeply and idts a girl better than her can even exist. I have talked with many girls and even had makeouts etc but this girl was different. If a fairy had descended on earth it would be her.
Her feelings for me are the same if not stronger. But long story short she and I were drinking coffee in our car and two police officers came and opened the door and harassed us illegally. One of them made our video ke aa naa mehram beithe hue saah etc and took our phones and everything gaari mein beithe ke. He forcibly took our parents ke numbers and said i have this video and i can make a dozen more from this one clip. He was basically blackmailing us and he incident was very traumatic for us and long story short I paid them 220k to leave us but he wasted sm of our time that Zee’s driver was outside her friends house and when i dropped her he saw that she came from somewhere else and told her parents and they found out that she loves me and i love her back. The police incident was so fucking traumatic he took his pistol out and placed it in the car to pressurise us further and because of him her parents found out as well.
I told my parents about the police thingy but zee didnt and Allah ka shukar her parents dont know abt that but the relationship thingy they were aware of and were angry with her. They didnt beat her or anything but said ab se oos se baat naa karna and she texted me this oon ko dikhane ke liye. Well she and I do talk roz very little bcs her parents are pressuring her roz but she did take a stand for us the day they found out by saying she wants to marry me and later told them that she will do anything they want but js let her marry me in the future and obv they said no because thats what parents do.
I have two sisters as well and ik parents are protective of their daughters bcs they think men arent serious at this age and they just are taking advantage of girls and tbh they are right but im absolutely serious abt her. Well again long story short zee and I decided to wait 2 years until we are in university ka second year and i can send rishta to her house and hopefully her parents agree.
I am praying to Allah roz 5 times and tahajjud as well for her and i hope she waits for me as well like im waiting for her. Zee’s cousin texted me saying she crys all the time everywhere and in the mall and said u guys can wait and we will help u tab as well and everything will get alright with time.
What should I do? Zee says she cant stop loving me and will wait but lekin her parents give her taane wagaira asw i dont want ke oon ke pressure mein aa ke she gives up.
All my siblings know about zee and im srs abt her and im going to tell my mother asw today. Tbh my family is chill and my parents have said apni marzi se shaadi karni jidhar bhi karni. And I come from a very wealthy family and like manage our factory alongside studies as well. Im also good looking (not self glazing) because a lot of girls initiate conversations with me khudse and send requests on social media platforms.
I really hope her parents agree in the future and she waits for me jaise I will wait for her. What do you guys think I should do? We arent talking utna jitna we used to bcs the incident is a week old and she is under watch and tbh its taking is a mentall toll thora on me but shes comforts me roz raat ko. Shes very nice and like never had a male friend or boyfriend except me and like never even had a man in her acc before me. Thats why im not scared that she will leave me for another guy but im scared that her parents will put too much pressure on her. Yet she continues saying I miss u alot and i cant stop loving u or lose u. What should I do?