r/PakistaniiConfessions

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NSFW, sorry in advance

me and my husband have known each other for years before marriage. never dated, but as we hit our 20s it was just kindof understood between us, and our families were happy with it too. we hung out a lot and attraction was always there.

he wanted to date before nikkah but I said no. after nikkah he tried again, i said let's just wait for rukhsati

anyway few months in now and everything is great. no major arguments or issues

except one thing which has been bothering me and i can't talk about this stuff with anyone tbh

our sex life is pretty active already, multiple times a week sometimes multiple times a day even, so it's not like I have low drive or an attraction issue or anytjing like that. im also not restrictive, im up for trying new stuff sometimes

but he wants more. he wants it to go on for longer, wants to switch things up multiple times even after I'm done, always wants to try something new, and he just doesn't get tired at all.

but I feel sore after a point and it's physically uncomfortable afterwards

he's never said anything bad about it or made me feel bad because he’s a nice guy but its kinda obvious uska mood off hai lately. hes not angry or rude but just unsatisfied or frustrated I guess. and its nerve wracking because i dont have anything to address but i know its causing him discomfort

we never discussed any of this before marriage obviously. so we weren't aware of this issue. I didn't even think there would be one

ive heard of so many cases of dead bedrooms or guys ending up looking elsewhere because they're not satisfied, and that men are sexual creatures, their sexual needs are important and they can do stuff if unfulfilled (i know this is more an individual or cultural thing but, hes a guy of our culture so)

I fully trust my husband and know he's not like that, but the anxiety still eats me up sometimes.

for context we both come from fairly liberal and educated backgrounds so it's not like we're shy or naive about this stuff but i still feel awkward in asking him upfront and idk if this is normal and perfectly okay or if it can raise concern

Ig im asking if anyone dealt with a drive difference like this? How is it handled.. does it end up becoming a long term issue or is it just something you live with? wld appreciate any insight

I wasnt planning on getting married anytime soon and I asked my mom to turn down rishtas for now. Then my 2nd cousin's proposal came and now Im so conflicted.

My mom seems eager about him. She tells me the whole unki bahu banna bari cheez hai narrative. Ive heard theyre a decent and nice family but I just can't get past certain things.

The biggest thing on my mind is the financial class difference. His family is comfortably upper class, they've always kinda been rich. We used to be in a similar bracket (though nowhere near them) when we lived abroad, but some financial setbacks happened because of my dad (who isn't in the picture anymore).

My mom has worked hard to keep our lifestyle and education consistent, so socially we're equal, but it's the income gap that's bothering me.

Honestly, ive heard too many stories of these crossclass marriages and girls never fully belonging. Idk if that applies here since our families are related but the anxiety is still very real. I'm scared i'll always be walking on eggshells or my family will be considered inferior due to the financial difference.

My mom has never pushed a rishta on me before, but this time I can tell it's different and I feel like this could ease the financial pressure she's been carrying (which is why I feel a bit guilty for hesitating).

About the guy, Ive only met him a few times before at dawats and he seemed nice.

His mom called mine like 2 months ago and since then we've talked, nothing very deep but he's respectful and socially smooth, kinda the polar opposite of my reserved self.

He's educated, works, and is fine with the women working thing aswell which is important for me. He even remembered small details from years ago which surprised me, but knowing him is different from marrying him.

I just can't fully look past the class factor. I only have a few weeks to give an answer bcs we don't want to waste anyone's time or drag this out.

Has anyone seen/been in similar situations or have any advice for what I should do? Does the class gap actually matter or am I overthinking this?

Ps. we're second cousins, not first!!

So… finally got some time on my hands now, was thinking of working on my own self and getting out of the whole emotional dependency thing.. so i thought of turning back to a show i really loved as a kid ( 22m btw)- phineas and ferb..

So i wanna do something new and learn a new skill or just work on everything i can this summer and build memories.

I have listed down the things i plan on doing and what i have already started…

i need suggestions on what else i can do within a budget ofc so please don’t say go to Antarctica to find a new species of amoeba

- work on my mental health- very hard but still on it and fighting through
-learn an instrument- learning the guitar 1-2 hours every night
-focus on skin care more
- gym - doing that got protein and everything
- build a professional portfolio- working on 3 personal projects and building a firm that i can slot in after i graduate
- follow a philosophical idea for 30 days and see what changes in my mentality- still searching for what to follow
-write and read more
-build a wardrobe for uni
-get rid of people that dont belong- doing that
- make a shortfilm- in process( writing the script and screenplay)
-build some online audience that might be interested in my art
-return to mma and learn it as an art not just a skill

Yeah so list suggestions… i got time till sept 22

I had a 3-year relationship with a girl. Initially, there was an issue from my family's side — they weren't agreeing to it, and a lot of marriage proposals were coming for her. I kept trying to convince my family, but they wouldn't agree, and because of this, she and I would fight every day. In the meantime, her engagement got fixed somewhere else — just a verbal 'yes' (haan), no formal engagement or nikkah yet.
During the 7 months that we didn't talk, I moved to Austria first, and then to Germany, trying to forget about her. I had almost moved on with my life. Then she told me her family was still looking for proposals for her, so in the meantime I talked to my family again and convinced them. But when we sent our proposal, she now says she can't talk to her father about refusing that other place where the 'yes' had been given, because he's a blood pressure patient and she's afraid something might happen to him.
Now I don't understand whether the girl is doing this on purpose or if it's genuinely like that... because after those 7 months, when we started talking again, she gave me some signals that made me feel like she's just using her father as an excuse. One day she said that if we got married, there would be no curiosity left because we already know everything about each other. Then another day she said that Pathans (I am Pathan) marry multiple times — her brother's friends are like that — and her brother had said something like that too. On top of this, she herself called me back, asking me to return. But now that they [her family] refused, I told her, 'You're the one who asked me to come back — send the proposal, I'll convince my family no matter what.' To this she says, 'I never said that, you came back on your own.'
I want suggestions — what do you all think about this — was it really a family issue, or is the girl just playing with me?

So i have a business idea in my mind and no im not going to share it here!! Also i have 4.8 million PKR to invest in it but this business would be both physical and online means online and offline too i also want to own the business too and this business will also provide services so here's my question since its a common business idea many in Pakistan would have already though about it but no one has yet launched this !! So i wanna make a store about my business too and a App about it too dyt 4.8m is enough for this ? Or should i get investors for it and if so where to find the investors?

So its been almost three years that since i got married and before that i was in relationship with my ex it was that deep young love but we broke up because of his behaviour toxicity my toxicity to some extent as well yeah so i never thought i would ever be able to find myself in this position again where i felt butterflies and all.

Before marriage i was that nerdy and wasn’t that confident used to live in delusions but my husband changed the way i think he slowly started changing my perceptions about life, my health, my finances and made me to analyse things critically and teach me how to analyse things and situations critically.

Now i don’t skip my work out no matter what and try to eat healthy while taking care of my calories count and i became more conscious about my spendings and so many positive changes which i have seen and felt.

The point of this confession is im falling in love with him and i guess marriage is not about feeling butterflies all the time its about to get the best outta your partner and mental stability.

I have observed that many female medical professionals wear white lab coats/aprons in public spaces far beyond the laboratory hospitals nd pharmacies Its common to see them at bus stops on public transport on bikes in cars in markets and even in shopping malls. It appears that only weddings and formal events remain as the few occasions where this practice is not yet widespread the obvious and clear purpose of wearing a lab coat is to protect against hygiene issues and prevent contamination cross contamination But here girls roam around wearing the same coat all over the city.
In the race for showoff (maybe) they violate professionalism and Sops…

I've been feeling so overwhelmed these past few days, and I've realized how badly I wish I had an elder sister.

I wish I had someone I could hug tightly whenever life feels too much. Someone I could be completely unfiltered with, someone who wouldn't mind me yapping for hours. Someone whose clothes and accessories I could borrow, and who'd probably borrow mine too.

I wish I had someone I could tell everything to, how heartbroken I feel when my parents argue, or when my brothers fight. Someone who would simply sit with me when I'm feeling low. Someone who'd be my company whenever I'm surrounded by strangers.

Someone who'd be my best friend for life.

I used to think maybe that's what a life partner is supposed to be, but I haven't really seen many marriages around me that feel like that. Maybe they exist, but I just haven't been lucky enough to witness them.

I wish I had an elder sister with whom I could laugh endlessly, argue over the most useless things, and ask dozens of questions, even the dumbest and most childish ones, without ever feeling embarrassed.

When I was younger, I did wish for an elder sister sometimes, but not this much. Now that I'm 20 and slowly seeing how life really is, I feel that missing piece more than ever. Being the middle child and the only sister among brothers can sometimes feel heavy.

Maybe that's why whenever I meet a younger girl who doesn't have a sister either, I naturally become protective of her. I spoil her, care for her, and love her as much as I can. I think I'm trying to give someone else what I wish I'd had.

I'm so grateful for all the friends and loved ones God has blessed me with. I count them among my biggest blessings. This isn't me being ungrateful.

I just sometimes wish I had a sister.

I feel like something is not right with me. I need to get checked if this is due to some nazar or asar. I am always angry, ready for a clash, never smile, feel sad and disappointed, work life seems crashing, not getting the deserved promotion and increment thats been due since long and lots more. Everything around me seems negative and ive started giving negative vibes to my family and friends. My marital life is also getting the impacts of it and I dont want to lose her.

Can I be checked as I feel like, as I said, is not right. please guide me to somebody who can assess the situation deeply, in Lahore.

PS: Alhamdulillah, prays 5 times and recites Quran with translation and tafseer daily. 🙄

unpopular opinion, i feel like pinterest is very underrated in pakistan, just like tumblr has been. i find it more asthetic, full of truly happy content, ideas, creativity than those fake socials. i hate IG at this point tbh cuz i dont subscribe yet new weridos come in my feed, and its just too much of dopamine drain at IG

any fellas here who also use pinterest? it'll be interesting to know others who also prefer pinterest these days 💅🏽💅🏽🔥🔥🔥

So yeah, I finally decided to walk away from him 2 months ago. And guess what?? He then confessed he loves me.
when he lost me. When I decided to leave. He CONFESSED!?!?!? But, how can he love me and treat me sooooooo trash????

Itna ganda treat kiya, ye kesi muhabbat thi??

But guess what I did? I REJECTED. HIM🤏🏻💅

Then he kept on begging me to give him a chance and how he was planning to propose me once I meet him but he was being rude because of many reasons he had issues in his life his ex was bothering him and also because I told her about him cheating on her bla bla blaaaaa.

I blocked him from everywhere. He went crazy and texted me from his friends phone. I blocked that too. And just said him clearly I don’t love u anymore I deserve better.

And yeah, that’s how my toxic talking stage ended.

It’s hard to reject the man you actually liked a lot. I mean I did like him. That’s why I tolerated his behaviour. Lekin, at that moment when he confessed the thing I desperately wanted to hear since so long . I felt like giving justice to my hurted soul. And I did exactly what I was supposed to do. 😌

I’m proud of myself

Bht summarise kiya hai, wrna bht Kuch tha.

Hello guys

My ex account was dard e disco.

A lot of things happened in life since i disappeared. Good and bad.

How are you all?

Hey everyone. Im a 25 yo girl living with mother - two siblings are abroad. My mother has anger issues but one thing I cant stand is her insulting me infront of the maid.

Like screaming and saying stuff like ‘ye tou aisi hai’ ‘tumhe sharam nai aati’ ‘aisi larki meine kabhi nahi dekhi’ … and the maid enjoys this of course.

All while making her clean my room.

I told her many times not to open my wardrobe infront of her but she does.

And always that please scold me anywhere but not infront of her.

I feel embarrassed after that.

Like after scolding me and screaming at me infront of the maid, she said go clean your room. I was like ‘aap ne meri maid ke samne kya izzat bachakay rakhi hai jo mein uske mun ke samne aun’

And that is true! I feel so super embarrassed infront of the maid.

My Amma is a horrible person. Because I have told her countless times not to do this.

Oh and she always speaks highly of the maid infront of me (I find it hilarious) and that itni achi bachi hai and compares me to her.

Am i over reacting or is this horrible?