r/PakistaniiConfessions

Okay so this happened like 10 years ago and I still randomly think about how absolutely unhinged the whole situation was.

I met this guy through an online gig I was doing. He added me on Facebook, we started chatting, and eventually things got… serious. Or at least I thought they were serious…

He kept telling me he was going to marry me once he got a full-time job. And because I was young, naive and apparently had unlimited patience, I WAITED. For like two years.

We’d go out for lunch, talk constantly, get more and more emotionally attached, and I genuinely thought there was a future here.

Then the day he finally landed a full-time job, I thought, “Okayyy, this is it. The moment has arrived.”

Nope.

He hits me with:
“Ammi nahi maan rahin.”

Apparently, his mother had already decided that his mamu ki beti was going to be his wife.

I was like… BRO?????
You made me wait TWO YEARS. You made promises. You talked about marriage. And now your entire defence is basically “my mom said no”?

But it gets better.

The following week, this man got engaged to the cousin.
And suddenly he went full Zaamil mode on me:
“Wo meri honay wali biwi hai. Agar main tumse rabta rakhunga toh uska gunahgaar hunga.”

Sir??? Where was this moral awakening during the two years of flirting, emotional attachment and everything else?

So naturally, my 20-something-year-old brain decided to make a completely rational and mature decision.

I sent his cousin screenshots of all his messages.

The love declarations.

The flirting.

The… sexting.

Everything.

And apparently she had already seen all of my messages too, so I basically just handed her the director’s cut.

I have absolutely no idea what happened after that BUT...
Shortly afterwards, this man started putting sui*/dal-looking DPs/statuses on all his social media accounts. So I assume the screenshots did something 👀

Anyway, wherever you are bro, I hope you’re doing great!
Actually, no. I hope you’re still miserable 🥲

Mujhe ni pta k yeh sai h yn glt but mainy reddit py sb ko English mei bt krty dekha ahi even in Pakistani subs Urdu mei bt kiun ni krty hum log mainy dekha hai real life mei bht kam log sari btein English mei krty Hain lkn social media py sb English mei bt krty Hain 50 mei Sy ik post Urdu mei ati h kiun ? Is it embarrassing yn English mei bt krna easy lgta instead of urdu ?

There is a high chance that alot of you are fathers here, i just want to understand the fathers perspective on his children, whether you treat daughters and sons the equal, whether everything that a father does for his family is unconditional or does he do it because he has to do it, could it be that a father doesn't like a specific child of his but has to bear with the child because after all its his child and not a undoable decision.

Now most of these questions are for people with kids who are relatively grown up, in there teens or so. Because obviously kids are an exemption as they are not yet shaped to anything(murad ye hai ke mtlb bachy tu masoom hoty apni choices ni make krty wo tu how can you have opinions and expectations from a mere kid)