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We had a free medical checkup week at our workplace. I decided to avail the opportunity... I mean why not? Some of these tests cost quite a significant amount. This was done as a collaboration between our company and one of the local hospitals.

I got my ECG test done that required me to go topless (relax, I'm a guy). The guy who did the test was a tall, well-built, white skinned Middle Eastern man, albeit bald.

While waiting in the queue for the consulting doctor with my test results, I heard this ECG guy tell a rather attractive, ebony colored Indian girl from our HR department: "Oh I would love to do an ECG test on you right here right now." You get the gist. And he said it in front of everyone.

As per what y'all champions of women rights preach, this is a form of unwarranted and inappropriate sexual advance/remark, no? Appearance of the guy shouldn't matter, because this is an unethical act regardless, no?

Instead, the girl laughed. She even playfully elbowed him and said "Oh I'd love that."

In a similar situation back at one of my previous workplaces in Pakistan, an average looking guy simply asked the new girl for her number so that he can add her to the department's Whatsapp group. She complained to the HR and they were almost on the verge of firing him.

So, my question is: Is it harrassment only if the guy is not attractive? How would you have reacted to it?

At what point do you girls decide that such remarks are playful flirting and not harrassment?

I'm genuinely curious. I prefer to keep my personal and professional life separate and keep a healthy, professional distance from the female colleagues at work. But the dual standards really baffle me.

I'm 35m. Moved here back in March. Although I love how peaceful and secure this city is compared to mine back in my homecountry, I just can't get over the fact that the place makes you feel lonely.

I mean I'm not a very social person myself. I prefer to keep a company of 2-3 good friends instead of a large gathering of shallow connections. But darn it!!!! Even an introverted guy like me is started to feel it.

No one here smiles. No one talks. Everyone just feels like a drone going about their business. Everyone just seems so..... miserable. It's as if life has been sucked out of them and they are just hollow shells of their former selves.

My colleagues tell me to "go out more, talk to people, live a little". How? Everyone sticks to themsleves, there's not much to do here (at least as far as I know of), and travelling to Dubai every day or so isn't feasible, financially and logistically.

To add variety to my routine, I joined a gym. I go there after work four times a week. This was so that that I can remain in shape and keep my mood regulated. But gym only helps so much.

Am I the only one who feels this way? Or is it just a phase everyone faces during their early days of moving here?

I found a tiny kitten last week in a dark alley near my house. Hardly a month old by the looks of it. It's eyes were crusted shut and it was skin and bones.

I got him treated that night and brought him in because I couldn't bear to leave it where I found it because I know a kitten this small won't survive the streets.

The dilemma I face is that I cannot take care of it as it requires to be fed every 2-3 hours, whereas I go to work at about 7.30 in the morning and return after 8.30 in the evening. I am single and I live alone so I don't have anyone else to take care of it in my absence.

Therefore, can someone suggest an active cat shelter in Sharjah that can take in this pour soul? I looked up online and came across a few options, but none of their contact numbers are functional. There is Sharjah Cats and Dogs Shelter, which I believe is a government-run facility. I tried to reach out to them but their number isn't functional and it is quite far from my place, so I need to know if it is still operational before I hire a cab to take the kitten there.

Another option is a foster cat. If any one of you have a cat that's able to nurse it, that would be great too. Or better, if you would like to adopt the kitten.

I can provide the feeding bottle and kitten milk replacement powder I bought for the little guy last week for free.