pls i need real help!
Hey guys, I’m in a long-distance relationship, and it’s been almost 2 years. But the crazy part is that we actually fell in love around 6 years ago.
My girlfriend is from Pakistan and I’m from India. If you know the history between these two countries, you probably understand how complicated that can make things. Somehow, despite all of that, we found each other and have managed to stay together for almost 7 years now.
Her birthday is on August 26th, and this year I really want to do something special for her. I don’t want it to be like every other year.
Last year, I made her a whole website and an Instagram-related surprise, which was completely online. This year, I really want to give her something physical, even if it’s something as simple as flowers.
The problem is that I’m in India and she’s in Pakistan. Because of the restrictions between the two countries, I can’t travel there, I can’t directly order something for her from here, and I can’t make payments to someone in Pakistan. Basically, the usual “order flowers and have them delivered” option isn’t possible for me.
I’ve been thinking about contacting her best friend. She knows about me and our relationship, but I’ve never actually spoken to her before. I could ask her if she’d be willing to get my girlfriend some flowers and give them to her on her birthday, telling her they’re from me. But the problem is that she would have to pay for them herself, and I really don’t want someone else paying for my gift.
Another option is her cousin. He knows about me and I’ve spoken to him several times, so it wouldn’t be as awkward. But again, I can’t send him money, so I’m stuck with the same problem.
I genuinely don’t know what to do, and I could really use some creative ideas.
Please don’t suggest things like “just video call her,” “make her a video,” or “make another website.” I’ve already done the online stuff. This time I specifically want to do something physical or something genuinely unexpected that she can actually experience and remember.
I know the situation sounds ridiculously complicated, but I really want to make her birthday special. She means the world to me, and if I could physically be there, I would. Unfortunately, that isn’t possible right now.
So please give me your most creative ideas. If you think I should contact her best friend or cousin, tell me how you’d handle it without making them feel obligated to spend their own money. Or if you have a completely different idea that I haven’t thought of, I’d genuinely love to hear it.
Thank you.