r/PakistaniTwenties

Every day, it feels like Pakistani subs are full of gender wars. Honestly, sometimes I feel like taking a break from Reddit because so many of these posts are just exhausting and toxic.

So, let’s do something different for a change.

No bashing. No stereotypes. No “men are like this” or “women are like that.”

Instead, tell us something you genuinely like, appreciate, or admire about the opposite gender.

Maybe it’s a personality trait, something they do, the way they handle certain situations, or even something small that you find endearing.

Let’s spread some positivity for once. 🫶

What’s something you genuinely appreciate about the opposite gender?

Edit: Here's my compliment: Log kehte hain na, aurat makan ko ghar bana deti hai, sach kehte hain.

It’s because of women, wives, mothers, sisters, and friends, that life feels fuller. They turn houses into homes, moments into memories, and bring a femininity that is simply unmatched.

They don’t just add to your life, they make it feel worth living.

I am searching for the spouse in a non traditional manner where I am not looking for typical arrange setup neither looking for proper relationships, this struggle of staying in between of love and arrange marriage made me interact with several specimen of men and left me with doubts, shock and disgust.

Got matched with a guy on Muzz (yeah I know but I tried) guy looked decent enough, educated, equal social standing, and religiously inclined too. We started talking and the confessions he made were ridiculous. I don't know if its my empathy that let people open up that much or my bad luck because its making me feel as an odd one out.

Guy was trying to tell me how he always looked for respectable woman like me, who doesn't believe in relationships and is 'untouched by filth'. He kept confessing how he has been involved with several women but it was not a physical relationship just ma**out, B*s, fin**ring, se*ting. But he was bold enough to shift the blame.

Women throw themselves at me, and by the end of same conversation guy said

'hum larkay kaafi ha**mi hotay hain, hamay pata hay larki ko kese turn on karna hay, let her throw herself at you and its not on you, its on her'

It disgusted me to the core, and ofcourse guy was blocked, but at the end of market research my mind just came up with the question

Girls who dated, or were in any form of relationships, do you think that your guy was the one actually suggesting it, he coerced you but you were the one making first move?

I just want to remind you girls, its not worth it, first these (insert gaali) will seduce you, coerce you and once you give up he is going to go around talk shit how all women are whore and he needs a pure wife for him, the audacity of such men calling themselves as religious.

Search for a good partner seems like a lost cause 🫤 This process is making me lose faith now.

Here is my 220 IQ date Tip chat for the men (or women maybe) if you are on a date and the bill arrives Grab the folder smoothly. No dramatic Punjabi movie level wrestling over the bill, just pay it with a smile like a gentleman. If she insists on splitting, smile and say, "Next one is on you."
Boom. You just secured date number two. Works like a charm.

I think that too much awareness or being too much aware way too early is not okay for someone like it takes away ur joy. I see people around me who are delusional, like not delusional per se but like they so much unaware. But they are "happy" which im not. I see them laugh over silly things. I see the waste money over useless and worldly things and im like are they stupid or what. Like for me those things make them happy and being happy is i guess what matters in ur life and if they're getting their happiness from those things, good for them.

For me, i don't find happiness like in general. The best thing i can say for me is to sit with a couple of my friends and talk about random shit and that makes me happy for a while cuz that makes me forget about the shit about which im mostly worried and think about most of the time. Other than this time, neither am i happy nor do i talk alot.

I guess this is the very reason i hate coming home and avoid confronting things.