u/GuyWhoChills12

I have very serious question for all men and women.

I have been seeing posts about ( idk reddit keeps giving me martial posts) ,

rants saying :

>By women saying men wanting only homemakers , and not able to find someone who would support them.

>and men ranting they can't find homemaker anymore.

>Women complaining they cant find men wanting to fully provide anymore..

I got curious and started reading surveys and gallop pakistan report and shockingly

>61% of totak women in pakistan are actually willing wanting to be homemakers (Reality figure is 73% , where 12% is forced to leave jobs)

>50%-55% of total educated women (BS holders) wanting a homemaker rolw willing.

>Now for men around 42% of total men are okay with having a working wife.

>And 55% to 60% of educated men (Bs holders) are okay with having a working wife.

>Now for provisional structure : Around 70 to 75 percent men are of 100% provisional mindset

>Around 20 percent is Hybrid model of wifes helping somewhat and less than 5 are actually wanting 50/50 split.

SO MY QUESTION IS THE DEMOGRAPHIC SEEMS QUITE BALANCED TO ME , THEN WHY CANT THOSE PEOPLE FIND EACH OTHER? OR MAYBE IS THAT OTHER SPECIFIC DEMANDS LIKE HOW MUCH IS THE MAN EARNING? ( AND THE REVERSE EQUIVALENT OF WHATEVER THAT IS FOR WOMEN , NO OFFENCE I JUST DONT KNOW).

SO WHY DONT THEY FIND EACHOTHER?

What is the primary reason of not wanting a career women?

For those who say , its a man obligattion to earn and provide ( no question of this , fully agreed with this part) , would you be okay with her earning if she manages household work , or is it no to earning in general even if she does not do household work.

And those who want thier wives to stay at home for rasing their children , would be okay with her working before kids and after kids have grown up , would you also be open to delaying kids until after they have acheived a milestone in career they want (assuming they are fully okay and content with leaving career after they have acheived the milestone they wanted)

EDIT : PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL WITH EACH OTHERS PREFERENCES, EVERYONE IS FREE TO HAVE THEIR OWN PREFERENCES EITHER IT BE A WOMEN OR MEN

I recently saw a discussion in this sun asking how much a husband should contribute if his wife earns, and the overwhelming answer seemed to be: “Nothing, her money is hers.”

So I’m curious about the equal opposite:

If the husband is the sole/primary earner, should the wife be expected to contribute in other ways to the marriage and household? If so, what would be a fair expectation?

Cooking? Cleaning? Managing the home? Supporting his career? Taking care of children? Or should everything be split 50/50 regardless of who earns what?

I am not trying to disrespect someone or start a gender war , just a genuine curious question.

EDIT : PLS BE RESPECTFUL AND IF YOU DO BOT AGREE WITH SOMEONE , YOU ARE FREE TO DISCUSS BUT DONT DISRESPECT ANYONE

I'm curious about something and would appreciate honest opinions.

I have a very minimally trimmed islamic beard and was kinda of curious about something.

Do you find a natural Islamic beard (one that's left uncut or only minimally trimmed) attractive? Or do you think most women who marry a man with that type of beard simply accept it because it's part of religious practice rather than genuinely finding it attractive?

And if i would like the person who marries me in future to be genuinely okay with it or like it can i do something or just accept the fact?

I'm asking out of genuine curiosity and would appreciate respectful, honest answers from different perspectives.

I'm curious about something and would appreciate honest opinions.

I have a very minimally trimmed islamic beard and was kinda of curious about something.

Do you find a natural Islamic beard (one that's left uncut or only minimally trimmed) attractive? Or do you think most women who marry a man with that type of beard simply accept it because it's part of religious practice rather than genuinely finding it attractive?

And if i would like the person who marries me in future to be genuinely okay with it or like it can i do something or just accept the fact?

I'm asking out of genuine curiosity and would appreciate respectful, honest answers from different perspectives.

Or when the talk started off as necessary, but now its joy talk ot casual talk and then suddenly the feeling comes and you try to end the talk as soon as possible or specifically when you dm someone tab to with reason with cheating feel hoti hai.

I mean who ever will be married to me in the future , not fiance or anything as such.

Or when the talk started off as necessary, but now its just casual talk and then suddenly the feeling comes and you try to end the talk as soon as possible or specifically when you dm someone tab to with reason with cheating feel hoti hai.

I mean who ever will be married to me in the future , not fiance or anything as such.

Not the traditional loving , trust worthy , caring , loyal etc something that people usually dont say..