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Firstly plz don't judge me,so in short my brought up was liberal and I belong to a rich family, but ab I've turned religious and i want to marry,but i instantly loose interest ina girl if she wears a hijab or even dress moderately,i get repelled from a girl who wears a hijab or dresses moderately, and I do prefer immodest girls(but not those party bad girls)

I don't do this purposefully,but it's my sub conscious,bcz of my brought up, now as you might know that a man is sinful if his wife dresses Immodestly and i don't want to be sinful,i need a solution to it, and is this the case with all guys who had privileged and liberal childhood or is it just me?

Disclaimer:plz don't judge me, I'm really going through this problem,and istg I'm not making it up,i can't even talk to my friends about it, kindly give the solution and answer my question

Its been a while i did this and i want to partner to yap and listening their yapping

Note impromptu speaking only

my other post got removed so had to post here.

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Firstly i sometimes wonder why's there no debate house or intellectual centre in Pakistan,like not even 1 which might be famous,yea there's one liberal one the black hole lol,but uski toh bat hi choro

So guy's let's open one where intellectual discussion hon and debates on the topics like politics, religion, philosophy, psychology, history,current affairs

Like atleast 3 times a week and we could also invite guests with good intellect or even with good following so that our centre could get good reach and publicity

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Hey there beautiful people. I just wanted to understand few things as I struggle to understand the way our generation is understanding stuff . My circle in university is pretty good like they value deen and Islam and also follow modern mindset as well . However for the past weeks I have been meeting newer people and I had chats with them and one things lead to another and eventually it comes to haram or unlawful stuff like zina mainly. I have found out that majority of these peeps including girls are sex regularly and I didn’t bring Islam they did ! Like they argue with me that it’s a human needs and we are living in current timeline where these things are normal and we should adjust society and all those excuses. When I say it’s clearly haram then either they find me religious or extremist or even narcissist guy . I do mind my own business but yea I won’t deny the fact that this thinking of them arguing with Allah laws and other stuff isn’t this shirk like you are literally denying the things that are forbidden so is this shirk ? Again I’m not interested in their life . They were the ones who approached and we became friends and things went on .

Assalam o Alaikum everyone,

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Came across something and want an opinion on it. So basically the jist is that a woman says she got proposed to when her dressing sense was western (she mentioned shirt and pants) and now the husband wants her to do abaya.

My question is, okay the husband has his preferences, maybe hes too possessive etc but he might propose this arrangement to be at ease and for his satisfaction. Okay. Can the woman ask in exchange for him to earn more? Or to be more physically fit? Like propse something so they both are striving towards something and doing something challenging rather then just the wife.

my (20m) fiancee (20f) is a very compulsive and chronic liar and i realized it right before we got engaged, and i cant deal with it anymore

i genuinely dont know what to do anymore and i need advice from people outside my circle because ive reached a point where i feel mentally exhausted all the time and severely depressed because of her

my fiancee is 20f and we’ve known each other for almost 4 years now since we met at an a levels academy when we were both 16. she was always quiet and only really had 2 or 3 friends including me and i became the closest person in her life pretty quickly. i knew early on that she had mental health issues and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and severe anxiety and she’s on medication for it. her mom also has severe anxiety and is medicated too so i always tried to be understanding and patient about everything because i know these things arent easy having been diagnosed with clinical depression myself that took me alot of time and patience to pull through with,

but the biggest issue is that she lies constantly and i mean CONSTANTLY. not even about big things only. she’ll lie about the most basic everyday stuff for literally no reason at all. things that dont even benefit her to lie about. if i confront her she either denies it even when there’s proof or somehow twists it back onto me and makes me feel guilty for bringing it up. sometimes she'll start crying or get angry and suddenly "stressing her out" it genuinely makes me feel like im losing my mind and gives me really bad guilt and anxiety because i cant tell whats real anymore half the time

before we got engaged i tried to leave her twice because of this and because the relationship was becoming emotionally draining for me but both times she threatened to hurt herself if i left. she used to self harm before too and i was terrified something would happen and all of it would come to me so i stayed. i know some people will probably say that's manipulation and maybe it is but at the same time i also know she’s mentally unstable and i felt horrible abandoning her and I honestly got really attached to her aswell

her father passed away around 2 years ago and she was very close to him. after that things honestly got even worse emotionally. her mood swings became more intense and unpredictable. one day she'll be loving and telling me im the only person she has and the next day she'll get angry at me over something tiny or completely out of the blue and act cold and hostile for hours or days. i feel like im constantly very careful trying not to trigger another argument

the thing is i fought HARD for this relationship. convincing my mother to agree to our engagement was extremely difficult especially because my family knew about her mental health history and the self harm and everything else. i defended her constantly and kept saying she just needed support and love and that things would improve with time. we’ve been physical a few times before engagement but nothing sex related and i genuinely believed i was doing the right thing by standing by her no matter what

but now i honestly feel trapped. i love her and i care about her deeply but i feel emotionally manipulated all the time. she’ll lie directly to my face about obvious things and then somehow make me apologize by the end of the conversation. sometimes she’ll accuse me of not caring about her enough if i want space after an argument. if i sound tired she immediately assumes im leaving her and starts panicking or guilt tripping me. i cant even focus properly on my own life anymore because my mood depends entirely on what mood she’s in that day

i also feel guilty even writing this because outside of me basically nobody knows about her issues. her other friends have no idea about the lying or self harm or breakdowns or any of this stuff. to everyone else she just seems shy. meanwhile i feel like im carrying this huge emotional weight alone by myself and suffering bc of it too

i dont know if this relationship is fixable or if im just staying because i feel responsible for her mental health and scared of what she might do if i leave, which is why i came here to ask you guys if this ever realistically get better? i cannot convince her to go to therapy which ive suggested alot of times and she says she will but never acts on it, i feel drained all the time and i dont even recognize myself anymore because of my fiancee even tho shes a very sweet, nice and gorgeous person and my friends all tell me ke I made a good choice settling w a person who i like and getting engaged early in uni, but im starting to doubt that

tldr: my 20f fiancee who has bipolar disorder and severe anxiety is a compulsive chronic liar and lies about even the smallest pointless things constantly. whenever i confront her she either denies it or twists it back on me and makes me feel guilty. i tried leaving twice before engagement because the relationship was emotionally draining but she threatened to hurt herself if i left. i fought hard to convince my family to accept the engagement despite knowing about her mental health issues and now i feel trapped exhausted anxious and emotionally manipulated all the time. she refuses therapy even though ive begged her to go and i dont know if this relationship is realistically fixable anymore or if im just staying out of guilt and attachment

So early morning today! I blame both going to bed early and the weird sleep paralysis dream I saw....

well after pacing around making sure my limbs were working I decided to Pray and ask Him for help and protection.

Dreams are funny in the way they can actually dictate how you wake up feeling. I've had ones in which I wake up happy and raring to go and also others in which I just panic sweat and forcefully wake up. Strange how your subconscious mind works sometimes.

well it's too late to sleep now as past experience has taught me I'm never going to be able to make it to work on time if I decide to doze off at this time. So I'm just going to read from the new pile of books I ordered recently.

To anyone reading this I hope you wake up happy and raring to go and hopefully your dreams were peaceful. have a good day everyone!

I mean are some people really born cursed or born with very bad luck

Disclaimer:this question is not for the pure liberals or atheists,this question is only for moderately religious,semi liberal or religious people,and only guys who belong upper middle class and upper class should reply to this

Question 1)if you had to choose between a hijabi girl and a girl who dresses Immodestly or dresses moderately,who would you choose? you have to choose between a hijabi and a girl who dresses Immodestly/moderately

Question2)is hijab a turn off for you in a girl?do you get repelled from a girl or loose interest in her if she wears a hijab?

I'm asking these questions bcz I'm doing a research so i needed this information

Hi everyone. I’m pregnant with my first baby and really confused about what to do.

Right now I’m in the UAE on my dad’s visa and I also have a Golden Visa, so financially and medically things here are more stable for me. The main issue is my husband’s visit visa got rejected twice already, so I’m scared that by September things still might not work out and he may not be able to come and be with me during delivery.

The other option is going to Pakistan, where emotionally I’d feel closer to him and less alone, but there would be more stress financially and overall management-wise.

I genuinely don’t know what matters more right now emotional support or stability/security.

For people who’ve been through something similar: • What mattered more for you emotionally vs financially?

•	Did being away from your partner during this time affect you a lot?

Would really appreciate honest opinions from anyone who has gone through something similar.

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