r/PakistanMarriages

I work as a Cloud & DevOps Engineer and recently wrapped up my BSc in Computer Science. Alongside the technical side, I've also done leadership and community work in the past, so I'd say I'm someone who's comfortable both building things and guiding people through them.

Long term, I want to grow into enterprise-level infrastructure architecture, not just maintain systems but actually design them. I'm also seriously considering a Masters abroad at some point, mainly because I want to relocate and grow my career outside Pakistan eventually, so that's a real part of my plan, not just a maybe.

I'm hands-on by nature, I don't just want to know how something works, I want to understand why, and that shows up in how I approach most things in life, not just work. Alongside the technical side I also do creative stuff, it balances out the logic-heavy parts of my day. I'm someone who genuinely loves to listen, and I've always naturally ended up guiding or leading people, whether that's at work or outside it. I'm direct, I say what I mean, I don't do games or mixed signals, and I expect the same back. PS I'm 5'11, and I sing really bad too, figured I'd be upfront about both.

What I'm looking for:

• Someone kind and ambitious in her own right, doesn't need to have it all figured out, just needs to be moving somewhere
• Age around 21-26
• Would consider a yapper too, I love when people yap to me
• Someone I can actually talk to, real conversations, not just surface level
• Open minded but still rooted in faith, same as me
• If she's also open to eventually relocating abroad, that's a big plus, but not a dealbreaker right away

I'm not doing this casually, I'm looking for something that actually leads somewhere. If this sounds like your kind of person, reach out.

Looking for a man so I don't have to get into arranged marriage setup in 1-2 years.....

My requirements for a man

• Ambitious, kind, outgoing fun and decent looking person
• Around 23-28 age
• Nuclear setup ( I don't like the concept of joint family )
• Should be able to listen to my rants ( I don't have much people to share my problems with )
• Financial literacy ( I am huge into stocks, investments and funds )

What I bring to table : I am F23 sort of boring woman when my day is filled with work but the moment I step out the whole vibe changes. I like going out spending time with friends discussing issues and having good time. I am kind but can be rude at times too. I know how to cook and etc and have gone through many experiences in life so sort of thick skin now.

Apart from all of these things I get attached easily and I am a loving person. Muslim but not extremist and open minded to some extent. I am highly ambitious and believe only sky is the limit I am a decent looking woman nothing extraordinary but yeah people love my long hair lol.

If this makes sense to you reach out ( I want to move abroad after completing my studies rn I manage both work and study so life is pretty much hard )

Hi, I’m 28F, 5'5", chubby, and currently working on becoming a healthier version of myself so yes, the character development is still very much in progress. 😂 I’m from Lahore and come from a small family. I’m the middle child, with an older brother and a younger sister, which means I’ve had plenty of experience being both the responsible one and the one who gets away with things.

I’ve recently completed my MPhil and am a little introverted at first. It takes me some time to open up, but once I’m comfortable with you, I can become surprisingly extroverted and probably talk your ear off.

I love reading, and I have a particular weakness for Jane Austen. So yes, somewhere in my head I’m still waiting for my Mr. Darcy preferably with the devotion, emotional maturity and witty banter, but without the unnecessary misunderstandings and poor communication. 😂 I’m flexible on the estate.

Movies and shows are another major part of my personality. If there’s a plot twist, psychological trauma, a suspiciously dark basement, or someone making terrible decisions in a horror movie, chances are I’ve watched it. I love horror, slashers and thrillers, and I’m especially fond of foreign films Korean, Indonesian, and basically anything that introduces me to a different style of storytelling.

I’m looking for someone to have shaam ki chai and morning coffee with. Someone I can share my deepest and most unhinged thoughts with, send ridiculous memes to, and have completely unnecessary “okay, hear me out…” debates with about everything under the sun.

I’m quite content in my own little corner of the world, but I’d love to travel with the right person discover new places, try food we can’t pronounce, get lost somewhere, and pretend it was all part of the itinerary.

Faith is an important part of my life as well. I pray and fast and try to keep my faith woven into my everyday life, so I’d want a partner who values his religion and practices it too. I’m not looking for perfection just someone who is sincere about his faith and wants to grow in it together.

As for you: kind, emotionally mature, well-read, able to articulate your thoughts, and capable of making me laugh. Someone who knows how to communicate, has a good sense of humour, and is genuinely ready to build a life with someone.

I’m not looking for a literal Regency-era aristocrat. Just someone who feels like home, but with better banter.

So, if you’re looking for your favourite person, movie discussion partner, travel companion, occasional source of unsolicited opinions, and someone to annoy lovingly for the next 50 years…

Hello. I may be accepting applications. 👋😂

Modern women are the most confused generation in human history and perhaps nobody talks about that openly.

She wants an independent life, yet expects a man to pay for everything. She wants equality, yet still wants a man to protects, provides, plans, and approaches. She wants a masculine man, but sometimes labels masculinity as toxic. She keeps her options open “just in case,” yet still wants commitment.

She wants to be treated like a queen, but brings little to the table that actually helps build a kingdom.

And that confusion isn’t entirely her fault. She was told she could have everything without necessarily having to give anything in return and she believed it.

Now, she has reached 30 feeling alone, disappointed, and wondering why the person she wants doesn’t want her back.

What do you think?

(Sharing the content of a random Instagram reel for discussion, not endorsing every idea or statement expressed in it.)

Not giving in to the traditional rishta process so hopefully this works out this time. Otherwise, it’s time to go out and touch grass and disappear to a farm in hunza!

I’m a 26 year old guy, 5’10, and on the thin/lean side. I like to stay active and am trying to keep health as a primary goal for this year 🏃

Born and raised in Islamabad, living in Pindi side currently and in a joint family system!

A bit about my personality:
Hmm, still not sure how one describes themselves in just a few paragraphs because there’s so to every human out there! INFJ-A according to that online quiz, amazing according to my siblings. All together solid 4.8/5 if I was a uber rating.

On a serious note, I like depth in conversations as much as I like random yap. Philosophy, history, random thoughts(why water is blue why¿ pyramid big, how?), movies, art, any and everything is can be interesting to talk about as long as everyone involved is willing to listen.

I love creating memories and spending quality time. Some days its playing some sports, other days its yapping and board game night, or just chilling at home. I try to get out of my comfort zone whenever I can, especially to gain new experiences. This can be in different forms like trying new type of dish(even though I’m not a foodie), walking around in a new area, traveling, building a new lego set.

I am an introvert at heart I think, but I have learnt communication skills over the years so I can come off as an extrovert. Love learning and growing as much as I can!

I take my time to think, and sometimes overthink but never one to shy off from difficult conversations as long as it’s necessary and has useful outcome. However…. if your words hurt someone deeply, it’s better to let it go and not say it even if it’s the truth.

Other than this, I think about digital issues and ethics every now and then. Not daily but sometimes I’ll do a quick read on AI trend and how they’ll impact users, to how marketing can psychologically impact behaviour, etc. I like content creation as well, and the thought of inspiring people through storytelling really makes me happy so I keep an eye on artsy trends and related content. Other than this I enjoy a good walk, driving around in nice weather.

Religious views:
I’d like to think I’m in the middle. I’m liberal in some aspects and conservative in others. The classic paradox some of us feel. I listen to music, watch movies, and have all types of friends.

At the same time, I don’t smoke/drink, lie, don’t believe in mixing culture with religion. I pray 5 times a day, however, I do struggle with the timing, especially Fajr, and hope to get better at it!

Over the past 5 years, series of events have made religion an important aspect in my life, and it guides me in a lot of aspects like career planning, patience, risk taking etc. However, it’s honestly no credit toward me that I started wanting to be better at this but rather a blessing that I was lucky enough to receive alhamdullilah. I’m anywhere close to being the best/perfect Muslim, however, it’s close to my heart and I would love to strive to be better Muslim with my partner.

Career and goals:
My great friends overthinking, procrastination and high ambition are currently paving the path to where I should go.

The short term goal is to acquire as much knowledge as I can through jobs, online sources, and build a network. After which I’d like to start something of my own for a bunch of reasons!

Currently I’m in media/tech on the analysis and product side. In the long term(1-2 years) a PhD, content creation, and a few other ideas are on the plate. As things pan out, I’ll hopefully have more clarity by end of this year Insha Allah!

What I’m looking for:
Communication is a huge deal to me. Every marriage has challenging times, however, mutual respect and boundaries should never be crossed. It should always be a ‘us against problem’ mindset, and this mindset works best when you’re willing to talk and hear each other out

I think of myself as someone who listens very intently when it comes to the people I care, especially in moments of seriousness, so I end up remembering lots of things that people often forget. It’ll be great to have a partner who has the same level of attention to detail and support too!

No one is perfect and I’m sure I have my fair share of flaws or things someone may find annoying, however, marriage to me is not about finding someone who can fix you or give you something you lack. I see it like a partnership where two individuals who are doing well on their own and can take care of themselves alone but choose to come together and go on the journey of life together.

“And then we get to choose who we let into our weird little worlds”, you’re absolutely goated if you know which movie this is from

Dealbreaker:
- Anyone who does not want anything to do with religion or thinks they are better because they are religious
- vaping, abusive language, or rudeness to strangers
- Inability to initiate conversations at all or keep the conversation flowing
- Not paying attention to the people you love.
- if you hate adventure or are lazy in your approach to life
-since I’m a bit skeptical about Reddit, someone close to Islamabad/lahore area would make it easy to manage logistically

I have a provider mindset, however, in this economy I unfortunately can’t retire at 26 or go on that euro trip every month. For me, it’s a matter of when, not how Insha Allah! But regardless, thought I’d mention this as it can be a deal breaker for some and that’s completely fair!

Timeline:
Also I’m not in a rush, I’d like to get to know the person and take it slow because there’s too many bad stories out there

Thank you so much for attending my ted talk! If you think we’d be compatible, feel free to DM me with details about yourself and please don’t send one line. I’d appreciate a summary with enough details so that we can talk more on our values, perspectives, and thoughts!

BASIC INFORMATION

Age: 28 (Slim, dusky brown)

Height: 5'6"

Weight: 48 Kg

Marital Status: Single / Never Engaged or Married

Residence: Lahore (Born and raised)

Education: I did my Bachelors in Electrical Engineering and am currently pursuing an MS from LUMS.

Work: Currently working part-time online. I am ambitious and intend to pursue a full-time professional career after completing my Master’s degree.

Family Background: I belong to a decent, respectable middle-class family deeply rooted in Lahore. I am one of three sisters. The eldest sister is happily married, and my younger sister is unmarried.

ABOUT ME

PROS:

1. I try my best to follow my deen (Islam). I dress modestly.
2. I am very respectful, responsible, kind, loving, and understanding.
3. I think I look good, attractive and younger than my age because of my height-to-weight ratio and hair but if dusky/brown skin and mild acne issues are a turn-off for you, then this profile isn't right for you.
4. I like simple marriages (close family Nikah types or something simple and Islamic).
5. I enjoy reading, watching movies and seasons, and just having fun. I would love to travel more in the future since I haven't had the chance to do it much yet.

NOTE: If you are looking for someone whose family is financially very strong and who will bring a lot of dowry, then again, this profile isn't a right fit for you. In our family, we do give our daughters as much as we can, but since I belong to a middle-class family and am pursuing an MS from LUMS, whatever there was for me is going there (invested in my future on my demand).

CONS:

1. I don't know how to cook (I am not proud of it, but it never interested me. I have always been more academic and career-oriented, so I mostly preferred that over almost every other thing).
2. I can be overly emotional at times.

WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR (IN ORDER OF PREFERENCE):

1. Deen: Should take deen and Akhirah seriously. I am not looking for someone who is perfect in deen or thinks he is perfect in deen and just wants to correct and judge others. But someone who tries his best to be on deen. Trying and trying your best is all that matters, I feel.
2. Respectful: Respect is non-negotiable to me. I myself have huge respect for each and every human being (and living beings) regardless of their gender, religion, skin color, ethnicity, and opinions. I would like my partner to be respectful not only towards me but all women and all living beings.
3. Loyal & Emotionally Available: He should be a one-woman man who is loving, caring, God-fearing, and very loyal. He shouldn't be someone who thinks looking at other girls, talking to them too frankly or flirting is harmless and alright.
4. Protective and Providing: I wrote providing, although I am someone who feels shame taking even a penny from anyone. But the reason I wrote it is because I like that nature. By protective, I mean someone who knows how to support and stand by his woman at all times. Someone who understands that a woman needs protection, pampering, and providing in a way that doesn't feel forced, but rather comes from a place of love and appreciation.
5. Open Communication and Conflict Resolution: Someone who values talking openly and fixing issues together.
6. Preferred Age Bracket: 28 – 32 (flexible and negotiable).

Please share your profile only if you are serious and ready for marriage (involving families asap) along with your 3-5 (more/ less) non negotiables.

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🔅>-Marital status: Seperated (Short lived marriage) No kids.

🔅>-Age: 28 years old

🔅>-Height: 5'4

🔅>-Weight: 57 kg

🔅>-Complexion: Wheatish

🔅>-Education: Masters

🔅>-College/University: Punjab University

🔅>-Source of income: Lecturer

🔅>-Sect (Maslak) : Sunni (Deobandi)

🔅>-Cast : Arian

🔅>-Disability : None

🔅>-Personality traits: INTJ, Eldest daughter, Capricorn, Ambivert and Otrovert

🔅>-Spiritually: Practising Modest Muslim (non-hijabi/burqa; keen in Namaz,Roza,Zakat)

🔅>-Hobbies: I enjoy Walks, Researching, Reading, Series, Podcasts, Gardening, Baking, Home making, Family time etc.

*FAMILY STATUS* - Middle class self made family

🔅>-Father, Cash Manager

🔅>-Mother, Housewife

🔅>- Siblings,

1 younger brother (Working at a software company)

1 younger sister (Studying in BS)

🔅>-Residence: Own House in Lahore

🔷 *REQUIREMENT* 🔷

🔅>-Marital status: Divorced/Widowed (without kids)

🔅>-Financial Status: Stable

🔅>-Age: Compatible

🔅>-Height: Compatible

🔅>-Education : Professional Degree

🔅>-Sect : Sunni (Deobandi)

🔅>-Cast: Any (preferably Arian)

🔅>-House: Own

🔅>-City: LAHORE ONLY

🔅>-Country: Pakistan

🔅>- Family Involvement: Immediately if profile feels compatible so the process is honest and transparent without wasting each others time.

🔅>-Marriage Timeline: 6 months to a year.

🔷 More details🔷

🔅We are a small, close-knit, and very simple family and would prefer a Decent and Educated family too.

🔅No plan of reallocation or leaving Job after marraige

🔅We have help to manage with work at home and would prefer that arrangement.

🔅Family Setup: Nuclear family system. Open to live with in-laws for where the privacy, space and life is respected. Probably, a separate portion within the same house.

🔅>-Children: Yes.

🔅>-Would Prefer a Simple Nikkah.

🔅I think the foundation for a good marriage lies in friendship, respect and understanding. Hence I seek a Man of Taqwa who is Responsible and Considerate.

🔅>-I believe most issues arise due to assumptions and interferences and would like to properly discuss (values, deen, backgrounds, upbringings, habits, health, family expectations, career, finances, kids, roles, dealbreakers, attraction, future plans, boundries) with the person himself prior finalising things because in marriage nothing just flows naturally later hence better communicate respectfully and make life feel less stressful.

🔅>-Deal Breakers: Disrespect, Lack of transperancy, Irresponsible behaviour, avoidance and ego, any form of addictions, opposite gender friendships, poor hygiene, involvement in bid'ah practices, controlling behavior, lack of sincerity and lazyness towards deen, screaming and/or silent treatments, insecurity, belittle or mock others, jokes disguised as insults.

🔅>-Reason for Khula – Partner belonged to a dysfunctional family, and had Physical and Psychological issues leading to abusive behaviour (Complete arrange marriage). My Parents will discuss transparently with the family but personally I would like to keep my honour intact and wont appreciate any relevant questions.

🔷 ONLY MESSAGE WITH YOUR PROFILE, If Genuinly Serious to built a companionship.

Please ensure Clarity, it is a form of Kindness too.

(Won't consider those who wants 2nd marriage in presence of 1st wife).

What do Pakistani husband generally want how their wives dress up in public or at home. if they are somewhere abroad not in Pakistan - what kind of clothes does husbands want their women to wear

Looking for a genuine rishta — Lahore, 25F

Assalamu alaikum. I’m 25F, 5'6, from Lahore and currently completing the last of my ACCA exams. I have also worked for a few months, but I decided to leave my job temporarily to focus properly on completing my studies. I do intend to work again and continue my career after my exams, so having a partner who is supportive of that is important to me.

A little about me: I come from a divorced family. I know there can unfortunately be a stigma attached to this, and I won’t pretend that growing up in that situation was always easy. It had its struggles and affected me emotionally to some extent, but I don’t believe it defines me or the kind of family/person I can be. I’ve grown up to be quite warm, loving, understanding and family-oriented.

Personality-wise, I’m definitely an emotional person and a bit of an overthinker. I can cry over the smallest, stupidest things sometimes 😭, and I get scared easily too. But I’m also someone who cares very deeply about the people I love and tends to be very understanding and affectionate with them.

I also love having conversations and I'm a bit of a yapper. I love sharing everything about myself and my thoughts and feelings and i also genuinely adore communication for anything as i think being open about all is the key to alot of things.

I have one older brother who is married and a younger sister who is still studying.

Physically, I’m currently a little overweight, and I’m actively working on becoming healthier and losing weight. I mention this because I’d rather be upfront about it than pretend otherwise.

When it comes to religion, I’m actively trying to become a better Muslim. I try my best to pray five times a day, and I’m learning to read the Quran with translation because I want to understand my religion better. I’m not looking for someone who considers himself perfect religiously, but I do want someone who is genuinely trying to improve himself and grow closer to Allah as well.

As for what I’m looking for, ideally someone around 25–30 who is emotionally mature, kind, understanding and genuinely wants to build a good marriage. Someone who communicates, respects his partner, values family, and understands that marriage is about being partners through both the good and difficult parts of life.

I ideally want someone from Lahore as i want to stay near my family. I can look into middle east rishtas too given their hometown is Lahore. I myself lived my entire life in Saudia and in the last 3 years relocated to Lahore.

I would ideally prefer someone from Lahore’s more established/posh areas, although I’m not completely rigid about location if the person and family are a good fit.

Most importantly, I’m looking for a genuine life partner; someone I can feel safe with, laugh with, talk to about everything, and grow with. I want someone who can look beyond circumstances and see the person I am.

If this sounds like something you might genuinely be interested in, feel free to reach out. I’m happy to share more about myself private.Kindly send your own profile instead of simple hi or hello.

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,
I’m a 23-year-old Pathan man based in England, looking for a serious rishta with the intention of marriage. I work professionally as an accountant and am financially independent, career-focused, and settled in England.
A little about me: I’d describe myself as easygoing, respectful, family-oriented, and ambitious. I have a fair complexion, athletic build, and regularly go to the gym and keep myself active. I enjoy spending time with family and friends, travelling, trying new places to eat, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
Basic details:
Age: 23
Gender: Male
Ethnicity: Pathan/Pashtun
Location: England, UK
Profession: Accountant
Marital status: Never married
Build: Athletic
Complexion: Fair
Lifestyle: Non-smoker
Education: University educated
Family: Respectable, close-knit Muslim family
I’m looking for someone who is kind, educated, family-oriented, and genuinely serious about marriage. Ideally, she would be around 18–25, based in pakistan and from a good family background. Most importantly, I’m looking for compatibility, good character, mutual respect, and someone who takes deen and family seriously.
I’m happy for families to be involved once there is mutual interest. Please feel free to DM me with a brief introduction and some basic details about yourself.

I just came back from a 10 day work trip and after coming home from a long flight and getting gifts to her , kids and my mom she started to argue with me because:

• dont tell your mother you went in business class - nazar and that she doesnt want you to be happy ( my mom does get a bit jealous when we go out but there is some history of neglect in her life. I take the wife on separate trips so she has her alone time)
• why are you talking so much to her- i want to talk to you too - we were sitting in a living room
• dont tell her how much fun the side trip was - she doesnt care about you

My mom and her dont get along and its an arranged marriage as i mostly grew up overseas and shes from pakistan ( but still exposed to overseas people as her family is now all outside as well). the cultural issues of nazar to the point that you will die the moment you show someone your prosperity is insane. it took a while to get to an understanding but we still have huge differences in compatibility but mostly we make it work... .

been married 10 years and i expected a warm welcome not a day that ended in a fight and me going to sleep without her even opening a gold necklace i got for her.

i regret marrying arranged and sometimes i regret marrying altogether. married life has been a challenge

For some reason no-one responds here but I'll try again. Bismillah.

Gender: Male

Age: 28

Height: 5'9"

Marital Status: Single

Education: Currently completing a BCom Accounting degree. I’m on the CA(SA) track with the long-term goal of qualifying as a Chartered Accountant.

Profession: I currently work as a Claims Financial Analyst at a local insurance firm while completing my degree. I also have my own business, which I’ve been running successfully for around 10 years.

City/Location: South Africa

I currently live in a nuclear family setup with my parents and am staying with my family. I will be getting my own place once I am engaged/married.

About Me:

I was born in Karachi, Pakistan and moved to South Africa with my family when I was 4. My parents are from Gulshan-e-Iqbal, Karachi, so I’ve always remained connected to my Pakistani roots. I’ve visited Karachi and Islamabad and would love to explore northern Pakistan one day.

I’m a practicing Muslim and pray 5 times a day, Alhamdulillah. I try my best to stay away from haram and continuously work on becoming a better version of myself.

I’m quite active and enjoy working out, playing cricket, watching pretty much all kinds of sports, and spending time outdoors and exploring nature. I’d describe myself as slightly on the extroverted side and enjoy good conversation and being around people.

I’m also a car enthusiast and currently own a BMW 3 Series.

I’m fluent in both English and Urdu. I have South African permanent residence and am on the path toward obtaining South African citizenship.

Requirements for Partner:

I’m looking for someone aged 21–26, ideally 5'0"+.

Physical attraction is important to me, so I’d like to be with someone I find pretty and attractive, but character and compatibility matter just as much.

More importantly, I’m looking for someone with a kind heart, calm personality and good character. Someone I can genuinely connect with, build a friendship with and eventually build a peaceful life together.

I’m not particularly concerned about education, although having a degree would be a plus.

I’m looking for a practicing Muslim who is consistent with Salah and takes her deen seriously.

I’m open to someone from Pakistan, South Africa or elsewhere. Ideally, she would be open to the possibility of living in South Africa in the future, but I’m open-minded about where life takes us.

I’m posting here because I live in a smaller town in South Africa where the Pakistani/Desi community is quite limited, so I’m hoping this platform can help me meet someone I genuinely wouldn’t otherwise have the opportunity to meet.

If you think we might be compatible, feel free to comment or send me a DM. JazakAllah Khair.

This may seem so weird.. im 32f and my fam never brings up marriage or says anything (recently confided in my mom about someone i like ldr and how marriage is in talks ) she didnt say anything…its frustrating bcz all she wants to see is that the guy has his own house and income but everything takes time… basically its like my fam is sabotaging me to not marry.. idk its weird

hi so im a 22 year old female, soon to be doctor, i was hoping to find my soulmate/bestfriend, if anyones interested feel free to leave me a message!

Don't even know where to begin. Got married at 24, i was doing mphil at that time. I was earning well through social media but had no control over my fiances because it all went to my dad accounts which i didn't mind because he was already paying for all hostel university fees etc. I am the eldest , life was good until i got married. I was brought from my peak era in terms of studies / career to the ground. I never had any relationship before because of the idea that i was always considered as Izat protector (still now i am 26)

I didn't see any red flags and didn't realize how everything will change for me. In simple words kuch b mera nahi raha.

I feel like a puppet, half strings my parents have and half my in laws. I still live with my parents (my husband lives abroad ) i always brush it off when people told me shadi ke baad sab change ho jata hai.

My parents changed all the steps they took in marriage steps i realized they were for their own benefits. I can't do job cz izat protector as I will bring affairs home and my parents don't wanna deal with it. My husband on the other hand is just money making machine for his family (i don't get any benefits)

I lost my personality. I cry every night how helpless i feel. I do wanna go against everything but i have nothing. I am honestly living like a dead moving person. Lost my connection with Allah. Whenever i try to talk explain myself how depressing it is everyone tells me i am na shukri and look at other homeless people. My parents & my husband both can afford my studies very easily tho.

I really want to post my profile here, but I’m testing the waters a little before actually doing it.

For those of you who’ve been here for a while, especially guys, what has your experience been like?

Has this community actually helped you find someone compatible or even your life partner? How are people here in general? Are they respectful and genuinely interested in finding something serious?

What percentage of people here would you say are actually serious about finding a partner?

And if you’ve met your spouse or someone you genuinely connected with through this subreddit, I’d love to hear your story.

On the other hand, if you’ve had a bad experience—scams, fake profiles, ghosting, dishonesty, or any other red flags—please share that too. It would be helpful to know what to watch out for before posting my own profile.

Basically, I want to know: is it worth giving this subreddit a shot?

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26F, single, currently living in Lahore with My Brother for around 7 years, since my degree and then working here. Did BS from PU in Sports & Physical Education.

Comes from a simple, respectable middle-class family, well-established in our area in Bahawalnagar. We have our own 14-marla house there and Alhamdulillah a decent, settled family setup.

Have been working in Lahore for around 4–5 years. Previously worked as Director of Sports at a well-known school group/institute, and currently working as a Physio Trainer. Alhamdulillah financially independent, earning around 150k–200k/month.

No past relationships or romantic history. Never been involved in that kind of stuff and honestly don't like it either. Have always had clear boundaries and come from a fairly conservative, simple family environment.

A little about expectations:

I like working and being financially independent, but working after marriage is not a condition. If my husband is financially stable and we both feel it is better for me to stay home, completely fine. If we decide that both working would help us build a better life, I am equally comfortable with that. Basically, something to be decided mutually rather than a fixed demand from either side.

I would also like to keep the ability to work because life can get difficult sometimes, and I believe both partners should be able to support each other when needed. I have enough experience that I can continue working or eventually start something of my own, like a clinic.

Looking for someone around 25–32, but age isn't really the main thing. Maturity, character, respect, responsibility and how someone handles situations matter much more.

Preferably someone living in Lahore or another city/urban area, since my life and professional experience are based here.

Not looking for someone just because he earns millions or has a huge family status. Just looking for someone financially responsible, stable, sensible and capable of maintaining a decent lifestyle. Someone who understands that marriage is a partnership and both people should support each other according to circumstances.

Family background doesn't need to be extremely wealthy. We are middle-class ourselves and comfortable with a simple, decent lifestyle.

Only genuine rishta inquiries please. Looking for someone who is actually serious about getting married within the next year or so. No casual conversations, time pass or "let's see where it goes."

If genuinely interested, you can DM with basic details about yourself and family.

About Me
Age & Background: 28 years old (turning 29 next month), MBA graduate, standing at 5’2". I am a divorced mother to a wonderful toddler son (my baby will live with me, which is a strict requirement for anyone interested).
Personality & Values: Respectful, kind, caring, supportive, and communicative. I value honesty deeply and expect the same from those around me. I love learning about new topics, and being a good listener helps me carry out meaningful conversations.
Appearance: Standing at 5'2", people often find me attractive, and I carry myself with modesty and grace. My personal style leans toward a blend of elegant traditional and comfortable contemporary wear. I believe a warm smile and a neat, presentable demeanor are the best reflections of one's personality.
Faith: A moderately religious Muslim. I pray four to five times a day, fast during Ramadan and some nafli fasts as well, and have performed Umrah with my family Alhumdulillah. I don’t blindly follow Islamic concepts; I prefer to do thorough research to form my beliefs.
Interests & Lifestyle: I enjoy baking and calligraphy, and learning crochet is on my list. Between managing my time with a toddler and letting my days revolve around him for now, I love taking pictures, though I don’t use social media much.
What I am Looking For
Age: Similar age or older (definitely not younger).
Living Arrangement: Nuclear setup.
Mindset: Financially stable with a strong provider mindset, valuing mutual respect, open communication, and building a peaceful home together.

If someone (not a complete stranger, someone you know of and have seen around almost every other day)comes up to you and sincerely, respectfully expresses their desire to send a marriage proposal for you with your permission, how do you react?

I think I need a designated rant partner at this point You know, someone you can talk to at the end of a long day and just dump all your random thoughts, frustrations, life updates, overthinking, and unnecessary drama on without either of us having to reveal our identities or share any personal information.I’m going through a very weird phase of life right now where I feel like I could genuinely rant for an hour or two every day just to get everything out of my system and honestly, sometimes you don’t even need advice or solutions. You just need someone to listen, complain with you, and say “yeah, that’s actually insane” lol.

You can rant about your life too, obviously. No judgement, no expectations, no need to know who the other person is. Just two strangers anonymously exchanging daily rants and somehow keeping each other sane.

So yeah, if anyone else is in their “I need to talk about everything that happened today” era, HMU. We can be rant buddies lol.