26M | The Egyptians believed…that finding a partner on Reddit makes a great story
Not giving in to the traditional rishta process so hopefully this works out this time. Otherwise, it’s time to go out and touch grass and disappear to a farm in hunza!
I’m a 26 year old guy, 5’10, and on the thin/lean side. I like to stay active and am trying to keep health as a primary goal for this year 🏃
Born and raised in Islamabad, living in Pindi side currently and in a joint family system!
A bit about my personality:
Hmm, still not sure how one describes themselves in just a few paragraphs because there’s so to every human out there! INFJ-A according to that online quiz, amazing according to my siblings. All together solid 4.8/5 if I was a uber rating.
On a serious note, I like depth in conversations as much as I like random yap. Philosophy, history, random thoughts(why water is blue why¿ pyramid big, how?), movies, art, any and everything is can be interesting to talk about as long as everyone involved is willing to listen.
I love creating memories and spending quality time. Some days its playing some sports, other days its yapping and board game night, or just chilling at home. I try to get out of my comfort zone whenever I can, especially to gain new experiences. This can be in different forms like trying new type of dish(even though I’m not a foodie), walking around in a new area, traveling, building a new lego set.
I am an introvert at heart I think, but I have learnt communication skills over the years so I can come off as an extrovert. Love learning and growing as much as I can!
I take my time to think, and sometimes overthink but never one to shy off from difficult conversations as long as it’s necessary and has useful outcome. However…. if your words hurt someone deeply, it’s better to let it go and not say it even if it’s the truth.
Other than this, I think about digital issues and ethics every now and then. Not daily but sometimes I’ll do a quick read on AI trend and how they’ll impact users, to how marketing can psychologically impact behaviour, etc. I like content creation as well, and the thought of inspiring people through storytelling really makes me happy so I keep an eye on artsy trends and related content. Other than this I enjoy a good walk, driving around in nice weather.
Religious views:
I’d like to think I’m in the middle. I’m liberal in some aspects and conservative in others. The classic paradox some of us feel. I listen to music, watch movies, and have all types of friends.
At the same time, I don’t smoke/drink, lie, don’t believe in mixing culture with religion. I pray 5 times a day, however, I do struggle with the timing, especially Fajr, and hope to get better at it!
Over the past 5 years, series of events have made religion an important aspect in my life, and it guides me in a lot of aspects like career planning, patience, risk taking etc. However, it’s honestly no credit toward me that I started wanting to be better at this but rather a blessing that I was lucky enough to receive alhamdullilah. I’m anywhere close to being the best/perfect Muslim, however, it’s close to my heart and I would love to strive to be better Muslim with my partner.
Career and goals:
My great friends overthinking, procrastination and high ambition are currently paving the path to where I should go.
The short term goal is to acquire as much knowledge as I can through jobs, online sources, and build a network. After which I’d like to start something of my own for a bunch of reasons!
Currently I’m in media/tech on the analysis and product side. In the long term(1-2 years) a PhD, content creation, and a few other ideas are on the plate. As things pan out, I’ll hopefully have more clarity by end of this year Insha Allah!
What I’m looking for:
Communication is a huge deal to me. Every marriage has challenging times, however, mutual respect and boundaries should never be crossed. It should always be a ‘us against problem’ mindset, and this mindset works best when you’re willing to talk and hear each other out
I think of myself as someone who listens very intently when it comes to the people I care, especially in moments of seriousness, so I end up remembering lots of things that people often forget. It’ll be great to have a partner who has the same level of attention to detail and support too!
No one is perfect and I’m sure I have my fair share of flaws or things someone may find annoying, however, marriage to me is not about finding someone who can fix you or give you something you lack. I see it like a partnership where two individuals who are doing well on their own and can take care of themselves alone but choose to come together and go on the journey of life together.
“And then we get to choose who we let into our weird little worlds”, you’re absolutely goated if you know which movie this is from
Dealbreaker:
- Anyone who does not want anything to do with religion or thinks they are better because they are religious
- vaping, abusive language, or rudeness to strangers
- Inability to initiate conversations at all or keep the conversation flowing
- Not paying attention to the people you love.
- if you hate adventure or are lazy in your approach to life
-since I’m a bit skeptical about Reddit, someone close to Islamabad/lahore area would make it easy to manage logistically
I have a provider mindset, however, in this economy I unfortunately can’t retire at 26 or go on that euro trip every month. For me, it’s a matter of when, not how Insha Allah! But regardless, thought I’d mention this as it can be a deal breaker for some and that’s completely fair!
Timeline:
Also I’m not in a rush, I’d like to get to know the person and take it slow because there’s too many bad stories out there
Thank you so much for attending my ted talk! If you think we’d be compatible, feel free to DM me with details about yourself and please don’t send one line. I’d appreciate a summary with enough details so that we can talk more on our values, perspectives, and thoughts!