u/Nunsofun

Shipping members isn't about representation. It's just a way to keep real women out of the picture.

Let's be honest about heavy shipping culture. It isn't coming from a place of genuine LGBTQ support. At its core, it's driven by a refusal to accept real women near these guys.

I saw a fan video begging them to just date each other, and it says everything. So many shippers, even those who aren't supportive of LGBTQ rights in real life, push these gay narratives for one main reason: they hate the idea of another woman existing around their idols.

The second a woman gets anywhere near a member, whether it's a backup dancer, a celebrity, or a rumored girlfriend, fans go ballistic. They tear her apart and do everything to deny her existence.

To handle that jealousy, they lock these grown men into a fictional relationship with each other. If the idols are supposedly dating each other, fans don't have to face the reality of them dating actual women. It's just fetishization used as a shield to block real women out.

Hi everyone, I’m 23 with a background in psychology. I switched paths to pursue an SLP master’s for a more direct career entry, but I just started my first internship working with kids who have severe behavioral challenges. I struggle a lot with behavior management, and I’m coming home every day exhausted and with severe headaches.

It’s making me rethink my entire choice. Does this get easier with time, or is it possible to work exclusively with adults or non-behavioral populations later on? I don’t dislike kids, but handling extreme behaviors really isn't my strong suit.

Any advice or perspective would be deeply appreciated.

(context) : Yesterday i saw a famous muslim writer, and one of very famous muslim influencer loosing shit in a BTS concert (wont name them) and it hurt me so bad. At this point, it feels like in order to be ARMY you have to completely abandoned your morals.

So I recently discovered this subreddit. I've been observing the discussions here for a few days, and something really stands out compared to other fandom spaces. While many places might ignore or defend certain problematic brand collaborations that conflict with human rights, the consensus in the snark community is remarkably consistent. Even as a newcomer, it is clear that everyone here holds the line on these issues, prioritizing accountability and awareness over blind loyalty.

It is striking how the main BTS fandom functions, where even those who claim to be pro-Palestinian still defend the group's choices as just their personal business. They justify partnerships with brands tied to the crisis by separating the art from the artist. RM mocked Islam, V advertised Coca-Cola, JK fronted Hublot, RM &Jin mocked war children. Jhope collaborated with IDF soldier, jimin fronting Dior. and the list goes on. As a Muslim, it hurts seeing members of specifically our community continue to blindly follow and defend them. It hurts so bad.

In contrast, the snark community holds a firm and united line. I have not seen a single person here making excuses for these brand deals. Everyone in the snark community stands together in support of human rights and the people of Palestine, regardless of religion or race, putting morals over loyalty to a celebrity.

You don't need to be Muslim to stand up for Palestine, you just need to be human.

I used to think the phrase "selling your soul" was just a creepy conspiracy theory about cult rituals for fame and fortune. But looking at the state of celebrity culture today, I finally get what it actually means.

It's not magic. It's greed.

It's watching multi-millionaires continuously partner with unethical luxury empires, like Jungkook pushing Hublot, J-Hope fronting Louis Vuitton, Working with IDF Solider or others signing deals with brands linked to global harm. It's watching idols like RM and Jin make tone-deaf jokes about war kids and starvation, while other public figures openly call abusers their role models or promote AI tech while the world burns. None of it impacts them because they can afford AC and private jets.

They butcher their own basic morals purely for another paycheck. Selling your soul simply means sacrificing your human empathy, ethics, and voice for financial gain.

What makes it ten times worse is the blind fandom culture that worships the ground these people walk on, defending every vile decision just because their favorite artist is dropping new content.

When public figures only talk about human rights during an album rollout, I can count every donation they have made was near a release they prove their integrity was bought and paid for a long time ago.

I’m 23F and recently moved to a new neighborhood. During evening walks, I started hanging out with a group of girls my age. Soon enough, I realized none of them have a clue about basic real-world finances or basic independence.

They don't know how to use banking apps, pay bills, book their own doctor appointments, or even go to the doctor by themselves. They rely entirely on their fathers or husbands for every minor thing. When I mentioned that I manage my household's finances, pay bills, handle my own medical appointments, and actually know what everyday staples like flour and oil cost, they started calling me the "man of the group."

Since when is basic adult competence considered masculine? Playing helpless and not knowing how to navigate the world isn't a cute personality trait. Knowing how to manage your life is just basic adulting. Does anyone else get completely frustrated by this mindset?

I’m 23F and I’ve never actually worn a proper bra because every time I try, it’s genuinely painful. The band dig in so badly that I end up sticking to training bras till now i just use pads with training bras and honestly, I feel a bit ashamed about it. I think my size is around 34–36, but no matter what brand I try, it just doesn't work. Is it normal for bra bands to hurt this much? Am I wearing the wrong size, or is there a specific fix for this? Would love any advice on what might be going wrong!