u/whocaresaboutothers

My parents are deadass more worried about me not locking in than I am before joining uni.

Likee they say that I have to start going to the gym consistently and take everything seriously, Helpppp.

Stanley is literally ass bro, yes yes I know it’s the brand. I am talking about the tumblr. Like I have it and I gave up using it after a month outside home. It is so inconvenient and bruhhh I don’t want to take that thing with me everywhere, yeahh and water keeps leaking from it too. I said ‘stanley’ specifically as a lot of people link it with tumblr. I hate the idea of taking it with me to the gym because nooo.

This is MY opinion, Thank you.

Ngl I am so confused.

I’ll mention this early on, No it is not a romantic relationship.

My best friend has been pushing me away saying how he needs to stay away from me because he thinks about me a lot to the point he says that he is obsessed with me. He loves me like his little sister and I am 10 years younger than him.

I know this will invite in a lot of judgment from people but I don’t know what to do. My mental health is completely fucked.

He says he wants to distance himself from me because I always say that he gets mad at things which he feels bad about. I won’t say anything on this I do agree I have said this but not all the time only the times I believed his reaction was unreasonable. Now you may think how you can’t dictate on what a person should feel bad about and what not. The thing is this was a boundary issue my physical boundaries were violated. I forgave him but the after effects are still there. Of course I don’t want to hug you when you didn’t listen how uncomfortable those made me and you blamed me and made me apologise for making you feel like you harassed me. I certainly can’t comfort you when you say how much you want to hug me and how much you need to hold me tight. This is the only thing on which I can’t comfort him.

He knows this is a sensitive topic for me but he said how why does he have to think about what will make me feel bad when he is venting to me. He is right but I never said him to not say this but why does he expect a reply from me.

He is always there for me and sweet as hell. He would never intentionally hurt me. The times I did say he was being unreasonable was true. He always used to fight with me after I came home from my friends. Every. Single. Time. I literally can never get anything right, I am always at fault.

Today he told me tum yaha ruk jao I had work I said I can’t I have to report in the morning. Btw he was ignoring me and said he doesn’t wanna be close to me anymore. I tried talking he ignored me agtwr this he asked me to stay at his home. I was upset honestly and mentally tortured at that time and after I came home he texted me banda jhootay mu hi kehdeta hai ruk rahi hun but you didn’t say anything. I told him everything, apologised and all. I told him how I wanted to stay but was too afraid that he’ll push me away more and I wouldn’t be able to take it. He said how I am bringing things after he told me this.

I apologised and said I will change myself please don’t break this friendship.

He said you can’t this is who you are

I am so confused after everything which has happened I still don’t hate him at all. I literally feel like my mouth gets locked whenever I wanna defend myself in front of him I feel like I ruin things

Idk what exactly I wrote.

I am tired I have a breakdown whenever we fight meet and talk.

One thing about me is I HATE PHYSICAL Affection. And I don’t like hugs and I have made this clear multiple times to a certain person. Now they keep overriding my boundary again and again and guess what I am just stupid who literally can’t say anything to defend herself. I freeze and this specific person I have told them how I don’t like a billion times and even then they stopped a while ago. Now when I have made it clear how much I dislike them no need to literally text me I need to hug you tightly I wanna hug and asking me I want one thing from you and then when I say idk. They get mad at me saying hugs. Bruh I genuinely hate this topic so much. They have gotten cold and mean said now I have to change myself. They say how I don’t think before saying anything. I said how I genuinely want to say something but I freeze and can’t say anything when they say they miss my hugs so much. This has fucked my mental health so much and they have seen it too.

I don’t think about others??? I am not considerate of their feelings. I say nothing when they say they want to hug me as I have said it a million times how much it affects me. I somehow have a seal on my mouth like I can’t even defend myself. Right now I am feeling guilty that I made them feel shitty. I really don’t want to say awww same when they tell ME how much they miss our hugs and cuddles. I hate that shit. The withdrawal feels like they punish me everytime I say hey don’t do this. I can’t seem to do anything. Why can’t I just say anything. I want to but I genuinely believe they are a good person and I am the inconsiderate bitch.

I am severely depressed (clinically diagnosed)but I am sick of feeling this way. Can y’all share stories on how you guys overcame depression?? Anything literally anything. I can’t be like this forever. I hate hating myself. Even if I want to I can’t seem to get the negative thoughts aways. They are as severe as I wanna hurt myself. I am going to get professional help as soon as possible until then I thought I can learn something from other peoples experiences.

I am severely depressed (clinically diagnosed)but I am sick of feeling this way. Can y’all share stories on how you guys overcame depression?? Anything literally anything. I can’t be like this forever. I hate hating myself. Even if I want to I can’t seem to get the negative thoughts aways. They are as severe as I wanna hurt myself. I am going to get professional help as soon as possible until then I thought I can learn something from other peoples experiences.

I am here to embarrass myself again.

I need to get over someone.

I need advice.

Baat aesi hai jab koyi insaan bura ho it’s easier to just get over them. However this guy is like always here for mw and keeps checking in too. I refuse to be so pathetic and ask claude for tips here. I know it’s probably stupid to even ask people on Reddit too but I really you know don’t have anyone to talk to about this. This entire feeling thing is not really me. Bruhh I am just rambling.

Ironically this dude sees me as his sister likeee full blown calling me behan and different variations of behan whenever he gets the chance. I promise you that I have not shown interest in him in any romantic way. Funny enough he has.

This is the damn reason I somehow caught feelings. The sweet messages on how I am the prettiest girl in his eyes. How I am the sweetest,How he will always be here for me, how he wishes we will be in each other’s life forever. Umm this shit is so stupid. Also ngl he was there for me in my darkest times so that also plays a role.

Whatever he is still the same but he has started like bringing variations to the behan. It genuinely hurts me
So much. Ngl I have never felt this way before. I usually never even care. This guy isn’t getting out of my head. I am just so idk.

Once again I know my name contradicts everything. But naam change nahi hota so I can’t really do much about it.

Almost 6-7 months I have been feeling like this also he has started calling me behan recently from 2-3 months.

I just want this ugly feeling to go away. I have reduced contact. I can’t help but feel hurt. It literally feels like he is messing with me intentionally

Behan behna aapi baaji didi.

I sound pathetic and this is the reason I can’t really discuss this with anyone. Would have made this post from a burner but KARMA RULE.

Bro I am so confused.

I had a personal trainer in the beginning of gym.

Now I have joined another gym.

I am doing my own thing. Nowww the thing is I do 3 sets till failure (8-9reps) then move up the weight. Now I was talking to my brother he was likee noo you need to do at least 15-20 reps??

Which is more viable??

Also the thing is I have been working out for a long time but the thing is I can’t commit to my diet. Also is 3-4 days okay to properly train your body?? And If I am training 3-4 days then what should be my split.

I need to lose this weight and I have pcos but I have lost a significant amount of weight before too but gained it back. If any girly has lost weight with pcos their advice would be appreciated.

Am I just overthinking??

So I have this friend. We’ve been talking for almost a year. He consistently calls me his sister/behan from like 2-3 months . But here’s where it gets confusing. I know I am just going to get attacked for asking this and just not taking the hint.

He tells me I’m the prettiest person he knows. He says I’m the only girl he talks to. He says he’ll always be there for me and wants me in his life forever.

But then. Behan. Again. And again.

Am I reading into this or is he genuinely unaware of how contradictory this all sounds? Because a person can’t simultaneously treat someone like they’re special AND keep insisting it’s purely platonic. Brother needs to act on what he says. It has started messing with me a lil and I wonder.

Ngl bro this has genuinely made me feel so weird. I keep feeling things I don’t want to,I hate it. The hard part is he has been here for me emotionally so much during tough times without even knowing he was there for me. Idk what to do. Because genuinely it’s hurting me, the label.

ALSO I KNOW MY NAME CONTRADICTS MY POST, I can’t change itt.

Hey guys, this topic is extremely sensitive for me but here goes.

I have always felt like I am being desperate even with my friends.The thing which bugs me I was extremely bad at actually confronting people but now I am working on it so I do communicate and try to make things better. Yesterday the same thing happened but with a guy friend. Now the thing is this friendship actually means a lot to me so at first I was mad and was like I will never talk to him again. Later I realised he won’t talk to me either because he avoids conflicts, AVOIDANT FINAL BOSS. I was like our friendship can’t end over this silly little fight we had I talked to him and resolved all the issues we had. Turned out he had some issues with me too but he wouldn’t have brought it up if I didn’t say anything.

The thing is I am not desperate for anything but I do value
my friends a lot. Somehow this kind of hurts when you know that the person is just not naturally built for confrontation and you have to fix things for them or else it all goes down the drain.

I have been feeling so desperate since yesterday like why did I say this and that, but guys how can one be desperate with friends. I hate the feeling.

It’s not about this btw whenever I make a new friend, specially girlies. I get too excited and ruin it. I feel like they sense how I am and just eventually stop talking to me. I can’t be nonchalant to save my life. I can’t seem to retain my friendships. It always feels like I am doing too much and feel desperate. Later then I am left all alone because I go quiet and never talk to anyone.

How to just stop feeling desperate?