Am I(M24) over reacting being disappointed in my partner (F27) for not sending an update text about changing plans?
I've been trying long distance with someone for 3 months and it's seemed pretty good, we've both seemed to like eachother. We met in person and went on 3 dates before continuing to talk over the phone for the past few months and have planned to meet in person again for a vacation but this weekend really got to me. Now she's a pretty independent person, doesnt typically like her phone, and hasnt had a long term relationship before let alone a LD one while I have, so i cut her a little slack on communicating but this weekend starting friday she barely reached out to me.
Friday was zero contact without a message.
Saturday she sent one message saying she just didn't feel like being on her phone yesterday which is normal for her. I said it was alright and asked if she'd be free for a call that day before my plans which she only responded to after the window had passed to actually call me which was very disappointing.
Sunday we had plans from the previous weekend to video chat and possibly play a game together. We're texting like normal, her plans that day got moved to later in the day after 6pm so I said I'd be free to call anytime before hand and she left it on read for 5 hours till she couldnt call anymore and I had to reach out again to say hey are we not doing anything.
Now im fine if she wants to not talk by all means im not trying to control her but it just felt like I wasnt a priority and just a second thought to her this weekend and it was hurtful. All I wouldve wanted was just a few texts like "hey sorry going dark today, dont want to be on my phone, talk to you later" or "sorry canceling plans busier than expected we'll do it another time" but instead I just sat there wondering what's going on. I also have been going through a bad patch with my OCD and this kind of triggered that so I'm trying to work through what's an OCD thought of needing confirmation and what's a genuine communication disappointment.
I want to bring it up i just dont know what to say exactly and I dont want to come off as needy or a burden.