AITA for booking a solo staycation without inviting my boyfriend?
AITA for booking a solo staycation to journal without inviting my boyfriend?
Some context: I’m 29F, he’s 31M. We don’t live together, but he owns a cottage outside the city where we spend most weekends. I work from home full-time and can work from anywhere.
I’ve had a lot on my mind lately — nothing dramatic, just personal stuff I’ve wanted to sit with. I’m a big journaler and I reflect best in a neutral, unfamiliar space with zero obligations. So I booked a 2-night midweek hotel stay nearby. $450 total. The plan: work a condensed work day, then spend all extra time writing, reading, and unwinding.
When I told my boyfriend, he got upset on two fronts:
1. That I was “wasting money” when he has a cottage I could use
2. That I didn’t invite him and doesn’t understand why I’d go somewhere alone “just to journal”
I tried explaining that the cottage is our spot — I love it, but it’s not the same clear energy as a neutral space can provide. He works in an office so he couldn’t come midweek anyway, but he said I should have at least asked. Now he’s implying that wanting solo time is a red flag and I should be able to process things without spending money.
I love solo recharge time. But his reaction has me second-guessing myself.
AITA? For context — we don’t share finances. The $450 is entirely my own money.