I think I’m in love with my gay friend but he’s taken
Hey gaybros,
Need some help, I’m a gay man (mid 20s) , and I’m friends with a cute gay gay about 3 years younger for about two years now. He’s in a 4+ years relationship (monogamous) which I respect and admire a lot .
Recently though, I feel like I’m developing feelings for him and even made a mistake when I got a bit intimate with him (no sex though, just kissing and hugging because it was very cold in the tent) . I held back after a few minutes when I got back to my senses because I don’t want to be a relationship breaker , considering that my ex also cheated on me several times .
Anyway, I apologized to him the next day telling him that my head went blank and that my body was moving on its own. I told him that what happened should have not happened and that I regret it . He forgave me and that all is forgotten, but now I’m questioning if i have feelings for him , that led my body to be intimate with him …During that intimate moment i felt something , we both did i think… he was hard too for one (i felt it when we were frotting) and for another , I felt like there’s mutual feelings.
Again, I want to be respectful and considering my past experiences, I would never do anything (again) that could compromise my relationship with my friend or his relationship with his bf.
And whether he has feeling for me or not isn’t really the point because even if he has, I still won’t pursue him as respect to his relationship with his bf.
How do you think should I handle the situation ? Obviously I can’t turn off my feelings for him … Should I just disappear from him for a few months to let this infatuation die out??? He’s my gym buddy though…