Hi, I'm not going to be using any names while writing this because a lot of my friends are on Reddit, but I'll use code names so that I can express how I feel clearly. I'm in a friend group of 5 (including myself), 3 other girls, and 1 guy. Let's name the girls Sheri, Monica, and Evie. The guy's name will be Bob. Listen, I love my friend group to death, they're my ride or dies, and they have supported me through everything I've been through. I laugh the most when I'm with them, and sometimes cry because of how much I laugh when I'm with them. Overall, it's a really healthy and a "dream" friendship, one might say. Lately, though, I feel like things are changing. You know that feeling when you feel like, even though you have friends, you're no one's main friend? That's how I feel currently. I mean, don't get me wrong, they didn't leave me out or anything, but sometimes I just get into my feels when I think about it. I always knew from the start that Bob and Sheri were really good friends. They knew each other way before any of us actually knew each other, so that wasn't a surprise. I thought that maybe since they've known each other longer, they would be the closest and each other's main friends yk. I just learned to accept it. I would consider all of them my top 1 main friend. There's no one that I would put at the top. I started feeling unsure about how they felt about me the other day when I was scrolling on TikTok. Whenever I would see Sheri's or Bob's reposts on anything, they would tag each other. They would never tag me, but just tag each other. It made me feel left out, but it's not something that would live rent-free in my head, haunting me. The thing that really made me sad, though, was the fact that Monica's and Evie's reposts were also just about each other and how good they are as friends. If I'm being honest, Monica, Evie, and I are like a trio. Like a trio outside of the group of 5, but seeing that Monica would repost videos that say "when I make a joke in a room of strangers, but it doesn't feel the same because my bsf isn't there" and stuff, and only tag Evie and not me. I know I sound like I'm making this all about me, but I just can't help but feel sad about the whole thing. There were numerous reposts like that. Tagging each other every chance they get and sometimes when we're talking, they would cut me off to speak with each other, and that makes me feel sad as well. It's like they're disregarding my feelings or something. This isn't something I should be worrying about since we're all friends at the end of the day, but I'm just really in my feels right now and need some advice. I don't want to confront them, though, since it's one-sided and I hate the thought of even bringing it up to them. Please help, I'm 16, and I feel stupid for even thinking these things.
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u/AggressiveDonut2376 — 17 days ago