CMV: Conditional love is preferrable to unconditional love
I feel like everyone always praises unconditional love as the purest and most beautiful love there is. Conditional love, by contrast, tends to be criticized as overly transactional or insincere.
But I struggle to see the beauty in unconditional love, or at least why it is preferrable to loving someone conditionally. If you love someone without regard to their actual qualities or flaws, it seems to me that this love has very little to do with the actual person being loved. If this person could not lose your love no matter how much they proved themselves unworthy of it, then what is that love even being directed at?
I feel like if love is given completely without conditions, without being tethered to any qualities of the person who's subject to that love, then it is essentially arbitrary. It's an affection that could just as easily be granted to someone else. If it's well and truly unconditional of personality, looks or deeds, it might as well be directed toward an inanimate object.
If someone's love for you is dependent on your personality, your choices, deeds or even your presence, then at least you are assured that it is truly you who are being loved, and that you are being loved for a reason.