Does agreeing on morals/fundamentals mean to see if that connection can build over time?23F and 27M. 1 month relationship
So I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month now, and we were talking for a bit before that too. On our first date, he came up to the door and introduced himself to my parents, which I know some people would appreciate, but honestly it made me uncomfortable. I’m 23 and I prefer to keep my dating life separate from my parents, especially early on, so it felt like things became more serious before I was ready for that. Since then, I’ve felt a bit trapped in it because my parents already know about him.
He’s also someone who always wants to spend time together, and while I know it comes from a good place, I’m someone who really values my alone time, especially after work. A lot of the time I’m exhausted and just want space, but he doesn’t really seem to pick up on that. He’ll still come over and just lay with me for a bit and leave, which could be sweet in another context, but because I live at home and things are chaotic there, I honestly just end up feeling uncomfortable and exposed rather than relaxed.
I also feel like our conversations are really one-sided. He tends to dominate them, and when I share a thought or opinion, it often feels like it gets corrected or one-upped instead of genuinely heard. He doesn’t really ask questions or seem curious about me as a person, and it feels like he equates simply spending time together with emotional connection, while I end up mostly listening. He is genuinely a nice person, and on paper we align in a lot of important ways like faith, values, and waiting until marriage, but aspects of his personality really frustrate me and I don’t feel emotionally seen in the relationship.
Part of me wonders if I should keep trying because no one is perfect and relationships take work, but another part of me feels like the connection just isn’t naturally there for me. #relationship