u/Agitated-Climate5313

Looking for opinions: my ex has some very red pill ideologies and before we broke up said to me that if I were to say something to him that he felt was the equivalent of a punch, he would punch me and be justified. For example “I never loved you and this was all a lie.” would then make it ok to punch me.

He also believes in using “physical deterrents” when raising children. 🚨

I am a nonviolent person and this really shook me. Is this a common belief you’ve seen before in the community? Do more people believe this than I think? In my opinion I would not punch my significant other unless it was in self defense or defense of another.

I had a panic attack at church a few weeks ago: I felt dizzy which scared me and I spiraled (shaking, sweating, the whole 9 yards). Last week and this week I made it through and while I did still feel the physical symptoms, I focused on my racing heart and tried to use the DARE strategy, just being aware of the feeling and not emotionally panicking or trying to deep breathe to manage what I was feeling.

I’m proud of myself! I was able to go to the scenario that scared me and I did not panic. I was absolutely uncomfortable and my back muscles still are tense (using a heating pack now to manage that), and I feel drained. I think the muscle tension triggers the dizziness, which is the scariest symptom for me. But at the end of the day I am retraining my brain and am feeling successful.