r/exredpill

As the title says, I (31 F) think my husband(31M) is becoming red pilled? I’m sorry if this is wrong sub, I have no idea where I should go. I don’t know all the terminology of everything but he seems to be on Facebook and twitter a lot, like any free time he’s on there. He’s always been a VERY black and white person and is right/conservative leaning, but now it’s gotten more extreme.

At first it started innocently- he wanted to keep up to date with politics and what’s going on in the news (this was around trumps first term when things were kinda crazy). He watched a lot of Tim Pool and Ben Sharpiro.

During Bidens Term- sorry for the way I’m saying the times but this is how things seemed to group together- he was getting very freaked out about - possible Civil war and illegal immigrants doing bad things, and the left turning us all communist. This is around the time we also had our first child and I chalked it up to his anxiety of now feeling like he needs to protect us, so he’s consuming tons of news to try to stay ahead of bad things happening.

So now during trumps second term, I’ve noticed that the stuff he talks about it’s just general news type items. He’s mentioned multiple times how women are to blame for liberals taking over society because they vote with their emotions not facts, any race other than white is bad, these things with Lindsey Clancy and the Cornell frat, it’s the women’s fault- she killed her kids are needs to go to jail forever, there are texts that the girl wanted to sleep with all of them. No nuance, no discussion, always taking the man’s side.

It’s not like he talks about this stuff all day long, and he hasn’t done/said anything specific to me (In now a SAHM with 2 boys). But holy shit am I getting worried, regardless of what my husband thinks, I DO NOT want my boys to learn this stuff. And I’ve told him that I don’t want him talking about this stuff around the boys and he’s obliged. But it feels like our only conversations happen because he starts talking about this stuff. I don’t use any social media, I’m mostly a lurker on Reddit- mostly stuff about aquriums and fish and AITA- so I don’t follow news or any of that because its so bad to our mental wellbeing. I have nothing to dispute him in in terms of facts but there’s no way he’s actually right. Sorry I’m rambling.

Is he becoming red pilled? How do I pull him out of this before it gets really bad?

I’m a 30M straight guy really struggling in the dating world. Between dating app fatigue, meeting women who don’t want to settle down and just the general awkwardness/breakdown of meeting people in real life, I have been feeling so frustrated lately.

My Instagram and YouTube feeds have become full of “dating” advice videos or videos such as
- Why do men not approach anymore
- Women’s standards are too high
- Why are men not going to dating events
- Why women don’t think logically (and how to manipulate them)

I know it’s all bullshit, but part of me kind of likes it because I think it validates my frustration and resolves me of blame.

I want to be a chivalrous gentleman out there in the wild.

How can I completely detach from this bs online and be more confident out in public?

Hi, I’m the 18-year-old guy who left the manosphere. I’ve made friends—both guys and girls—at school; people are kind and have welcomed me. A girl took me into her friend group; she already has a partner, and while I don’t feel distrust toward her, I do feel it toward other girls—though, thankfully, it’s not as intense as it used to be.

I’d like to know what you all think. I’m going to therapy and improving, but the wound hasn’t fully healed yet. I feel sad because the girls I like either have boyfriends or aren’t interested in me. My reaction to this feeling is to shut myself off. When I see an attractive, well-educated woman, I get the feeling she wouldn’t be interested in me. I want to change that.

I'm 25 and I have absolutely zero romantic experience. I never went on a date, hugged, flirted, or held hands. I grew up very quiet, had social anxiety throughout school, and was very awkward as a result of it. I'm in a much better position now since I'm becoming a teacher, but I feel some level of hopelessness.

I always disliked the gender role in our society that the man has to approach the woman or else nothing will ever happen. To me, it feels like nothing about you or your personality/qualities matters at all anymore if you are shy or come off even a bit awkward. I never approached a girl or asked anyone out before. But I often feel like if I was the woman version of myself I would have at least experienced something in my life.

I talked to my therapist about this and he genuinely felt stuck on how to respond to it. He said something along the lines of that societal norms are what they are and tried to encourage myself to get myself out there.

I live in one of the most socially progressive cities in the world. I've had 2 nonbinary friends who were female and I've seen them get boyfriends who initiated and did everything first.

I don't want to participate in hookup culture or anything, I just want a girlfriend and know how it is to be loved for who you are. Maybe I'm pressuring myself to have to follow social rules and appear socially smooth perfectly. I'm already 25 and I already feel behind, I don't want to wait until I'm 30 to have the social ability to get a girlfriend.

To be fair I was neutral on this social construct and culture, but I have asked countless people to provide ANY polls or stats on this "science", but LITERALLY no one had done so.

So the conclusion I have come up with is it's misogynistic made up nonsense from Paul the Apostles letters/manuscripts & internet/red pill culture.

The reason that I have changed my position to anti-anti promiscuity is because whenever I ask questions for how it does matter, all men can do is spout the same parrot words without elaborating anything like: "Pair bonding", purity, chastity." But they're literally just words 🤨.

How can I call out and help someone who is in the manosphere come out of this thinking?