Just discovered my BF of a year is red pill and can’t reconcile between his problematic views and how well he actually treats me… how bad are these views?
Recently my BF and I got into some discussions that ended up snowballing and had revealed some of his beliefs which came to a shock to me. He had said weird things before but there were isolated enough I never dug into this (mistake on my end). The recent discussions are more jarring though and now I’m thinking back it all makes sense now. When I shared some of his views with my friends, they told me this is red pill which I didn’t know is a thing until now. Here are some of the texts he sent, how bad is this? He also believes gender equality has been achieved in the US, and if anything women have it easier and are more privileged.
- “Yeah it goes along again with the way the brains work differently. The first man who makes a woman cum during intercourse, that’s the man she’ll love more than anyone forever deeply rooted in her psyche. The more men(through tons of partners) who make her cum the release of that chemical becomes less intense. Therefore the love/bond becomes less intense/meaningful and they’re willing to throw it away easier. For men we cum basically every sexual encounter, therefore it’s not tied to love as strongly for us. It’s a physical, not emotional occurrence. For men they say the same chemical introduced into a woman’s brain when they cum is introduced into a mans when he witnesses the birth of their first child. The bond with the woman is unbreakable at that point. (This is also backed up by the whole 80%+ of divorces are initiated by women).”
- “Men aren’t preferred because of their prowess in the bedroom, they’re preferred because their value is tied to their previous encounters. If I only date ugly women for years, I’ll think I can only get ugly women, which means I won’t hit on hot women, and over the course of time I won’t be comfortable around them because they are better than me in my perception of myself. I won’t have enough confidence to pull it off if I try. But if only dated hot women, whether I’m hot or not, other hot women notice and want to know what is the mystery behind me that makes me so attractive to these women of high value? They want to know, they want to find out, they want to be chosen to be part of that ‘class’ therefore they hit on me. Also because I’m already with hot women often, my confidence is fine around hot women because I’m used to being around them….. a tale as old as time.”
- “In some sense. If I meet a man and his wife is low quality, I believe he has low standards or poor self respect for himself. This isn’t based entirely on looks. But character, and the character you accept in your partner tells a lot about your own character.” “Low quality wife could be so many millions of things. Like wasteful, not kind to strangers, doesn’t stand up to those who talk ill of her or family, weak minded, not gentle, not feminine, not genuine(2-faced), doesn’t think of her husband in long term financial planning, selfish, entitled, no desire to improve in mental or physical ways, not goal oriented, etc”
- “a woman has infinite value at birth, and man has to earn his. A tale as old as time…. Even cavemen had the same laws of the land. The greatest hunter(provider) had access to the best woman of his choice. And the most beautiful woman had the best opportunity for successful family line because they can get the best hunter…. “
- “You will never for the future of mankind change the rules/laws of the sexual marketplace in any discernible way. Men’s and women’s brains are wired that way for the successful continuation of the species. “
- “Women definitely do more unpaid labor, but the praising for it is somewhat inflated nowadays. Let me explain before you read that at face value. “