Hi everyone. I am wondering what your experience is like with a narc mom & sister. Basically my whole life my mom has triangulated us, to a point now that my sister has iced me out for 10+ years through raging abuse that was dismissed by my parents. Just stopped talking to me out of nowhere. Today, she still blames me for the distance and the “poor” ways in which I treat her (keeping my distance and not engaging) and lets every action of mine reflect on her. And even tho I keep my distance, I still congratulate her on her successes etc, yet she hasn’t shown interest in my life since forever.
Essentially, I am so tired of feeling like such a problem every day of my existence and having to live in the same house as the people who pushed me out while continuing to talk shit about me and hate me even tho they know nothing about me and i’ve only shown them love and care despite their abuse. I am wondering if anyone has had a similar experience and whether my sister will ever come to a realization that the repairing needs to start from her place? How can I get out of my head about this? It takes over so much of my life.