Long time lurker, first time poster here…I’ve been NC with my parents for 5 months, 20 years overdue. The tipping point came at Christmas when it hit me for the first time how their treatment of my kids mirrored how they treated me, their constant disrespect of my husband/home/family and their narcissistic “what about me”-ism that ruled my childhood.
I set a boundary (no being with us when our third baby arrived in Feb, but we would let them know when we were ready for visitors), my mom lost her sh*t in response, both her and my dad even left our family WhatsApp group (where we share all our kids photos etc).
Fast forward to last week, when I received the attached letter from my Nmom after zero communication (aside from a couple manipulative Facebook videos and whiny reshares about the pain felt by estranged parents).
My husband initially saw this as an olive branch (gem of a man who still has hope for them even with all the shit they’ve done and said to him/us).
I see it as manipulative B.S but curious if I’m being too harsh…they are aging and I’m an only child which makes it both easier and harder!