For starters me and him have been together for quite sometime. But one day he saw a dog on the side of the road and decided to keep it even though I told him no. I don’t want a dog.
We have 3 kids under the age of 5 and he works all the time. I mean from sun up to sundown he’s at work 4 days a week and when he is home he’s tired. I’ve tried accepting her but I can’t. She sheds everywhere and barely gets outside time. She’s not trained in any way shape or form and if I’m being completely honest I really don’t think he can afford her.
He takes her outside to poop but that’s about it. To me he doesn’t take very good care of her and if he can’t step up and actually start doing his part to take care of her than he needs to rehome her. She also sheds a lot. I mean it’s getting in the food and all on the floor and my clothes. Mind you I’m the only one that cooks and cleans so I have to do everything after her. He does absolutely nothing. He basically gets the”fun parts” of having a dog while I get to sit on my hands and knees scrubbing floors and throwing out food that’s contaminated with dog hair.
My thing is I have never been a dog person and have expressed this to him multiple times yet he still didn’t respect my wishes and went behind my back and got her. I sucked it up and tried to just deal with it. But he doesn’t even take care of her enough.
No shots, no grooming, no nothing. Just a shedding and nasty dog around my kids which is dangerous anyways . I’m the only one that has been looking up places to get her shots and setting appointments that he continuously misses. I’m literally losing my mind b/c he thinks since we are together that this is a shared responsibility even though I told him it’s not and I’m not caring for a dog when I care for 3 kids, him and a household majority of the time alone.
Then to top it off I start classes soon and I’m not going to keep going through this with him. I’m ready to either call off my engagement and leave or give up the dog. Or better yet force this grown man to actually care for her like he’s supposed to. Dogs are like kids and if you can’t take care of them stop being an immature fool and getting something that is a lifetime commitment that you can’t handle.
So AITA for telling him to rehome her b/c to me he’s a horrible and lazy pet owner. I’ve told him about himself multiple times to do better and he says it’s okay. I literally can’t take care of her because I’m not working at the moment so that’s not an option.