I need some advice from others that have been in a similar situation
I’m currently going through something in my relationship and wanted some honest feedback from others, especially from people who may have gone through something similar.
My partner and I have been together for almost 10 months now. We’re both men, so yes, this is a gay relationship. Overall, he’s honestly a great partner in many ways. He’s thoughtful, caring, detail-oriented, and we’ve spent a lot of quality time together. We’ve gone on short trips, hang out regularly, and emotionally I do feel loved by him.
But there’s one major thing missing: we’ve never had sex.
I’ve tried initiating it a few times, but every time it starts heading in that direction, he either stops it or changes the subject/activity completely. We’ve talked around it a little, but never deeply enough to really understand what’s going on. I don’t want to pressure him into anything, but at the same time intimacy is important to me and it’s starting to affect how I feel in the relationship.
For context, we live in the Los Angeles area. He’s in Hollywood and I’m in North Orange County, so I’m usually the one driving out to spend time together.
I guess I’m struggling with whether this is something worth continuing to work through, or if I’m ignoring a major compatibility issue. Has anyone else experienced this before? What would you do in my situation: stay and keep trying, or walk away?