AITAH Feeling like I can’t be happy in my relationship—am I wrong for considering breaking up?
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 15 months. I was living in his town for a while, and we’d see each other every few days and sleep together about once a week with his family permissions with lies as he is working or out of town. he always has family responsibilities (mom and sister), and I often felt like I was “stealing” his time from them.
During vacations, he usually arrives late or leaves early. I’ve never felt bored of him bc I realized I couldn’t get enough of him. After 9 months, I told him I wanted to live together, and he said we could talk about it at the one-year mark. He didn’t do anything special for our anniversary, and he forgot my birthday. When I reminded him, he took me to a hill for a drink and gave me a cheap necklace. After a year, he didn’t seem excited about the idea of living together, so I gave up and moved back to my hometown, 200 km away. I also told him I would never live with him in his town because his family is there.
He’s very busy with work, which I accept, but combined with family responsibilities, I feel like I’m not a priority. He’s not a good communicator and doesn’t show much affection. I’m sure he loves me, but I feel terrible being apart and constantly question the relationship.
I know my needs aren’t being met, and I can’t manage a long-distance relationship. I want a partner who can make me a priority and live together, but that doesn’t seem possible with him. I don’t want to marry; I just want to live together.
Am I wrong for thinking that splitting might be the healthiest choice for both of us?