What would you do with the videos of your Ex begging you to stay?
Hi guys,
I know the title sounds extreme and maybe there’s an obvious ethical answer but I’d appreciate some external opinions on this as there’s nobody who knows of the videos besides me and my ex.
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Context: As to why we broke up, it’s not that crazy a story but it is important. Throughout our relationship, every few months or so my ex-gf’s ex would message her from a new account trying to rekindle their relationship even though he knew she was in a relationship.
She always responded by blocking him and showing me which was nice. Near the end of our relationship we got into a disagreement, very fixable and we could have 100% resolved it but this time, when her ex came knocking, she started speaking with him again.
It’s complete chance but I found out, we were together and I saw his name on her phone and just opened the chat. I’ll be honest, I didn’t read anything. Not by choice, I just felt sick and closed out before leaving because any more would have finished me 😂 I went home, cried, vomited and all sorts then broke up with her.
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The breakup was messy, she made excuses and everything. Not too fussed about whether anyone thinks the breakup reason was valid or not but, during the breakup, she’d call me and ask to meet up but I refused. I was open about not believing her texts and eventually she sent me an 8 minute video begging and crying. At some point it went from how much we meant to just self hate.
Anyways, back to the topic of the question — what should I do with that video?
I’ve deleted everything else, all our chats and photos because I have no feelings but I don’t want to let this go. Whilst processing the breakup I was crushed man. Even now, I look back and think how long it was going on for. All the times we said I love you. I don’t know which parts to believe as real or not.
However, when I watch that video and see her crying and begging, I do feel happy. If not happy, I feel like that’s proof this relationship wasn’t just fake, you know? Because I’m in a state where I don’t know if what we had was real or a distraction from her ex but the video shows genuine remorse.
Sorry if this post isn’t the best, hopefully it makes sense as I don’t want to make it too long. I also worry that this makes me sound like a bad person but I’m open to anything. Thank you guys!