u/Aikitao

In relationships that last years or decades, we often fall into self-reinforcing negative loops.

It’s rarely just one person acting out; it’s a systemic chain reaction where both people believe they are just defending themselves, but they are actually reinforcing the cycle.

If you look objectively at your relationship, what is the repetitive cycle you get stuck in?

(e.g., trying to control a situation > partner resisting > escalating to being right > partner retaliating or tuning out).

Share your personal frustrating "dance" and let's use crowd wisdom to break them...