My boyfriend (19M) wants to call his ex (19F)
A little background, at the beginning of this year we had a conversation about how I’m a bit uncomfortable with their friendship. They’re not so much exes but they were talking and had a thing while him and I were friends so I saw it all. She also pressured him into doing sexual things which made me feel like I couldn’t trust her. At first I was okay with them being friends if that’s what he wanted but then it got weird, she would FaceTime him for over an hour, send him weird things that you’d send to your boyfriend etc. so he sent her a message saying how we’re both uncomfortable with the friendship continuing and some space would be good. She didn’t respect these boundaries and kept trying to message so he ultimately just got sick of it and unadded her.
My two friends which we haven’t actually been friends for long maybe 8 months. I decided to cut them off because they’ve just been very bitchy and I just don’t feel good around them. That’s fine they’re sorted. They did something last week that was just kind of the final straw and it was actually my boyfriend that said “let’s just unadd them” so we did. One of those friends is actually also one of his friends which they used to be very close in highschool but have drifted since. So I think she was quite understandably hurt.
He then got a message last night from the ex saying she’s worried he’s in an unhealthy relationship and being controlled. That he’s cut everyone off, which is not true it’s only them two and I did not iniate the second one even the first one with her I said it’s okay if he wants to keep the friendship. But there were subtle bitchy remarks to me and now he wants to call her privately and talk about it. I’m scared he’s not going to stand up for me as he was also saying things like he’s thinking about it more rationally than me and that he feels like he has to take my side even when he wants to take hers. Am I insecure for not wanting him to privately call her? I need honest opinions