Romanticizing sindoor, mangalsutra,women centered festival's, in the name of love
So recently there was a festival celebrated in odisha called savitri, where the women fast for there husband and so did my mother. In the heat of summer, she had to woke up 4am, go to temple and do all this, just for a myth that my father would live long, like her hour of fasting would increase my father's life span.
When I questioned it, all I got know was, if something happens to your father if I don't do this, i wouldn't be able to live without this, I hope God takes me before your father so I prove to be a better wife.
Then there's this friend of mine romanticizing that, your mother or most mom's do it out of love, but do we realise that, our mother's never had the financial freedom to express there love different way, except cooking, cleaning taking care of house is so normalized to them by the previous generation, they can't think beyond it. How they just value there life on basis of these, if I don't starve myself I'm not a good wife.
Imagine they never saw this as a form of love from there mom's, would they still think the same, if this never existed in first place, there love would be lot different from this. They wouldn't be tied down to these shitty traditions and cultures.
Why the women should carry the burden so her husband lives long, why the value of another human life is subjected to someone's silent suffering that's romanticized??