I am 26M. I earn 8LPA.

I am a qualified lawyer and I am pursuing CS Finals. Once I clear CS finals my income will jump to 12 LPA plus.

My parents have a strong background. They own 3 flats in a tier 1 city and my dad's income is 1cr p.a.

I have a brother. He's studying in IISC Bangalore. He is sorted.

My parents are worrying that my income might not be enough for marriage and that we could be rejected by families due to my income. I don't know what to tell them tbh.

They are ready to give me a flat (like not name transfer or anything but my future wife and I can go live there rent free)

Some families have approached our family but again my mom is worried that they will reject me once they dig deep and look at my salary.

My job is AI proof. My Company won't fire people.

So what is my situation here? Am I cooked? Should I start preparing for a single life forever? What is the next move here?

Since childhood, my dad has been loving and loyal and provides whatever my mom asks for. He seems a lil emotionally dumb and usually struggles to verbally express his emotions, but I think whatever he does for her makes up for it. They have been married for about 23 years and have an age gap of 7 years.

Recently, I found out that my mom has been seeing a guy 15 years younger to her. I haven't let her know that I'm aware. She tells him that she absolutely loves him and that my dad doesn't care too much about her, that she's lwk scared of my dad (he's never been abusive in any way).
I have enough proof of her emotional infidelity but I have not been able to confront her about it. Now it seems like she's gathering her documents and soon will be going on an overnight trip with the boyfriend. Should I confront her? Should I tell my dad about this? And am I a bad person for violating my mom's privacy to find out what she was up to? Am I an asshole for being a bystander?

Edit: I simply don't know how to tell my mom that I violated her privacy based on a suspicion. And I have no idea about how I'm supposed to tell my father. I'm considering having a talk with my mother, but I know she'll never come clean to my dad and will ultimately manipulate me into shutting up too.

We are in 21st century but still why only men are called as providers. Women also earn and sometimes manage both the work and households.

Now don’t say coz women would only marry a man who is working. It is called preference and many men have to marry a non working woman so she can take care of the family while a lot want a working partner.

So why are we still calling only them as providers especially in marriage?

You all must have seen in which a men jumped from 43rd floor in Noida as he was very depressed due to 3 crore alimony for which he already paid 1 crore.

Sambhav Jain

- Software engineer
- Married in 2023
- Had a son
- Wife divorced him in 2025
- Asked for 3 crores in alimony
- He gave 1 crore

Worried about the remaining 2 crore payment

He took his own life by jumping from the 43rd floor in Noida

His last message was to his father - Papa, now you don't have to give money to anyone.

We’ve been together for 8 years, basically since we were teenagers, and we currently live together in a rented 2BHK with another couple.
I recently started working and I’m trying to become financially independent. I have a pretty big education loan that I pay every month. Between us, everything is 50/50. We literally use Splitwise even for small expenses.
He owns a car, and yes, I obviously benefit from having access to it. But I pay half the fuel. I obviously can’t contribute to his car EMI because I don’t earn enough to take on that expense.
Despite this, he repeatedly calls me a freeloader**.**
His argument is that he worked extremely hard growing up, went to one of the top colleges in the country, and now I get to “reap the benefits” of his hard work. He says he told me to study harder, but I didn’t, which is why I now have a mediocre job and an education loan.
And yes, I do get some benefits from him. For example, if I want to buy something but don’t have enough money upfront, he’ll pay for it and let me pay him back monthly with no extra charges. I get discounts through his credit cards, and sometimes he takes me to things like pickleball using benefits/reimbursements from his job. I’m not denying that I benefit from being with someone who earns more than me.
But I don’t understand how that makes me a freeloader when we split our actual household expenses equally from rent to groceries.
What bothers me most is that we’ve been together for 8 years. I never thought of our relationship as a constant calculation of who has benefited more from whom.
So I’m genuinely looking for some objective perspective
If someone split all shared expenses 50/50 with you, would you consider it fair to repeatedly call them a “freeloader”?

"Pata Hai Aaj Kya Hua"

So basically I'll cut to the chase ...so I'm doing an internship after mbbs and there's a girl ( pg) first year and we haven't talked that much only hi Hello..so few days back i texted her hi just to get to know her not in a romantic way but more like in a curious way ...she gave a compliment for my hair style and we only talked work related before i texted her hi after some days...as we started chating she mentioned that( don't call me boss call me didi) tho there was no age diff it's just that she was one year senior...now we switched to calling eachother by our names.

Milne ka plan bn raha tha kafi time se but we couldn't as she's on her duty from 8-8pm 12 hrs

And one day i did go to meet her but didn't as i thought I would disturb her . So she got lil sad and pissed ki mil hei leta aaaya tha toh ese chla kyu gya and all

Now the main part📈🚨...she suggested that we should talk as we basically never talked irl except work related.so she suggested a plan that she would get free from her duty by 8 pm and I pick her up from college ( 1 hr away btw) and just yea from 8pm -6/7 am just chilling..

I agreed to this but💀 now I'm thinking what would we even do the whole night..cuz it's not like jaipur is LA and has a night life like that...and obviously can't be in the car all the time... 7-8 hrs of what idk..and this is our first time meeting as friends

What do u guys think about this situation and about her plan ..

Girls share ur insights... would u guys have made a plan like this with a guy whom u are friends with ur slowly becoming friends with?

Are girls like this actually out there?

A female friend recently told me that I'm crazy after I described the kind of girl I'd ideally want to marry.

My preferences are roughly:

- Pretty/attractive

- Not overweight

- Decently educated

- Virgin

- Has never been to clubs

- Doesn't smoke

- Doesn't drink

- Preferably Rajasthani/Marwari/Gujarati/Sindhi

- No major personality disorders / serious emotional instability

- Less than 2 previous relationships

- Can cook occasionally (not expecting a maid lol)

About me:

- I smoke sometimes, although I don't drink or go clubbing

- 6'1"

- Decent physique — I have abs, but I'm not some fitness model

- I consider myself reasonably attractive

- Currently pursuing CA and should qualify around July next year

- Planning to do an MBA afterwards

- My long-term goal is basically to settle down and get married rather than casually date indefinitely

My friend thinks the combination of requirements is unrealistic and somewhat misogynistic, especially because I'm asking for things like virginity, relationship history, and lifestyle while I myself have smoked.

So I'm genuinely asking:

Am I being misogynistic here, or are these just personal preferences?

And more importantly, is it actually realistic to find a girl who fits most of these criteria? Especially in India among conservative/traditional families?

I'm not asking whether I deserve such a girl — I'm asking whether this demographic realistically exists and whether my expectations are unusually high.

Would appreciate honest answers, including criticism.

i want to get into dating , and im scared if i dont enter now , it might be too late , but im not financially stable yet .
i earn enough for one person , but i wont be able to spend on my woman much, so should i be getting into dating?? , is financial instability a turn off for women? not looking for marriage btw , just casual dating .
i would love spending on my partner but im not in that place rn.

I’m 21M, 6’2, reasonably good-looking, and in my last year of college. My last relationship ended about two years ago, and I haven’t been in anything serious since.
The weird part is that I genuinely don’t know what my dating life will look like after college. Right now, I keep seeing juniors and younger students getting into relationships with girls I’d consider way out of their league, while I’m just… single. 😭
I know comparison is probably toxic, but sometimes it genuinely gets to me. I’ll see some 18- or 19-year-old junior posting his gorgeous girlfriend and think:
**“Bro, what am I doing wrong?”**
It’s not that I desperately need a relationship. I’m focused on my own life—gym, college, career, and everything else. But there’s still this nagging fear that I’m missing out on the years when dating is supposed to be easiest.
Then there’s the whole “last year of college” thing. Once college ends, meeting people naturally seems like it’ll become much harder.
So, for guys who were single throughout college or went through a long dry spell:
**Did your dating life actually get better after college?**
And how do you stop feeling like you’re falling behind when everyone around you seems to be dating?

y do woman like to get flowers from their partner what's special in it..............i mean u just receive them and keep it aside.

My friend's parents went to her bf house for first conversation of marriage. Only the parents met as they both were kinda ready. During the meet the guy's mother said stuff like whatever you will give your daughter like ac, dressing table, bed etc would go to her room(in the in laws house). This many sarress., gold, silver is required in rituals and functions. She did mention they will also give gold jewellery to the girl. They ask her parents to bear all the marriage and engagement expenses.

Now her parents are not comfortable marrying their daughter in the family coz they are worried if they might have more demand in future. Although my friend did had a conversation to her bf to which he said his mother was just giving example it is not mandatory to give all the silver and gold in the functions. Even the mother of the guy also said that to my friend. But her parents are not ready for the marriage now.

My friend is confused if this is normal in marriage conversation or her parents concerns are genuine?

Delicate matter. So this guy I'm evaluating doesn't at all stay prim and proper. He dresses very casually which is okay but seemed like he couldn't care less about the way he looks. He makes no effort in looking prim and proper and seemed like he just pulled clothes out of a rack, didn't comb his hair and just arrived. If i have to say yes I would like my man to look sharp. Even if it's in Shorts and Tshirt. Not that he looks bad he just doesn't maintain himself.

Should I point this out? Or will it be too judgemental? How to handle such things?

Would you be comfortable with an app like this?

I’m building an app in India that connects people who want company for specific activities with people who are willing to spend time with them and get paid for their time.

For example, you could get paid to accompany someone for a movie, shopping, coffee, dinner, an event, exploring the city, playing a sport, or simply hanging out and talking.

It would be strictly non sexual. Both people would be 18+ and identity verified.

This would not be a random booking system. The person requesting company would have to clearly specify the activity, location, date and duration beforehand. During the meetup, live location tracking would be available for safety, along with reporting and emergency assistance.

I want to specifically hear from you guys:

Would you personally be willing to join something like this and get paid to spend time with someone you don't know?

What would make you feel safe enough to try it, and what would make you completely uncomfortable with the idea?

I’m looking for honest opinions, including criticism, before taking the idea further.

It feels that life is teaching me another lesson. I am going through a breakup where my bf left me to pursue his own ambitions. We could not find a middle ground to continue our relationship. I had dreams of setting up a home with him. He asks me what do you want, while he was wanting me to give away my stability of years. I spent this many years of relationship around him and lost people who i called friends. Everyone has got families. Unfortunately families dont even like to hang out with a single woman of 34 yrs old. I had to remove those friends as they hurted me and stopped inviting me after they got married and had family. I was never close to my own family and it feels to me for some of us, we are not bound to find love that stays. I am afraid that i will get bitter and become unlikeable. He is going to follow lifetime of opportunity (big dream), while i dont know what my dream is and what do i want from my life. TLDR: how do you move on in your 30s post breakup? How do you find your dream and ambition? Or rediscover yourself.

I've seen many feminists defend these dresses by saying that wearing them is a woman's personal choice. But I sometimes wonder how much of that choice is independent when someone has been taught from childhood that wearing them is good, respectable or necessary.

If you grow up seeing your mother, relatives and everyone around you wearing them, and you're taught from a young age that you should dress the same way, isn't that also a form of conditioning? I'm not saying every woman who wears a burkha is forced to wear it. Some genuinely like it. I'm just questioning how freely the choice is made.

I've seen this personally in college. Some women I met wore burkhas and told me their families had already started looking for rishtas and expected them to marry after college. Some even said they were allowed to attend college because they could wear religious clothing. At the same time, a few genuinely said they liked wearing it.

Later, in another college with a very different environment, I hardly saw anyone wearing a burkha. Most women had much more freedom in how they dressed, and I never really saw them expressing a particular liking for it. I mostly saw headscarves during religious or family occasions.

I've noticed something similar with ghunghat. It's quite rare in cities now, and I've mostly seen older women from certain communities wearing it.

So is it really okay to defend these dresses by saying, "It's a personal choice"? I genuinely don't understand how someone can live with these restrictions, go to college like that, and actually like it. Doesn't defending it as a "personal choice" sometimes go against the whole idea of feminism? If someone has been conditioned from childhood to see it as normal, how freely are they really choosing it?

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I’m a 26F and have been talking to a 28M for about three weeks through an arranged marriage setup. The problem is that whenever I ask him something, his answers tend to be very vague or generic. We’ve met once in person, but neither of us really opened up, so the conversation felt a bit awkward.

I’m also starting to feel like he’s simply telling me what he thinks I want to hear rather than sharing what he actually thinks.

How do I get past the surface-level conversations and have a more honest, meaningful discussion with him? Are there any questions or ways of approaching the conversation that can help me understand his actual personality, opinions, and expectations?

My father and I were coming from the clinic and were on our way to the medical store. That girl was walking towards us, probably going somewhere. At that time, I got a call from the clinic - the girl who had written down my name and number was calling me. She said that the main male doctor had forgotten to give me the syrup, so I told her that I was coming back.

The girl had already passed us, so my father and I turned around and headed back towards the clinic. The girl was now walking in front of us, while my father and I were behind her. We were simply going back to the clinic, but the girl seemed very scared and looked back twice.

I was wondering, “Why is she looking at me?” I didn’t do anything, and neither did my father.😭😭😭

PLEASE JUST ANSWER MY QUESTION, I AM NOT SUPPORTING ELON MUSK NOR ANYONE ELSE

I have always seen posts by people who call themselves feminists or woke and they say elon musk is wrong, idk they might be right but why so? I mean as much as i know he is co founder of spacex and tesla so he is promoting future technology and stuff, promoting use of alternatives to fossil fuels and is also credited as an inventor. So why is it so that he is hated? Do i not know some important context??

My girlfriend's one of the seniors has cracked one of the prestigious judicial exams for which she's also preparing. He joined the academy recently. Since then I feel like he's oversharing stuff to her like he sent his appointment/training letter to her and said I feel like crying. Then after joining there he said let's do a video call, I want to show you campus. Then today he shared some photos of goodies he got in the academy like laptop, etc. I get it that he's helping her in preparation but I don't feel good when he does this. He also knows that she's in a relationship with me and being a guy one should maintain bro-code is what I feel like.

Please give me your honest takes on this. Am i wrong here feeling a bit insecure? I also told this to my girlfriend too. She's saying he must be sharing with all of his friends but I think if he wants to motivate all his friends then post it on public story na. Why you want to share it on personal chats.