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Looking back at your casual hookups and fwb situations, do you regret them now and wish you hadn't done it?

How did you handle the emotional side of these encounters, did you ever have to deal with heavy complications like STIs or unplanned pregnancies/abortions?

How did these experiences impact your mental health and how do you view dating today?

Hi everyone,

I’m a solo female founder building a premium drinking chocolate brand in India.

Started as a very introverted person who was genuinely scared of sales calls, outreach, and putting myself out there. Now things are improving.

Been building the brand for the last few years across D2C, sampling, partnerships, operations, and everything in between.

Happy to answer anything honestly about building a business, being a woman founder, self-doubt, Reddit marketing, or figuring things out as you go. Excited to connect!

AMA 😄

So recently there was a festival celebrated in odisha called savitri, where the women fast for there husband and so did my mother. In the heat of summer, she had to woke up 4am, go to temple and do all this, just for a myth that my father would live long, like her hour of fasting would increase my father's life span.

When I questioned it, all I got know was, if something happens to your father if I don't do this, i wouldn't be able to live without this, I hope God takes me before your father so I prove to be a better wife.

Then there's this friend of mine romanticizing that, your mother or most mom's do it out of love, but do we realise that, our mother's never had the financial freedom to express there love different way, except cooking, cleaning taking care of house is so normalized to them by the previous generation, they can't think beyond it. How they just value there life on basis of these, if I don't starve myself I'm not a good wife.

Imagine they never saw this as a form of love from there mom's, would they still think the same, if this never existed in first place, there love would be lot different from this. They wouldn't be tied down to these shitty traditions and cultures.

Why the women should carry the burden so her husband lives long, why the value of another human life is subjected to someone's silent suffering that's romanticized??

Recently, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts where men accuse women of having relationships before marriage, going through breakups, and then supposedly “ruining a good man’s life” by bringing emotional baggage into marriage.

But I genuinely want to ask: do these same men not date? Do they not have girlfriends? And if they do, do they stay completely physical-free themselves?

And honestly, if men collectively believed that sex should happen only after marriage, then women would remain virgins too, wouldn’t they? It takes two people to make that decision.

What feels even more contradictory is seeing many men desperately searching for relationships, validation, hookups, or attention online — even using platforms like Reddit as dating spaces — while simultaneously preaching about “purity” and “traditional values” when it comes to women.

The double standards are exhausting.

i have seen many left handed guys but not so much left handed girls

what issues do yall face i have heard that left handed people are wayy more likely to experience injuries

Ok, So i get ki SABKI APNI CHOICES HAI

But since I Never really cared about Looks that much

I was reading a post on AIW and a girl shared her longg skin care, hair care routine.

GIRLIESSS IS IT REALLY WORTH SPENDING SO MUCH TIME AND MIND TO DO THIS DAILY !!??

Dont you think ki LIFE ME LOOKS SE ZYADA MATTER KARNE WAALI AUR BOHOT SAARI CHEEZE HAIN !!????

Like a tried approaching random girls some gave their socials but it was mostly dry, so what do you actually look for in the guy or is it just creepy.

I have seen mostly men are with gfs in Bellandur green glen area. How did they met?

“What do they mean? Explain it to me in this situation or case.”

It is a disease and really harmful for our country. We were supposed to be the progressive generation. Still we follow old traditions. Some women are slain by these greedy psychopaths.

Everybody is attracted to hot people regardless of gender but average men are also attracted to average looking women.

Want to know are average women of India Physically attracted to average looking man of India of average height (5'4-5'7)?

In Islam, Mahr is the mandatory bride's wealth (money or possessions) given by the groom to the bride in a marriage contract.

There is no dowry in Islam and I think it's good for women.

Hi guys, give me advice on boundaries & communication in my first long-distance relationship. I don’t know how to make it work.

Hey ladies and gentlewoman of this subreddit, I am a 20 year old guy who likes to play multiplayer video games like Call of Duty and similar stuff in my free time. It acts like a good break between my studies, and is a way better alternative than doomscrolling on Instagram reels.

I have made quite a lot of friends with whom I play Multiplayer in lobbies on a regular basis. Some of the are girls of my age who are American or European, and damn, their gameplay is like a literal tank 💀

I mean, they literally play way better than me and I always ask them out for advices on how to improve my aim, or build loadouts for my guns. I share a good rapport with them overall.

So yeah, coming back to my question, why don't I see much Indian girls or women in gaming? I am sure y'all have way better patience and are gonna do great with the hand eye coordination for amazing gameplay.

I do know a couple of juniors who are into Valo and LoL. And yeah, any kind of games. Story Oriented, anything 💪🏻

If you are into gaming, lemme know what you love!

My boyfriend and I dated for a year, and honestly, it was beautiful for a long time. He was genuinely an amazing man — patient, caring, emotionally available, and he loved me deeply. The problem is, I entered the relationship carrying a lot of emotional baggage and instability that I knew I hadn’t healed from yet. I actually didn’t want to date anyone until I worked through those issues, but I fell in love with him anyway.

Over time, my insecurities and low self-esteem started affecting the relationship badly. I became emotionally dependent on him, needed constant reassurance, overthought small things, and turned minor issues into huge conflicts. He tried so hard to help me through it all. He reassured me, stayed during my panic attacks, listened to me, supported me through breakdowns — but eventually, nothing he did ever felt “enough” to calm my fears.

I hate admitting this, but I was mean and rude at times. I hurt him emotionally during fights. And while I never intentionally wanted to damage him, my unresolved patterns kept showing up again and again. Every time we fought, I’d promise I’d work on myself — and I genuinely was trying. I started becoming more self-aware, even sought professional help, but healing wasn’t happening overnight, and the same unhealthy cycles kept repeating.

At some point, I think he just emotionally burned out. The patience and softness he once had slowly turned into anger and frustration. He started saying things like “something in me has changed” and that he doesn’t see me the same way anymore. He even admitted maybe his love had changed somewhere along the way.

That completely shattered me, but I still wanted to save the relationship. I suggested taking a break instead of fully ending things, hoping maybe space and healing could help us reconnect later, but he said he had already thought about it and was sure he didn’t want that.

The breakup itself got really ugly. I begged him to stay multiple times because I couldn’t accept losing him. During those moments, he said some extremely hurtful things to me out of anger, including “even if you die, I don’t care.” I know those words came from exhaustion and resentment after everything, but they still broke me deeply.

Now I’m stuck between grief, guilt, regret, and heartbreak. I know I contributed heavily to the downfall of the relationship, and that’s what hurts the most. It’s painful realizing you hurt someone who genuinely loved you with his whole heart. I don’t even blame him for leaving anymore. Part of me understands why he did.

But I can’t stop mourning the fact that someone who once loved me so deeply eventually fell out of love because of the damage caused by my own unresolved issues.

TL;DR:
I entered a relationship with unresolved emotional baggage and low self-esteem. My insecurities, emotional dependence, and unhealthy conflict patterns slowly damaged an otherwise loving relationship. My boyfriend tried for a long time, but eventually emotionally burned out and fell out of love. We broke up after repeated toxic fights, and now I’m struggling with overwhelming guilt, regret, and heartbreak over hurting someone who genuinely loved me deeply.

I've been in relationship with my boyfriend since 2 years .

I caught him emotionally cheating on me a month ago . He was flirting with another girl (from his gym ) in dms . I only saw 2 screenshots where she was sending him inappropriate videos and he was asking for more . It had a flirtatious tone. He was literally hiding his phone from me and when I asked for it , he straight up refused.

I confronted him about it. He told me that yes there was this girl that he was attracted to from his gym. She slid into his dms and he responded but there was no serious relationship. He told me that he only loved me. All he had for that girl was lust . It was just harmless flirting he added .

He admits to emotional cheating and apologises but kinda laid blame on that girl entirely .

I asked him to show me the entire chat , he refused in a loud manner . I asked a 1000 times but no. Reason: he was embarrassed...

So I asked him to block her at that moment. He denied stating that the girl will madly follow him in the gym if he did that . He would have to give her an explanation before he finally cuts her off from his life permanently .

However he promised me he would discuss about this later and would give me an explanation .

But no .... instead he deleted everything behind my back and avoided any type of confrontation on this topic for a month . I wanted him to initiate the conversation but he acted like nothing happened. He visited my place for 5 consecutive days but said nothing about it.

I will also add that almost a year ago , this boyfriend of mine was searching ways to text that same girl . I accidentally opened his search history and it was " HOW DO I TEXT A GIRL FROM MY GYM WHEN SHE KNOWS I LIKE HER " and " THERE IS NO INTERACTION EXCEPT EYE CONTACT BETWEEN US" . I forgave him as he explained that he was just making situations in his head .

He played victim card and reminded me of my past mistakes when I told him about breakup. He insisted his rights on me.

After a month , I felt bad and decided to forgive him .

We are back together but I often find myself seething with anger whenever I think about this .

I forgave him because he is overall a good person . Kind , supportive , loving .. i know its sounds weird that im praising him ...

I believe 1 mistake doesn't define his whole personality but still this small thing hurts so much . I want to move on but I just can't...

While I was teaching to Class 8, the classroom was completely silent. Suddenly, three girls called me over and told me that one of the boys had been making vulgar gestures toward them. Since I was walking through the aisles while teaching, the boy cleverly waited until I passed by his bench to make those signals, which is why I did not notice it immediately even though I was nearby. The gestures were so inappropriate that the girls themselves felt ashamed to demonstrate them in front of the class.

I then asked the girls to identify the boy and called him outside the classroom.I firmly punished him for his behavior and made it clear that such vulgar and disrespectful conduct toward classmates would never be tolerated, and gave him a serious lecture about respect, dignity, and the importance of treating every classmate , whether boy or girl , with the same respect one would show to members of one’s own family. I was deeply angered and disappointed by his behavior, especially because such actions can make classmates feel unsafe and humiliated.

What more could i have done?? And where is the kids of this generation heading towards??

Has anyone tried the sassy thing dtf Lube?

I am looking for non-sticky ones. I hve heard this one has no scent or flavour and is good.

Has anyone used it? Any reccos?

it is like this right?

According to you what is the reason behind it?
Is it a less conversation?
Hesitation?
Or something else?

Hi we are right now I am 27[M] my gf is 22 [F]. I am belongs to OC community and she is belongs to BC community. I don't have any problem with her community.

We are Telugu Guys from Andhra Pradesh. I am in Hyderabad searching for IT Job. She was in Ahemdabad. She went to Ahmedabad for studies.

I will tell what was happened and happening on time line basis. Like chronological order..

18.12.2022 - We met first time on Instagram. She said I am MBBS student Right now I am In Ahmedabad my age is 21. We share some information on conversations. It's kind of long distance relationship.

We made calls and chatted for around 6 months.

March 2023 - i moved from my home town to Hyderabad for software Coaching.

31.5.2023 - she had summer holidays. Thats why she is going to her Home town. On the way, she came to Hyderabad. I booked flight ticket from Ahmedabad to Hyderabad with my money. We spend around 2 days in Hyderabad. Then she went to Her home town.

17. 6.2023 - she is return back to her college. On the way she came to Hyderabad. She bought UPSC books to prepare for UPSC exams. Together We stayed around 1 week in Hyderabad. Then she went to college.

15.10. 2023 - she again came to Hyderabad by flight. We stayed and spend some time in Hyderabad. Then she went to Ahemdabad.

Her parents didn't know about her Hyderabad trips.

18.12.2023 - on this date, she was in Ahemdabad and she said to me a fact she was engaged to another man Ravi that Engagment was happened in March 2022. I don't know about her engagement till December 2023.She said like my parents were forced me that's why I said ok to Engagment but I never liked Ravi. I don't have interest on him. Even He didn't have Job or income source at that Engagment time. By the time Ravi age around 28[M]. She is 18[F]. Now he is 32[M], she is 22[F]. They Both are belongs to same village.

She said some other things to me.

I am not a MBBS student. I am B.SC degree student.

Her parents doesn't know about her education clearly.

In June 2022 - I(she) said to my parents like i got a MBBS admission in Ahmedabad. Thats why I am going to pursue my studies in Ahemdabad. She convinced her parents. So then her parents joined her in Ahemdabad college. At the time of admission She said her problem to that addmissioner and managed there. Her parents believes like our daughter pursuing MBBS but actually she is studying B.SC Degree.

I asked her about all these things on 18.12.2023... She said like If I stay in my home Town, definitely my parents are going to marry me off to him. To came out from home & to avoid marriage I said i got MBBS seat in Ahmedabad. She said Ravi got a private job His salary would be like 15k or 16k in 2022.

2023 - I (me) attended to multiple interviews but I didn't get a job in IT sector. Then I changed my mind .

February - August 2024 - she made and earns around 2 laks by doing network marketing

From April - September 2024 - I got a job in sales department. 5 months i did the job. After i resigned to it.

June 2024- she came to Hyderabad..then we went to tirupati trip.

October 2024- in October 2024, she got a Credit card from a bank. We used it for our personal expenses.

December 2024 - she said to her parents like i am going to do internship in Hyderabad for 3 months. They said ok.

2024 - she came to Hyderabad multiple times by flight. We traveled and satyed together. She helped me if I don't have money.she helped me lot of times. But her parents didn't know about her travellings or college Leaves.

Ravi often talks to my GF. May be once or twice in a month he had conversation with my GF.

This year, too, has passed away. Meanwhile College holidays time, she went to her home town.. there her relatives and village neighbours asked her or her parents about marriage. They( her parents ) said like after completion of Her education they gonne Marry to her with Ravi.

January 2025 - she came to Hyderabad for internship. stayed in pg. After 1 month she went back to her college.

April 2025 - Her grand mother was died.

May 2025 - Her final year exams were completed. But she stayed in college till June ending.

June 2025 - we had discussion related what is next. She said I stay here (ahemdabad ) only.then i asked her what would you do over there after completion of education. Then I said another thing. Come to Hyderabad learn a skill ( in coaching institute), then we will search for a Job in IT sector.

July 2025 - she came to Hyderabad joined in PG. I am staying with my friends in our flat. We both are not living together. We stayed separately. Her parents didn't know about she was moved to Hyderabad. Her parents thought that she is in Ahmedabad. In July we ( me, my GF) went to Munnar trip. Then we came back from trip.

August 2025 - she got a another Credit card from bank. Aftet trip she never join in any institute to learn skill. So then she tried for non IT jobs. After 2 or 3 interview attempts, she said like i don't like this environment. So I don't have interest to do this kind of jobs. Then I asked her what would gonna do. She said like i will prepare for UPSC exams.

in this month One strange and import thing was happened this month. My Gf's grandfather made an allegation on Her mother(mf gf mom) & Ravi( my Gf s fiance) like my gf mother has extramarital affair with Ravi. I don't know why he (mf GF grandfather) made that allegation on them. No major conflict took place at that time. After this issue happened, still marriage was not cancelled.

September 2025 - So then I suggested her.. ok do one thing. My friend's sister is preparing for UPSC exams in Hyderabad. I said to her(my Gf) like i will talk to my friend, so you(my gf) have to meet her(my frnd sister) and have conversation, stay for few weeks or months with her And observe things like about syllabus, prepration, exams etc. what was happened, she(my gf) never met her didn't get anything from her( my frnd sister) about UPSC. I suggested her another thing, go to near study room.. there prepare for UPSC. But She did nothing related to UPSC.

December 2025 - in this month she went to her college for convocation. But we both don't have money. So she took a loan from an app. I am paying it's emi every month.

2025 - From September onwards, I paid her hostel fees. I padi charges for the rotation of credit cards. every month I paid her EMIs.

This year, too, has passed away. Ravi knows about her ( my Gf) education like she is not studying MBBS, she is pursuing B.SC. but he(Ravi) never tells to her(my gf) parents. He(Ravi) never build a communication or relationship with my GF. Ravi often talks to my GF. May be once in a month he had conversation with my GF in mobile calls.

April 2026 - My Gf went to her home town. She stayed around 1 month over there. In this month her parents told to her (my gf), Next March 2027, we will get you and Ravi married. One day, Ravi andy My Gf went to outside for casual talk. There she said NO to Ravi , I(my Gf) am not gonna marry you . Till now he(Ravi) never responded on the marriage topic.

May 2026 - my gf came back to Hyderabad. We had conversation and discussions. Now she wants to move to Delhi for UPSC exams preparation. Till now she never prepared for UPSC EXAMS. Not even single book was completed or revised.

Till now her parents believe she(my Gf) is studying MBBS. After completion of MBBS, she is going to prepare for NEET- PG exam. She is going to take money for NEET-PG coaching from her parents but actually she is going to prepare for UPSC.

I said to her don't make mistakes one after another. Go and tell to your parents about what was happened. But she never wants to tell to her parents.

She(my gf) said I will marry you(me) only Not Ravi. But she asks me like i need some time to marry you. I will prepare for UPSC. If I select or got a job in UPSC, then it is easy thing to convince my parents to marry you(me). She said, Right now I don't want marriage.

From September 2025 to till date.. around i spent 4,00,000 to 4,50,000. It includes my expenses as well as her expenses like Hostel feels , EMI, monthly pocket money etc...

Now.. She needs around 4 to 4.5 laks for UPSC coaching in delhi. Her dad is going to give around 2 laks for coaching (her dad knows she is going to preparing for NEET-PG not a UPSC). Now she asking me around 2 to 2.5 laks for UPSC coaching in Delhi.

I am planning to establish a business. Still I am struggling. I don't have Job.

Some what my Gfs financial condition is better than me. She is financially stronger than me.

So

Now what options do I have right now. What would I do now. Give me suggestion.

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